ain5053 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I have an amazing boyfriend. We lived together. We are the bestest of friends and love each other unconditionally. We constantly tell each other we will spend the rest of our lives together, he told me several times he wants to marry me. Recently I had to move out for a job opportunity. I work in the film/video game industry. And the way it is looking, I will constantly be relocating to different places in the world for several years - that's just the career path I chose. He, on the other hand, is an engineer. Yes, he can always move where I am, but I will not have a "permanent" place until further in my career and his job is not one where he can constantly move around. I am worried long distance will affect our relationship. It already is. The last year and a half I have been with him every single day and night, and now not seeing him there are immediately negative emotions and thoughts in my mind. I really want to maintain our relationship.. Any suggestions?
justwhoiam Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 How often will you be able to see him per year? How old are you both? How long would you be LD? And how long have you been LD now? It looks like you already are on the emotional roller coaster. To make it work long-term (assuming you'd be LD for a bunch of years), you both need to be on the same wavelength (and that might end soon or later), flexible, patient, understanding, real givers and willing to endure anything. Of course communication must be constant/steadfast, and not sink into routine/boredom.
Author ain5053 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 I am 22 and he is 27. We both just got new jobs in completely different parts of the country. I am willing to see him as much as I can, and do whatever it takes. He is not. He is having doubts. He wants to break up. He is scared. We've only been apart for 2 weeks.
soccerrprp Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I am 22 and he is 27. We both just got new jobs in completely different parts of the country. I am willing to see him as much as I can, and do whatever it takes. He is not. He is having doubts. He wants to break up. He is scared. We've only been apart for 2 weeks. All of this spells doom. It really is unreasonable for someone to wait for someone who is going to move around for YEARS. LDR are tough enough, but all of this is too much.
Author ain5053 Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 Thank you for your responses... My situation has progressed and I started a new topic in the "breakup" section.. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/458391-i-am-broken-boyfriend-breaks-up-because-i-have-move-away-job
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