David-H Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Broke up with my ex of about 4 months 2 months ago, she was still hung up over her past very long relationship, I was going too fast. She initiated the break up and it was a long distance relationship so no contact was easy I suppose. I took her off facebook and went NC. She texted me about a week ago and I have not responded... yet. To sum up she basically said: 'how are you?... Sorry for not explaining my feelings properly and not for contacting sooner, felt it was easier for both of us just doing it this way.... was due to my issues from past relationship that I could not move forward with you, sorry for putting you in this situation... I am not in a new relationship now.... what ever is meant to be is just supposed to be this way.... hope to see you next year.' The text is pretty all over the place I think but just not sure whether to get in touch or not and what I should say? Yes I would probably want to get back and have another chance with her. I was basically the one doing most of the running initially and she pulled away a lot, so I know I have to now do the opposite... Should I get in touch? If so what do I say and what do I not say?
Philosoraptor Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Sounds like she's trying to relieve her guilt or is simply lonely. I wouldn't respond unless you're fully 100% over the relationship and have zero feelings for her that are greater than friendship. 1
barky2 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 It's a feeler text. Just to see if you're still on the line. Don't be surprised if this is the start to many. Ignore it. If you respond I'll bet she won't respond back to your message Just stupid games they play. Barky 1
MrMeh Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 You already tried to carry her. It's her turn to carry herself. 1
Chi townD Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Dude, re-read the text. It's just a text reaffirming that her decision in dumping you was the right one for her. Why would you need to respond to that? Ignore it and move on. 1
Author David-H Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Thanks guys... My head agrees with you... I think it is purely wishful thinking on my part that if I text back she might start to get interested again... but on the other hand I would love to have another chance again as I have learnt so much from my mistakes. If I text back and got nothing would it not be better to find that out at the expense of a little pride, rather than look back in a few years and think what if? That is the question in my head, living with a bit more of a dented ego which I know will pass, or always looking back with a little regret.... Or is that just me looking for an excuse?
Am4Real Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Let me guess it came in late at night...call it a DRUNK TEXT because that's the way it reads. Are you committed to your healing or tempted to respond? Not sure? Read this: LINK Broke up with my ex of about 4 months 2 months ago, she was still hung up over her past very long relationship, I was going too fast. She initiated the break up and it was a long distance relationship so no contact was easy I suppose. I took her off facebook and went NC. She texted me about a week ago and I have not responded... yet. To sum up she basically said: 'how are you?... Sorry for not explaining my feelings properly and not for contacting sooner, felt it was easier for both of us just doing it this way.... was due to my issues from past relationship that I could not move forward with you, sorry for putting you in this situation... I am not in a new relationship now.... what ever is meant to be is just supposed to be this way.... hope to see you next year.' The text is pretty all over the place I think but just not sure whether to get in touch or not and what I should say? Yes I would probably want to get back and have another chance with her. I was basically the one doing most of the running initially and she pulled away a lot, so I know I have to now do the opposite... Should I get in touch? If so what do I say and what do I not say?
Author David-H Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Let me guess it came in late at night...call it a DRUNK TEXT because that's the way it reads. Are you committed to your healing or tempted to respond? Not sure? Read this: LINK Thanks. Yeah it did come in late, but she's not the type, she is stupidly confident and independent so this will have been sent drunk or not. You are so right with the link though, I am not committed, I still think the relationship is possible.... Maybe stupidly.
Ladiixmk Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yeah man, it just seems as though she feels a little guilty but just wants to see if you're on the line. She's playing games. Don't respond to that text.
Chi townD Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 If I text back and got nothing would it not be better to find that out at the expense of a little pride, rather than look back in a few years and think what if? That is the question in my head, living with a bit more of a dented ego which I know will pass, or always looking back with a little regret.... Or is that just me looking for an excuse? If you go completely NC and start making positive changes in your life. Sooner or later, you'll get to the feeling of indifference. Then, you'll never have to worry about "What if". You'll be saying, "Who cares!"
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