dafras Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I have been dating this girl for nearly 4 months now. When we originally started dating she actually had a boyfriend but they were in an open relationship (i know its weird). Anyway about 2 months ago she broke up with him (they dated for nearly 3 years) and now we are exclusive. She was showing me a text from a friend and without realizing it she had shown me one saying something along the lines of "Honestly, I still miss my ex sometimes." Should I be concerned about this? I know she would never go back to him but Im not sure exactly how I should be feeling. I almost feel like I should be enough for her to not even need to miss her ex. Ive never been in a long term relationship so I don't really know how it feels to break up like she did and Im not sure how to respond appropriately. Thank you for any advice
Omei Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 its normal to miss an ex, memories dont vanish from a persons mind but as you stated you're positive she won't go back my guess is then you trust her. I would just leave it at that and not worry about it at all.
Gaeta Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Here's the thing. You and her started a relationship before she had time to mourn the end of her relationship with him. If you accepted to date someone that was still in an relationship (open or not) then you have to accept they will go through that mourning process while with you. 4 months out of a 3 year relationship isn't long. My suggestion to you is to take it a day at a time and don't get attached too quick. She is on the rebound. Doesn't mean she will use you to discard you after but it means she is emotionally fragile and is processing the loss of someone. Once she is pass that phase she may realize you're really the guy she wants to be with or she may realize she is fine now to fly on her own for a while.
David87 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) There's no need to worry because it's perfectly normal to miss her ex-boyfriend, especially if she just broke up with him. Edited March 5, 2014 by David87
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Dont worry its normal... I still miss mine but I would never have him back.. its just memories x
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