Will She Ever Get In Contact With Me

[Nanners]

Sorry for the long post a head of time. I'm alone right now and needed something to keep me busy. But here's my story:

 

Back on August 3rd my best friend convinced me to go to a demo derby with him at the county fair. I agreed but little did I know he was setting me up with his girlfriends best friend. We talked the whole derby and even went to the fair together afterwards. When the night was done I found out she was only 17. The problem was that I was 21 at the time so the age gap freaked me out a little bit. So I decided I wasn't going to ask for her number and just forget about her. About a week later my best friend asked if I wanted to go to sonic with him, and same scenario happened they set me up with her again. Except this time I really fell head over heels for her. I got her number and we talked no stop through text and phone calls and even went on a few dates. By august 25th I had to leave town to go to my university that was an hour away. Before we started to get serious I told her that I was leaving in a couple weeks and that she wouldn't see me as often and she said she was fine with having a long distance relationship.

 

While at the university we text each other the usual good morning/good night text everyday and asked each other how are days went. On every Wednesday we would Skype each other. And every now and then when I knew she wasn't busy I would surprise her with a phone call. When the weekend came around I would drive home and literally spend all weekend with her. She took me to meet her parents and I took her to meet mine. So everything was going great.

 

On October 9th I was sitting at work, I work a desk job, and she sent me a text asking what I wanted for my birthday, my birthday was October 13, I told her I didn't care as long as I got to see her. At that moment I was ordering her favorite flowers because she was having a bad week with her grandpa being in the hospital. A few minutes later she replied with can I call you. I said yes just wait a couple hours till my boss leaves for the day. A few minutes late she sent this, "Hey I am just going to text it to you... I feel as if me and you have a really good friendship going on and that it'd be better being friends then dating. With the distance it'll be alot easier as well. I hope understand."

 

I was devastated to say the least. I had no clue anything was wrong. I ignored the text and she sent another text a few hours later saying my name with a question mark. I replied back with Its whatever you want.

 

To make the situation more interesting her grandpa died the next day. And on Friday she called me but I ignored it. A few hours later she called again but I accidentally answered it so I wasn't prepared. The very first thing she said to me was her grandpa died and for me not to be mean to her. I held back a lot. What set me back was that she knew I drank my self to sleep on Wednesday night. I asked how she knew that and she said it didnt matter. After that all she could say is sorry over and over again. I threw her a curve ball by telling her thank you. When she asked why I told her I learned a life lesson that you can never drink someone of your mind. She went back to her grandpa dying so I told her I had to get off. She asked if we could stay friends and I told her I don't know you hurt me bad. And before she could reply back I told her bye.

 

On saturday night I was hanging with my best friend, the same guy that hooked me up with her, and he told me the only reason she called me was because he told her that I hit rock bottom and that she needed to get in contact with me. I was hurt that she didn't call to see if I was okay she just called because someone told her to. Ironically after he told me that she sent me a drawing on the game Draw Something. I ignored it and went on with my night. Through out the night he convinced me to text her to ask her if I did something wrong. So I agreed and sent this to her, "So I need a little closure before I can move on. First off what did I do wrong?"

 

That was a mistake because on my birthday,on sunday, I was consistently checking my phone waiting for her to reply.

 

Today is day 31 of no contact.

 

Last night I got on Facebook and saw she was in a new relationship that was made public a couple days ago. To add salt to the wound a friend asked her how long they've been seeing each other. The date my ex said was a week after she broke up with me. I immediatly removed her as a friend on Facebook and other social media websites. I even deleted pictures of us and got rid of all the things that reminded me of her.

 

I got to ask will she ever get in contact with me?

[melell]

I really don't think she will contact you. At least not in a romantic way.

 

She is with someone else, and her actions show that she is doing what she wants in this situation- not really a bad thing.

[lovelylilly]

I don't think she'll contact you again either. Keep moving forward and don't try to contact her. I know how hard it is, I'm really sorry. Good luck.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

A week after? Are you ****tin me? Obviously she was talking to him way before that and they decided to take it further and that's why you got dumped my friend. You don't start a relationship in a week, specially right after another lmao.

