Nanners Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Before you read what happened please read how the breakup happened to get a better understanding on my situation: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/440679-will-she-ever-get-contact-me Today my best friend wanted to go to a grocery store to get some random stuff. The grocery store is where my ex works. I just assumed she wasn't working today so I decided to tag along to see friends that work their. It was nice catch up with friends that I haven't seen in awhile at the store. Now the fun part. We got in line to check out. I happened to look over to the next lane and saw my ex working the register. I smiled at her but I got the meanest look I have ever seen a women give. I quickly looked down and pulled my phone out. A few seconds later my friend nudge me and said " Not to worry you but your ex just gave me a nasty look". I laughed and told him I think it was for me. We both debated who the look was for so I decided to look over at her again and made this goofy smile and same results got this look that she hated my guts or something. I honestly don't understand. Shes the one the broke it off with me. I should be the one that's mad but I'm not. Two questions for everyone. First why is she acting like this? And second I started no contact over two months ago, lost count of days, Is it time to break no contact? I really don't want her to keep whatever she has bottled up.
chris21422 Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 You shouldn't have look at her and you did it twice.. That's creepy man. You should have went there with confidence even if you expect to see her there or not.. Kinda like I don't give a f*ck I'm on top of the world body language so when she saw you she will be like "OH WHO'S THAT GUY" ohh my god that's Nanners my ex why he look so confident, why he look so good etc etc.. Not like you creeping at her like a joker.. Know what i mean? but it doesn't matter anyway.. haha
im_thedude Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You shouldn't have gone to the place your ex works. It was kind a bit of a meathead move to just "assume" she wouldn't be working. And now you're on this forum asking why she gave you a dirty look and thinking about breaking contact. You potentially set yourself back quite a ways because of it. In my opinion, she gave you the look because she hates your guts and didn't want to see you in her place of work. And again, in my opinion, you need to continue on your path toward strict NC and avoid making the same mistake twice!
organizedchaos Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 You shouldn't have gone to the place your ex works. It was kind a bit of a meathead move to just "assume" she wouldn't be working. And now you're on this forum asking why she gave you a dirty look and thinking about breaking contact. You potentially set yourself back quite a ways because of it. In my opinion, she gave you the look because she hates your guts and didn't want to see you in her place of work. And again, in my opinion, you need to continue on your path toward strict NC and avoid making the same mistake twice! Agreed. She's probably pissed off that you showed up at the one grocery store in town you KNOW she works at. So what if you "thought" she wouldn't be working today. I'm sure you secretly hoped she'd see you. And if not, you made sure to talk to all sorts of people because you KNEW they'd probably mention it to you ex that you showed up. There's no other grocery stores in town? She probably thought you were stalking her or hoping to talk to her when she has clearly moved on.
Author Nanners Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 You shouldn't have look at her and you did it twice.. That's creepy man. You should have went there with confidence even if you expect to see her there or not.. Kinda like I don't give a f*ck I'm on top of the world body language so when she saw you she will be like "OH WHO'S THAT GUY" ohh my god that's Nanners my ex why he look so confident, why he look so good etc etc.. Not like you creeping at her like a joker.. Know what i mean? but it doesn't matter anyway.. haha Before I noticed she was working I was pretty confident. Laughing and having a good time with friends that work their. In one way I kind of hope she saw me having a good time but in another way I really could care less. After I looked up the first time and my friend had caught a glimpse of the look she was giving us we were laughing pretty hard. It had to been obvious that the second goofy smile I did was out of pure fun. You shouldn't have gone to the place your ex works. It was kind a bit of a meathead move to just "assume" she wouldn't be working. And now you're on this forum asking why she gave you a dirty look and thinking about breaking contact. You potentially set yourself back quite a ways because of it. In my opinion, she gave you the look because she hates your guts and didn't want to see you in her place of work. And again, in my opinion, you need to continue on your path toward strict NC and avoid making the same mistake twice! I don't view it as a set back. More of a quick speed bump. Shes on my mind now but in a day or so I'll forget about her. Its the only grocery store in town. It was inevitable that it was going to happen some time. For her to be mad that I was there is kind of dumb. I can understand if there are other grocery stores in town but like I said its the only grocery store in town. I'm just glad I had my friend there to make fun of the situation as it was happening. Maybe she feels guilty about something. I don't know. I was kind of hoping someone has been through this before and that its common for female dumpers to bottle that much anger towards the dumpee even when the dumpee hasn't done anything wrong. I'm definitely leaning towards continuing with no contact. I just wasn't sure if it was right of me to keep ignoring her when there's obviously a problem.
