Dez Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 i'm having a difficult day trying to cope. i'm looking at pictures of us and been drinking. i keep hoping maybe she'll contact me or something will happen. i hope i don't do something stupid like text her tonight, i need self control. uggh this sucks. i miss her.
xUnknown Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 i'm having a difficult day trying to cope. i'm looking at pictures of us and been drinking. i keep hoping maybe she'll contact me or something will happen. i hope i don't do something stupid like text her tonight, i need self control. uggh this sucks. i miss her. Stop drinking. Go out with friends, DO SOMETHING! You don't want your ex to text you. Believe me, you don't. It will only bring you backwards in your healing process...I know, it did for me. Stay positive and go out and chill with friends. Shut your phone off for the night so you don't do anything stupid, like calling or texting her. 2
Author Dez Posted November 20, 2013 Author Posted November 20, 2013 Stop drinking. Go out with friends, DO SOMETHING! You don't want your ex to text you. Believe me, you don't. It will only bring you backwards in your healing process...I know, it did for me. Stay positive and go out and chill with friends. Shut your phone off for the night so you don't do anything stupid, like calling or texting her. i just came back from a business trip. me and my friends no longer have time for each other anymore... feels like everyone has ditched me in my life. 1
chris21422 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Man I know it's hard but whatever happens don't contact her. think of it like if you contact her all your progress will be gone. You don't want that right? This happens to me so many times I get so tempted to message her cause I'm missing her. If friends are not available call your family and relatives? 1
AllTooWell Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 First of all stop drinking. Second of all, if your relationships with your friends have dwindled you should REKINDLE THEM. Call up a friend and say - hey, what's up, want to catch up and get dinner, etc. Sitting in a pit of self-pity is not helping you. 2
Simplysimon Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 i just came back from a business trip. me and my friends no longer have time for each other anymore... feels like everyone has ditched me in my life. We all have pain in our lives man up...I have no friends, ended up homeless, stop whinging f..k her and the anniversary. Do not give her your time your thoughts or anything. Your better than that. Go listen to some 50 cents or something visit your folks... Do not contact her..it's hard but we are here for you dude
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 Agree with all the advice but don't listen to 50 cents, please don't. 2
ks0985 Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 gotta stop living in the past and move forward with the future.
xUnknown Posted November 20, 2013 Posted November 20, 2013 First of all stop drinking. Second of all, if your relationships with your friends have dwindled you should REKINDLE THEM. Call up a friend and say - hey, what's up, want to catch up and get dinner, etc. Sitting in a pit of self-pity is not helping you. I did this when my ex broke up with me. I'm so happy I did. Do the same, you won't regret it. 1
Author Dez Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 honestly i don't want to be around anyone, except her. i know it's wrong, but thats all i really want. i'm at rock bottom, i mean whats the worst that can happen if i text her?? 1
Kansas87 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 The worst? YOU FALL RIGHT BACK TO THE FIRST DAY SHE LEFT! That's what. You have come a long way since then, DON'T DO IT. Just say NO. Call your mom instead. Or dad. Or a relative. Or a coworker. Whatever, I don't care, just talk to somebody else. Or keep posting on here, obsessively. Go read the NC guide again. 1
chris21422 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Worst can happen is you push her more away man.. give her space she is not going to feel those "FEELINGS" for you if you stay in touch with them and being "NICE" honestly i don't want to be around anyone, except her. i know it's wrong, but thats all i really want. i'm at rock bottom, i mean whats the worst that can happen if i text her??
Author Dez Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 The worst? YOU FALL RIGHT BACK TO THE FIRST DAY SHE LEFT! That's what. You have come a long way since then, DON'T DO IT. Just say NO. Call your mom instead. Or dad. Or a relative. Or a coworker. Whatever, I don't care, just talk to somebody else. Or keep posting on here, obsessively. Go read the NC guide again. got the link?
Kansas87 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion
Author Dez Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 Worst can happen is you push her more away man.. give her space she is not going to feel those "FEELINGS" for you if you stay in touch with them and being "NICE" i made the mistake in the past of contacting her many times. i haven't went 3 full weeks without doing it, we've been broken up for 6 months. maybe thats why she hasn't come back yet.
Kansas87 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 Dude, I'm sorry, but she's not coming back There's no "yet" here. You're done. It's over. She has moved on. It's time for you to move on, too. Now put down the booze, go take a shower, go to bed, wake up tomorrow, and take your life back.
Author Dez Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 who knows. she told me if i just left her alone, then i could have saved the relationship.
chris21422 Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 To be honest I understand what you feeling right now.. I've been through it man. It's just day 35 of my No Contact.. It truly hurts when the person we love left us.. but man you need to respect her decision.. We cannot do anything to change it or to make them want us... Messaging them over and over again after break up is just pushing and pushing them more away... It's time to move on now my friend. If you would have respect her decision maybe she can change her mind in the future. Live your life now. who knows. she told me if i just left her alone, then i could have saved the relationship.
Author Dez Posted November 21, 2013 Author Posted November 21, 2013 To be honest I understand what you feeling right now.. I've been through it man. It's just day 35 of my No Contact.. It truly hurts when the person we love left us.. but man you need to respect her decision.. We cannot do anything to change it or to make them want us... Messaging them over and over again after break up is just pushing and pushing them more away... It's time to move on now my friend. If you would have respect her decision maybe she can change her mind in the future. Live your life now. i need to stop myself from contacting her. you're right nothing is going to change her mind. i just hope she realizes what she had and that she changes her mind about me, this time of year is when we had our best times together.
xUnknown Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 i need to stop myself from contacting her. you're right nothing is going to change her mind. i just hope she realizes what she had and that she changes her mind about me, this time of year is when we had our best times together. She'll feel it...and so will you. But you have to be the bigger person and NOT contact her. She was saying if you didn't contact her you would have saved it...just to give you hope..make you feel bad so that she feels less guilty.
headinthecloud Posted November 21, 2013 Posted November 21, 2013 i just came back from a business trip. me and my friends no longer have time for each other anymore... feels like everyone has ditched me in my life. I'm right there with you, Dez. This is why you MUST start focusing all those thoughts on you. Be selfish now, do what you need to do. ...get rid of all of the pictures. Erase her from your life, it's the only way to start the healing process.
LadyM Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 honestly i don't want to be around anyone, except her. i know it's wrong, but thats all i really want. i'm at rock bottom, i mean whats the worst that can happen if i text her?? The worst that can happen is that you won't get the desired response and believe it or not, you actually will feel worse than you do now. How will you feel if she doesn't even bother to respond. Or responds with a harsh remark? The reason you want to text her is the hope that she'll be thrilled to hear from you with the potential to get back together. This is likely not to happen. 1
Amaury Posted November 22, 2013 Posted November 22, 2013 Dude don't text or call her. It hurts now but that's only temporary. You want to look back and atleast be proud of yourself for not giving her the satisfaction of even knowing that you missed her at this moment, because eventually you won't miss her at all. Take it from me I miss my ex and I still love her even tho I know in my heart that we aren't getting back together, but the only reason I still think about her is because she was such a big part of my life that she left an empty void there but with time I will fill it with something better, and maybe someone better. Its hard man I know it is remembering the good times you guys shared, but when ever I think about the times we had I always remember this quote "You know the love is gone, when all you love is the memories you shared and not the person you shared them with" and maybe it will help you ease the pain. Stay strong and stay positive, with time the pain will hurt a little less each day untill you just laugh about it.
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