 

Sorry man I feel for ya, I thought me and my girl were the best couple in the world but we were nothing special either.

 

She will contact you after she gets bored with this guy if you were a really good boyfriend. But that's a little too late.

[Chi townD]

I agree with the others. Chances are she's not going to. And besides, she's still a kid. She's got a lot more maturing to do.

 

Heal from this and I strongly recommend that you find someone closer to your age. They tend to play less games.

[Nanners]

I'm hoping she doesnt contact me. I was checking to make sure she will leave me alone for good. I was doing fine until I saw that she found some one new a week after she broke up with me. Its like ripping a scab off, but I know time heals all wounds

 

Thats what I thought. At least I found my answer as to why the relationship ended. I like to think I was a good boy friend. We never fought, I paid for most of the dates, and always made time to talk to her.

 

This is how I'm predicting is going to happen. Shes going to stay with guy for a long period of time. During the summer time shes going to get bored of the guy and dump him. When she realize she has no friends going to the university she chose, which is the one I'm at right now, shes going to try to contact me. That is if she decided to switch what university she wanted to go to.

[rossi128]

Mine was with someone else 2 weeks after she dumped me. In my situation if she was in contact with him already and I think she must have been, our stressful last night together gave her the excuse to end it.

 

Will she contact you again? Maybe. But not while she's with him. That's my opinion.

[Chi townD]

This is how I'm predicting is going to happen. Shes going to stay with guy for a long period of time. During the summer time shes going to get bored of the guy and dump him. When she realize she has no friends going to the university she chose, which is the one I'm at right now, shes going to try to contact me. That is if she decided to switch what university she wanted to go to.

 

 

Sorry dude, But one piece of advice? Never make predictions about someone's actions. A lot of the time, they never turn out the way you predict them.

[esteem-jam]

Seems to me this relationship was set up by your friend. He wanted to find someone to get you laid

You said yourself, there was lots of communication behind your back, who did what and for what reasons.

 

 

You could tell your friend to stay off your business (not this case, cause this case was his business).

Or you could go to your friend and ask him (in a sarcastic way) to set you up with somebody else, cause this one did not work out.

[Nanners]

Sorry dude, But one piece of advice? Never make predictions about someone's actions. A lot of the time, they never turn out the way you predict them.

 

I know, thats just me venting a little bit. The way I view it is that they're going to be together for a long time so no need for me to talk bad about them.

 

Seems to me this relationship was set up by your friend. He wanted to find someone to get you laid

You said yourself, there was lots of communication behind your back, who did what and for what reasons.

 

 

You could tell your friend to stay off your business (not this case, cause this case was his business).

Or you could go to your friend and ask him (in a sarcastic way) to set you up with somebody else, cause this one did not work out.

 

A couple weeks after the break up I asked him to hook me up with someone because the last one worked out sooo well lol I honestly am not mad that he got in contact with her. He was just looking out for me. Its a good feeling to know that he has my back like that.

[Nanners]

Here's an update for you guys. Went home over the weekend and hung out with my best friend most of the time. Had a lot of fun but it got annoying when random friends would come up to me and say "Did you hear she found somebody already?!" To which I would reply with I don't care. According to one of her co workers a few days after the breakup she was complaining non stop at work about how no one was there for her and thats when this new guy came in and asked for her number. So not only is it a rebound relationship but he's also one of her co workers. Thats a recipe for disaster.

 

Although it may sound like I want her back I don't. Because on a happier note my best friend is hooking me with a girl. We are suppose to go on a double date with my best friend and his girlfriend next week. Although she hasn't talked to me she facebooked stalk me and said I was cute and that she was going to cancel her plans for that night to hang with us. So life is going pretty good for me

[chris21422]

Good for you man.. Don't worry about her being in a new relationship straight away..

 

If you guys had a serious and meaningful relationship that thing will never last.. give it 3-6 months. Just Improve yourself..

