ex who dumped me contacts me after 2 weeks N/C

[Lennon]

Hi guys

Its been two weeks since i blocked my ex girlfriend on facebook and started no contact. Feeling better but still miss her, These past couple of days i have been feeling alot of resentment and anger towards her since she hadn't even tried to contact me and before i started no contact it was always me initiating contact not her.

I met her while she was travelling in Europe, we went out for four months, we loved eachother and we lived together for awhile. She moved home ( the other side of the world). I told her i'd move over to her or travel with her when she's back in Europe in a couple of months. She tells me she doesn't love me anymore' she's happy being single and pretty much doesn't want to make any effort to see me again, saying she is confused, she's in love with then she's not in love with me then she loves me as a friend. Couple of weeks of begging on my part (stupid me), a letter from me apologizing for my behaviour and then no contact.

 

Well I woke up last night to an email from her saying hey i know i'm probably the last person you want to hear from but you and X (my best friend) are constantly on my mind and i wonder constantly where you are and what you are doing.

 

She tells me whats going on in her life. Tells me she hasn't taken off the necklace i gave her as a gift since she got it. Says she doesn't know how i will react to her email and tells me I was a big part of her life and doesn't want to loose me and X completely (bestfriend not so much, as he was a dick to her and i don't speak to him anymore, she doesn't know this)

She says myself and the people she met while over here are constantly on her mind and then says goodbye.

 

I don't know why she's sending this to me. It annoys me she keeps including other people when she says you are constantly on my mind, I mean I was the person who was always there for her, loved her and cared for her and she wasn't very close to anyone else while she was here unless she's just trying to cover that its really me that she misses and thinks about and is trying to cover it.

 

I'm not going to reply to this as I'm not over her and I miss her so much and feeling how i do about her, i don't want to have ****ty mundane conversations like how are you, what are you up to in life. I'm trying to move on and staying in contact with her will hinder that. Unless I hear i'm sorry for the weeks of hell i put you through and I want you back, I don't want to hear anything else from her. Also I would really have to restrain myself from sending an angry bitter message telling her she chose to walk out of my life for good and to deal with it but its not me to send such things.

 

Any advice people and could anybody know what this message means. I know shouldn't be trying to dissect it like it has a cryptic message. I just wonder if she still loves me, misses me or if she is thinking she made a mistake.

 

cheers guys

[Arty54]

I'm afraid to say IMO she is just being friendly and probably trying to loosely keep in touch. She mentions others in her mail so please don't read anything into it, just stay NC and don't reply.

You are fortunate that there is a lot of distance between you as many others on here risk bumping into Ex's on a daily/weekly basis.

[d0nnivain]

Just ignore her.

 

Your other option may be to write the bitter angry message but don't send it. It will get some of the venom out of your system but not give her the satisfaction. When I need to do this, I usually print out what I wrote, put it away, read it a few days later, then burn it. There's something cleansing about the fire.

[Lennon]

Hey I know I’m probably the last person you want to talk to,

But I thought I might send an email to check in and see how you are. You and X are constantly on my mind I'm always wondering where you are at and what youse are doing.

 

As far as I go:

My glandular fever is slowly disappearing which is awesome.

I have a job working the night shifts at macdonalds and then during the day I work at target 6 days a week and then I clean houses too- saving saving saving.

 

I'm making Christmas presents for everyone this year so that has been keeping me busy too inbetween working. Haven't even gotten my paints out since getting back though

 

Have officially moved back in with my mum and secretly love it haha. Can't wait to travel again though.

 

Oh! I haven't taken my necklace off either

 

Anyways, sorry I'm not sure how you will respond to this message... You might totally hate it and wish I never wrote... But I guess I thought I would try. You were a big part of my life and I really don't want to loose you (or X but not as much) completely.

 

How is _____ and _____ and such too? No one really talks to me from there anymore and I'm seriously not exadurating youse are constantly on my mind.

 

Anyways, it's 30 degrees today and raining :/ time for an outdoor shower haha

 

Oooohhhh last thing, I'm getting a nose ring hahaha ok bye

 

Exes name

 

I should just ignore and keep no contact shouldn't I?

Not read too much into it?

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Hey I know I’m probably the last person you want to talk to,

But I thought I might send an email to check in and see how you are. You and X are constantly on my mind I'm always wondering where you are at and what youse are doing.

 

As far as I go:

My glandular fever is slowly disappearing which is awesome.

I have a job working the night shifts at macdonalds and then during the day I work at target 6 days a week and then I clean houses too- saving saving saving.

 

I'm making Christmas presents for everyone this year so that has been keeping me busy too inbetween working. Haven't even gotten my paints out since getting back though

 

Have officially moved back in with my mum and secretly love it haha. Can't wait to travel again though.

 

Oh! I haven't taken my necklace off either

 

Anyways, sorry I'm not sure how you will respond to this message... You might totally hate it and wish I never wrote... But I guess I thought I would try. You were a big part of my life and I really don't want to loose you (or X but not as much) completely.

 

How is _____ and _____ and such too? No one really talks to me from there anymore and I'm seriously not exadurating youse are constantly on my mind.

 

Anyways, it's 30 degrees today and raining :/ time for an outdoor shower haha

 

Oooohhhh last thing, I'm getting a nose ring hahaha ok bye

 

Exes name

 

I should just ignore and keep no contact shouldn't I?

Not read too much into it?

 

Getting a nose ring?

 

She's attention seeking.

 

You were the one who always gave her undivided attention and the time apart is making her miss that attention. That does not mean she misses you, she just misses the feelings of being wanted.

 

She's seeking an ego-boost and I'm glad you stuck to your guns and didn't reply back.

 

Let her simmer with with an unreplied email and you go and do your own thing. If you really want her to regret for the mess she left you in, you start taking care of yourself and let her reminisce about the relationship until she realizes that she made a big mistake.

 

I can gaurantee you, exes come back when they start thinking about you while you're off living a life better than them.