Kermit76 Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Don't have an answer bro but mine is cold and mean to me and she was the one who dumped me. I figured i be nice and reach out to her and that wasn't a good idea. We had a awful texting conversation and that was the end of that. Back to NC for good on my end. Anyways maybe she wasn't over you and you showing up set her back. Like saying to herself I was doing so well (getting passed my guilt) and now have to see you. I dread running into my ex and will avoid it at any cost. I know we both have a function down the road we both have to attend and im not going. Hell with her. No contact and you don't get to be in my presence either. You lost that privilege when you dumped me.
Qactus Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 maybe she still has those angry moments in flash backs when she saw you? But whatever the case is.. You need to be a nice person Not for her but for yourself. Next time if anything happens just respect yourself and be a good human.
purplesoccer34 Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 Let me tell you that the same thing happened to me about two days ago. My ex and I went out for a year, and we broke up about 3 months ago. I went to the library to study for finals, and when I saw my ex's car there, I nearly had a panic attack. Once I got into the library, I really couldn't focus on studying because I knew that he was somewhere in the building. It was very distracting, and I went through some crazy lengths to avoid running into him. But then what do you know, I run into my ex again. It was the last thing I wanted to happen, because whatever I predicted would happen is exactly what happened. I saw him and noticed how good-looking he was, and everything came back to me. When he saw me, he did smile and try to say hello. Of course, I smiled back, just to be polite. Deep down, I wanted to either turn my head away or give him a nasty look--not because of him, but because of the situation. I knew it wasn't his fault for ending up in the library at the same time as me, but I really didn't want to see him. I was upset because I knew that seeing him would disturb my peace of mind, and it did. The past 2 days, I've been thinking about him non-stop. Before this, he was almost out of my head. I was the one who broke up with him, but our relationship was a very rocky one. We had good memories of course, and he did nice things for me but we argued all the time. I lost my patience with him many times, and vice versa. I didn't want to break up with him, but I knew that it was better for both of us. When I think about him now, I feel all sorts of things--happiness/affection when I think of all the sweet things he's done, but total anger when I think of all the mean things he's done. These are pretty extreme emotions, and I knew that seeing him again would bring all these emotions back. Your ex might be in a very similar situation.
Am4Real Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I'm not wasting my time reading about your breakup when it is rather obvious you went to the grocery where your GF works with your buddy and just happened to be in the line next the register she was working. If ever I heard of a desperate attempt to check up on an EX and test the waters this is is...if I were her I would give you a nasty look too. Come'on man let her be. She is not invading your space...is she? You should stay out of hers. 1
Author Nanners Posted December 15, 2013 Author Posted December 15, 2013 I'm not wasting my time reading about your breakup when it is rather obvious you went to the grocery where your GF works with your buddy and just happened to be in the line next the register she was working. If ever I heard of a desperate attempt to check up on an EX and test the waters this is is...if I were her I would give you a nasty look too. Come'on man let her be. She is not invading your space...is she? You should stay out of hers. Like I said its the only grocery store in town. These past two months after the breakup I have gone to the store countless times, to buy grocerys or to hang out with friends, and I never once have seen her. Also when we were dating she never worked on fridays and she was a stocker in the back. I had no clue she got bumped up to register. In all honesty I went to catch up with some friends that work their. If I would of known she was working I would of wore my lucky pair of underwear All joking aside if I would of known she was working I wouldn't of went. There is one benefit to seeing her though. When I looked at her I had no feelings towards her.
crederer Posted December 15, 2013 Posted December 15, 2013 I ran into my ex at the bar (small bar at that). She dumped me. She also was quite rude to me when I tried to make small talk (she kept staring at me and I wanted to ease the tension). It was weird cause she had been texting me within a week before that and was at my grandmas funeral 2 weeks prior and was quite friendly during both occasions. I don't really know why people do this. Best not to think about it too much. Also, I avoid my ex gf's place of work like the plague.
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