 

also don't get in the dating scene so fast if you are not ready..

 

Hook up is ok.. but being in a relationship just because she is in a relationship is very wrong..

 

 

Good luck mate!

 

 

Here's an update for you guys. Went home over the weekend and hung out with my best friend most of the time. Had a lot of fun but it got annoying when random friends would come up to me and say "Did you hear she found somebody already?!" To which I would reply with I don't care. According to one of her co workers a few days after the breakup she was complaining non stop at work about how no one was there for her and thats when this new guy came in and asked for her number. So not only is it a rebound relationship but he's also one of her co workers. Thats a recipe for disaster.

 

Although it may sound like I want her back I don't. Because on a happier note my best friend is hooking me with a girl. We are suppose to go on a double date with my best friend and his girlfriend next week. Although she hasn't talked to me she facebooked stalk me and said I was cute and that she was going to cancel her plans for that night to hang with us. So life is going pretty good for me

[Nanners]

Good for you man.. Don't worry about her being in a new relationship straight away..

 

If you guys had a serious and meaningful relationship that thing will never last.. give it 3-6 months. Just Improve yourself..

 

also don't get in the dating scene so fast if you are not ready..

 

Hook up is ok.. but being in a relationship just because she is in a relationship is very wrong..

 

 

Good luck mate!

 

I don't think I made a big enough impact for her to think about me down the road. Even when we were dating she never switched her facebook relationship status to "in a relationship" she kept on single the whole time.

 

I know im ready to start dating again. I've moved on to the point where if I bump into her in public I will have zero feelings for her. About a week before I found out about the new guy I decided I was ready to date again. So her being in a new relationship isn't influencing my decision to go on the double date.

 

Heres another mini update that happened last night. My best friend and I were driving to a movie rental place when his girlfriend called. She was asking a bunch questions about the double date like " Are you trying to hook them up?" " Are you his wingman" and then the big final question " Are you sure hes ready to date?". After he hung up I asked him what's up the 20 questions and he said that he wasn't 100 percent positive but there was a female voice in the background asking the questions and that it sounded like my ex.

 

If it was her I don't understand why she has a problem with me dating again. Shes the one that broke the relationship up not me. Its like its okay for her to date but not me.

 

I kind of feel bad for her new boyfriend because it almost sounds like shes just using him to get back at me in weird twisted way. What do you guys think?

[LoverDrake]

I don't think I made a big enough impact for her to think about me down the road. Even when we were dating she never switched her facebook relationship status to "in a relationship" she kept on single the whole time.

 

I know im ready to start dating again. I've moved on to the point where if I bump into her in public I will have zero feelings for her. About a week before I found out about the new guy I decided I was ready to date again. So her being in a new relationship isn't influencing my decision to go on the double date.

 

Heres another mini update that happened last night. My best friend and I were driving to a movie rental place when his girlfriend called. She was asking a bunch questions about the double date like " Are you trying to hook them up?" " Are you his wingman" and then the big final question " Are you sure hes ready to date?". After he hung up I asked him what's up the 20 questions and he said that he wasn't 100 percent positive but there was a female voice in the background asking the questions and that it sounded like my ex.

 

If it was her I don't understand why she has a problem with me dating again. Shes the one that broke the relationship up not me. Its like its okay for her to date but not me.

 

I kind of feel bad for her new boyfriend because it almost sounds like shes just using him to get back at me in weird twisted way. What do you guys think?

 

Jealousy is a very powerful emotion. From my experience most dumpers move on quicker than the dumpee. The second the dumper hears that the dumpee has moved on with someone else it tends to make the dumper jealous. One of two things is going to happen

 

1) When her new relationship ends, could be a month from now or it could be a year from now, she will more than likely try to get in contact with you.

 

2) She wants to contact you in the future but feels guilty or ashamed and will never get in contact with you.

 

Either way it sounds like shes getting curious as to what you're doing. My recomendation is to stay no contact. It will only peak her curiousity more

[ks0985]

She is 17 like other said way to young to really expect much out of her