doramam Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 Hi, My boyfriend (now ex) and I have had a rather turbulent past. We have been together for 1 1/12 years and lived together since march. He broke up with me on Thursday after I started an arguement and then we decided to see how it goes over xmas only for him to break jp with me last night. Im absolutely distraught. I dont know what to do with myself. I let him, our home and our pets become my life and I just dont know if i can lose that. We were getting on well and made plans for the future, i bought a car last week that i now cant afford if im on my own. If i sell it, il be £4000 down as it was new. Im completely stuck. I desperately dont want to split up. Im devestated. How am i going to get over this? I know its nearly all my fault. I have been in self destruct mode because i have no self esteem. I have always been cheated on and i have never felt good enough. When i look back, he couldnt have tried harder to show me what i meant to him and ive literally just thrown that in his face. When this happened before, it shook me up and i promised him that id change and he took me back. Hes never going to believe me again is he? I cant cope with this. He works in the same place as me but his shift crosses with mine. Ive been quiet but managing to hide it all shift until hes just come in and come over to me accusing me of damaging some of his property in purpose (no idea what hes on about). Seriously, what can i do? I cant go on like this. Please, someone help me Link to post Share on other sites
legion113 Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 I think you need to get your self esteem back somehow. You're blaming yourself for everything? One thing in life is certain, you will always be by your side. Boyfriends come and go, husbands, even family, but you ALWAYS have you. Time to put your boots on and climb out of this mess you've made, no one else can do it for you. Have faith in yourself, believe in yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
jennysuzie Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 I think we are in a similar boat.............you are not alone. Its cheesy but you will never have a successful, fulfilling relationship with someone else until you have one with yourself. You need to focus on you for a while and work out how to value yourself. You need to take a step back from this relationship and work on whats going wrong with you. You might find getting through this breakup is what it takes to make you the person you want to be. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes things have to fall apart so they can be rebuilt stronger than before. Link to post Share on other sites
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