Purepony Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I kicked out my ex at 3 in the morning when I found out she was cheating, about 2 or 3 weeks later I find out she left me for a short pudgy dark stubby guy. I wont lie it felt good to know she couldnt do better but at the same time i felt bad because everything she said she didnt like in a guy he had. They're still together it's almost going to be 2 years but he only got fatter and i know he beat her but oh well... it was her choice to stay. Whats your story? Do you think your ex did better or worse? How did you feel after finding out? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Have no clue and I really don't care either way. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Misfortune Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 it's all subjective. Downgrade for you could be an upgrade in their eyes, which equates to them considering you to be worse than the person you believe you're better than. Everyone convinces themselves of whatever they need to make themselves feel better. In the end, it doesn't matter unless you're looking to boost your ego or waste time thinking about their life without you. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 No idea, because i am a pupil of NC and never, ever, break it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I think mine downgraded in his eyes because he tells me that he loves me still and that he dreams about me and a bunch of other TMI and I'm just glad he's gone Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 hink mine downgraded in his eyes because he tells me that he loves me still and that he dreams about me and a bunch of other TMI and I'm just glad he's gone First LTR ex has a guy that looks like me if a had a beard. I got gigs with her and overlapped five years ago so whatever happened after that is better than what I deserve. Second LTR ex found a new guy about a month after bu. I thought it won't last but they are happy as I gather. I wish her all the happiness in the world. She was so cute my family adored her. Albeit I never loved her. If love is rational, I'd be married with childto her. Last ex... Check my thread. Drinks, smokes, hangs with lowlifes, only woman I know which was harassed for sex by heremplo yer, doesn't care about self development... I don't know. Maybe I wasn't much of a prospect when she was with me but I know at leastmy pplace under the sun now. Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 In the case of my xh, see due to us having children together. Both gf's he has had since we divorced in my opinion are total downgrades if you go by the looks. Granted, he likes them so what do I care. I just know i look better than them and it makes me smile. Link to post Share on other sites
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 My ex-girlfriend is a beautiful woman who is selfish and full of herself. She can get any man she wanted to. Do I know if she upgraded or downgraded? No. She's not a part of my life. Why should I care? It's useless knowledge. I hope she upgraded because if she broke my heart and ends up with someone worse off than I was, then all of the pain I've felt would've been for nothing! She DAMN WELL better have got something better! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Elias33 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Don't know, don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
StyleOnEm Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I think the wrong word is being used in this thread. It's not her finding someone "better" than you. It's her finding someone more compatible than you. Honestly, I don't even care. It's her life that she has to worry about, I'm just doing me and making sure *I* find someone more compatible. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr me to Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 My ex-girlfriend is a beautiful woman who is selfish and full of herself. She can get any man she wanted to. Do I know if she upgraded or downgraded? No. She's not a part of my life. Why should I care? It's useless knowledge. I hope she upgraded because if she broke my heart and ends up with someone worse off than I was, then all of the pain I've felt would've been for nothing! She DAMN WELL better have got something better! SNAP!!! Any man she wanted yet she chose a friend of mine. Someone who's lifestyle she was against someone who she believed to be immature and irresponsible, someone she thought was a negative influence. Oh the Irony. So upgraded or downgraded not sure but someone who lives the lifestyle I used to live before I settled down and accepted family responsibilities ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Purepony Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Confused human bean that wasn't the point of the thread... at the end of the day nothing really matters but This is a public forum and I was just trying to open a discussion. . Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I would state, in the cold light of day, that the guy my exW moved on to, and remains with nearly four years later, was indeed an upgrade. He was completely unfettered by other attentions (I was doing EOL care at the time) and financially, at the time anyway, more viable and he's demonstrated good handyman skills to take care of the house I provided her with. I'd say she did pretty well. I've left women behind for the time-being so really don't have any dogs in the fight so can look at results in a dispassionate manner. Time and perspective affords that. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Gemini x Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 This thread makes me want to bawl my eyes out. I'm fresh BU, with contact just 2 days ago and the thought of what he's possibly with, or will end up with, is too much for me. It makes me want to throw up. As of right now, it's one of the worst thoughts I've ever had. It doesn't matter what I "imagine" her to look like in my mind, just the fact he'll be making love to someone else kills me. God, this hurts. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Mine upgraded. Very gorgeous lovely girls. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarpea Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) I kicked out my ex at 3 in the morning when I found out she was cheating, about 2 or 3 weeks later I find out she left me for a short pudgy dark stubby guy. I wont lie it felt good to know she couldnt do better but at the same time i felt bad because everything she said she didnt like in a guy he had. They're still together it's almost going to be 2 years but he only got fatter and i know he beat her but oh well... it was her choice to stay. Whats your story? Do you think your ex did better or worse? How did you feel after finding out? I find this really interesting, my ex did exactly the same he's out with a girl who is way younger than me, and he had a problem when we were together with me being id'd and him feeling like a paedo for it, she's ginger which he used to make fun of and was long distance which he would never have done for me. It's going on 5 months now. But just weird. I would say he downgraded because he is out with a little girl who loves vampire teenage flicks and all that other girly pink crap. Also it's not like she's got a better job than I do, she's younger than me - she doesn't even have a degree yet. Her gene's are worse, she has family with genetic conditions. She's actually more self-conscious than I am or narcissistic, although I think he thinks she's confident - no one puts that many photos of themselves up on the internet and posing in a bikini - no background plain old posing just for the camera for all the guys to see online and tags the picture with pretty, and sexy and cute etc. Who does that? Edited February 8, 2014 by sugarpea Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) The ones i had a bad relationship with, i refuse to keep tabs on ... i suspect downgraded because what they had going for them was the fact that they were girls and they looked reasonably ok, and those things taper off after a certain age. Of the 2 that i know of, one downgraded ... but she had some problems in retrospect. My last gf, well ... i hate to say this but she upgraded. When we dated she was in a much better place [career wise but also physically/mentally] than i was and long term it showed. Doesn't bother me though, mostly because our relationship at the time would not have worked anyway [i had major problems], and even if i was in a better place for the relationship, we had differences in how we viewed things that would not have worked long term. Thinking about this, i have to add one thing. It would bother me if the ones i don't keep tabs on had upgraded ... i don't think they deserved it. But the other ones, it doesn't bother me even if they won the lottery and got married to a prince; they were not what i would consider 'bad ppl'. Edited February 8, 2014 by Radu Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 It's impossible to upgrade from me. I feel bad for my ex, she gave up the best man she'll ever have. But it doesn't really matter either way. She is still single and even if she wasn't she can be with whoever she'd like, just like I can. The beauty of being single. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
faithfully Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Don't know, don't care. Snap- not interested if he upgrading or downgrade. Cudnt give 2 flying f@#k what hes doing 2 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 happy to report that 6 months post-breakup I don't know and don't care and hope I never find out what he is doing or who he's doing it with. but the man was a certified fool - I was a major catch, so anyone would be a downgrade :-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest572 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I dont know but it didnt last long before he came crawling back. Link to post Share on other sites
Blastoplast Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Don't know what she's up to these days, but I know I've upgraded from her and that's all that matters -- better personality, charisma, looks, sex drive and best of all for me: responsibility! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Don't know, don't want to know. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
rec88 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 In my humble but correct opinion, my ex could only have gone downhill from me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 It doesn't matter, nor do I care, what any of my ex-girlfriends had after me. What matters is when I broke up with them, it instantly became better for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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