Lennon Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 So some of my story is in this thread along with the email she sent me a couple of days ago. Just to give some insight I met her while i lived in a hostel for a couple of months while working in a city (cheaper than renting), she had to move home ( other side of the world) as she couldn't get a job and the hostel life was bringing her down plus I was working a serious amount of hours for sucky pay and wasn't getting my act together soon especially since on my days off I would spend quite a bit of cash to have great days out together and show her a good time. Since I was working so much I couldn't be there to make her happy all the time. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/443792-ex-who-dumped-me-contacts-me-after-2-weeks-n-c I just need some advice whether or not to send this to her or stay NC. I do want her back but I don't want to set myself up for false hope which is why I think i should maybe send this and cut any hope of reconciliation and move forward. I mean if she really realised she loved me in the future and wanted me back even this email I'm going to sent wouldn't stop her. Would it? Hi X To be honest X you lost me completely when you told me you didn't love me anymore and pretty much said you don't want to see me again. It just took me this long to realize it. I'm sorry about pretty much harassing you with phone calls and messages, I only did what every instinct in my body was telling me to do. Which was fight for you. To be fair you dumped me out of the blue, I honestly didn't see it coming, which was why it was such a shock to me, I truly did believe we would be together again and could survive some time apart even if weren't doing the long distance relationship thing, I thought we were different like you said. You decided to walk out of my life for good so I'm respecting your decision, you have to do what is right for you so you don't have to feel any guilt or regret in breaking up with me. I was happy before I met you and I can be happy without you. The reason I didn't stop you going home was because I could see you growing more and more unhappy with each passing day in that hostel and I couldn't stand to see you down like that X. To be fair I wasn't getting my act together soon and I WAS afraid of losing you. I just hid it, which is why when I left you to the airport i was such a mess, I cracked and let it all out, hadn't cried like that since I was a kid, just couldn't stop it. If you cut the hostel and me being wrecked working those crazy hours I was working, the time I spent with you were truly the happiest days of my life. I honestly and truly did love you more than anything I have ever loved X and I just wish i had more time with you. I know you may want to be friends with me but from the day we met we knew weren't going to be "just friends", there was a deep connection there and I won't be "just friends" now, which is why I think its best to just end it and move on with our lives. Don't let anybody else in your life influence what you think will make you happy X. I hope your happy and I wish you the best in the future. I won't be contacting you again, I'm moving forward with my life. So please don't contact me again. I hope you have a great time in Europe and a great life and please take care of yourself X. Goodbye Love My name
Purepony Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 i would do some editing on the last part.. where u say dont contact me because she actually might want to but you never know. If you I think you want that you back to go ahead and do it. I sent a similar email to my x a few weeks ago and she didnt respond but I'm okay with it it didn't do anything for melet's other than close the door, so you might have that advantage to if you're ready for it 1
Ftheeastcoast Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 The answer is the same for you as it is for every person who writes these letters, NO NO NO NO. Stop. You don't need to tell her how great she was or how much happiness she gave you. Stirring up any emotion in a dumper is a bad idea. It's detrimental to you, and taking care of yourself is the only thing that matters. 1
Jules78 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 You are telling her that you are going NC but you already are in NC? I don't see the point in sending it. You will regret it. Don't send it. Stay NC!
Confusedguy81 Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 you are better off sending a blank piece of paper 6
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 There's nothing I can say There's nothing we can do now There's nothing I can say There's nothing we can do now
organizedchaos Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Does no one ever search the forum for "send letter to ex" first, just to see the enormous history of people thinking this is a good idea?
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