Hit me (or rather, um, him) with your best shot! Fire away.

[AnyaNova]

Okay.

 

Clearly, as long as the doctor who does the vitamin b shots that keep my mood stable, my eye whites, you know, white, me happy and productive and blissfully working my ass off is only in at certain times on certain days, I am going to be subject to these B vitamin crashes.

 

So.

 

I am asking for two things.

 

1) Because my charming brain needs a charming reason for everything that happens in my life, and in me, it always casts about for a reason for the crash depression, and I guess my ex makes a great reason du jour getaway spot, I am asking for things about my situation and my ex that I can repeat to myself to remind myself why it would never work, or why I am better off without him. Whether it be a phrase like aspiringguitarherione's "epic tool" (which, my ex really wasn't one, but you get the drift) or "dodged a major family dysfunction bullet" or a list of reasons why it wouldn't have worked out or how I am actually happier or things in the future to look forward to, I will leave it to your brilliant imaginations! And you guys do have them. In spades. I've seen your posts, don't try to deny it!

 

This one will be easiest for people who know my situation, but I will post a link to the description (in a brilliant analysis, though, one guy deeply familiar with attachment issues called it, and said that my ex probably had massive and deep ones and that was probably the real driver (this is for those of you who don't know my story, read over it, and ask yourself, as I found myself many times in the days following, WTF????)

 

and

 

2) If you guys have any other strategies for how to counteract or whatever the B vitamin depression miss-Tim mope. Now, unfortunately, it takes me to a state of depression that is not possible to distract myself away from per se--but if I'm going to be sad, I'm sick of it being sad over someone who left me with that jedi mind **** and refused to answer any questions or respond to anything about it to help me understand anything--so if you have any ideas on how to wrench my thoughts away and find a way to be sad about something else for awhile!

 

So the link to my relational end is below, for those of you who might not be aware of what brought me here in the first place.

 

Any phrases, mantras, thoughts, strategies would be appreciated so that I can find a new target for "the sadz" of the vitamin deficient thing.

 

I don't know how much I can reiterate that when my B levels are high, and the shots are fresh, I am over my ex. Completely. Like, several continents over. If he came back and said he'd been doing major therapy for attachment/family issues and wanted to give it another try, perhaps I'd be game (but this is me in a b vitamin deficient state saying that...) but when they're good, I am just fine. Ex or no.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/428642-what-happened-i-don-t-understand

[Never Again]

I'm trying to come up with something, but struggling to get past Past Benatar.

 

Love is a battlefield.

 

Or something.

 

Is there any way to stabilize yer vit-er-mans?

[L1ght]

You are way too analytical a woman for me to even dream about attempting to give you advice on how to control your fluctuating state of mind. If you want me to be honest though then I would say that you're simply not trying hard enough......I mean you are consistently blaming B-vitamins for every single slip of mental weakness you have to the point where it just sounds like an excuse to obsess about your ex.

Now don't take this personal, I have nothing against you and you actually seem like an nice kinda girl but IMO you just need to work harder to think about other things in life instead of focusing all your energies on the memories of your ex everytime you have a vitaminB issue. The mind is an incredibly powerful tool and if you really wanna get serious about shifting your thought patterns to something more positive then go ahead and do it instead of wallowing in the hole you find yourself in right now.