Jyden Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Hi everyone, so last tuesday my ex ended it with me because she said she 'fell out of love' i personally think she just got bored of us and lost the lust. I messaged her the other day via social media site to ask how she is and stuff and i tried to be short & rude(but not mean rude) just to try show her i don't need her & etc.. i had a phone call with her tonight she told me that when i was rude to her it made her really upset, does this mean she still loves me or..? Because if she truly didn't she wouldn't of cared if i was rude or not..?
cavalier99 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) Umm sorry man. She dumped you. Im sure there are some residual feelings ..something..dont know about love...but not enought to want to be with you. And if she does feel anything it will soon dissipate. Most of the time they are just relieved that it is over and they finally had the guts to pull the trigger. It is emotional for them to end it but they are haopy they did it and will do just about anything to justify ending it. Dont confuse the crying with that they might want to be with you. It is just the opposite. Stay NC and kill hope! Cav Edited November 24, 2013 by cavalier99 1
Author Jyden Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Umm sorry man. She dumped you. Im sure there are some residual feelings ..something..dont know about love...but not enought to want to be with you. And if she does feel anything it will soon dissipate. Most of the time they are just relieved that it is over and they finally had the guts to pull the trigger. It is emotional for them to end it but they are haopy they did it and will do just about anything to justify ending it. Dont confuse the crying with that they might want to be with you. It is just the opposite. Stay NC and kill hope! Cav mmm ok she told me she wants me to hang out and stuff with her still and visit her, have phone calls and so on? ( the reason we broke up is because she fell out of 'love' in 3 days btw ) so is this still the case?
cavalier99 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 (edited) mmm ok she told me she wants me to hang out and stuff with her still and visit her, have phone calls and so on? ( the reason we broke up is because she fell out of 'love' in 3 days btw ) so is this still the case? This is really early for you so ill try to be kind. I know how tough it is but she is gone. Go NC bro. Dont become her emotioal tampon and fall for the lets be buddys thing. Man up and cut her out. You will just send your self esteem even futher into the abyss by being in contact with her. also any contact just reduces your value in their eyes and justifies there desision. helps them move on and hurts you. Have you read the NC guide? Edited November 24, 2013 by cavalier99 1
Author Jyden Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Ok No i haven't whats the NC Guide?
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Ok No i haven't whats the NC Guide? It's a guide on these forums that shows you how to not be a little ***** when you get dumped. You're about to learn one of the best lessons in life.
Author Jyden Posted November 24, 2013 Author Posted November 24, 2013 Where can i find it? can you link it to me?
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 here's 2 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/366654-caliguy-no-contact-guide-updated?highlight=contact+guide http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion
cavalier99 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Does it matter? It's over. Move on. Easy bro. The poor guy is still in shock. Cav
cavalier99 Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 Ok No i haven't whats the NC Guide? Definitly read and reread this guide. It will get you thru this as well as hanging out here. It got me thru the toughest BU of my life. Welcome to LS. Good luck man. Cav
feelingtorn Posted November 24, 2013 Posted November 24, 2013 I know how you are feeling exactly. I was there three months ago and am still struggling. I caught my ex sexting with another woman whom he met through an iphone game. When I slapped him, he said he felt "relieved." He interpreted his initial gut feeling as a sign that we were done and were not meant to be together. He did change his mind and sent me a short email from work saying let's give us another try, but changed his mind again four days later. I was devastated. The lesson I learned....if the person loves you and is in love with you, none of this should have happened. No matter how confused she is, she chose to leave you and decided to be on her own or find another man. She is not in love with you. It is really a tough pill to swallow - trust me. I am still thinking about him almost all day everyday. But, I am not contacting him because I know better. I wish you all the best. If you ever feel the urge to contact her, write your thought down in a diary or post here or talk to your close friend or family member. She is not your friend. She does not deserve to know your thoughts and struggles, but we are here for you. Hugs. 2
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