DownNtOut Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Its a year since we split up. But we met up once a month after as 'friends', cinema, coffee etc. Hooked up after a concert in July for a night. I asked her if she wanted to get back together. She didnt want to. I spilled my guts to her and she told me she was giving it another try with another ex. I done a months NC, she txt me to say she wud be at a festival i was goin to. We were in the same group of friends. We spent the 1st night dancing and i walked her back to her tent. Spent the next day and night together. Kissing and then spooning for the night. She told me it was so easy being with me, as in she felt comfortable to be with me. 3 day we spent in the group, no kissing. at end of festival i walked her to her car. Week later i ask her to concert in my town. She says she cant. ask her again the week after, she says yes. we have a meal and a good time at concert. afterwards i tell her i shouldnt see her anymore as i need time to get over her. she talks to me and i ask what did the festival mean. she told me she has 'never felt the way she feels when she is with me', with anyone. she said she regrets kissing me as she has a bf. i ask her if she thinks of me? she said, 'of course' she had her head in her hands telling me this. i asked her to meet me again in ten days as a friend. she said she would think about it and text me the next day. she said she wud need more time than 10 days to think about 'us'. i told asked her to text me the day after if she cud meet. she text me two days later saying she was still thinking about it i reassured her that she could take her time. its been 4weeks i called her and she was very chatty and friendly. wished me happy birthday, even tho that was 2 weeks ago. she said she didn't want to be bothering me. we chatted on fone for 5mins. organised to meet im meeting her tomorrow do you think she has reached a decision? should i tell her i cant see her anymore if she doesn't want to be with me? i am too into her for it to be a healthy friendship what should i do? what is she thinking? HELP
conf Posted November 3, 2013 Posted November 3, 2013 Could you give some more details? Who did initialize the break up? How long was your relationship? Is this ex your previous bf? Did this ex dump her? How long was their relationship? At first sight it seems that you were a rebound
Author DownNtOut Posted November 3, 2013 Author Posted November 3, 2013 i broke up with her we were together 11 months her bf is an ex of hers from 3 years ago
Author DownNtOut Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 we met and chatted she is staying with her bf said she feels the same with him as with me and wants to try with him
Mariposa10 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 we met and chatted she is staying with her bf said she feels the same with him as with me and wants to try with him Ok, she's made up her mind. And please, even if she calls you in a month to say that she wants to give it another try (which would not surprise me), think about it twice. This girl seems to be super confused and should be single for awhile. 1
AnyaNova Posted November 5, 2013 Posted November 5, 2013 Please. I hope I got here in time. Read my story, and then think long. And I mean long!!! and hard about whether you really want to have a last meeting. My lasting meeting with my ex, messed me up for months. And I am still dealing with the fallout. My story can be found here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/428642-what-happened-i-don-t-understand Especially if your ex gives you any unexplained mixed messages as mine did, it will screw you up, and set you back bigtime. Before our last meeting, everybody I knew save one thought that we were sure to get back together from the way we were talking on the phone and the kind of messages we were sending (LC, if you can call talking on the phone for hours at a time LC). And you can read about it. Please think hard about picking up that phone and cancelling. Especially if she isn't very emotionally mature. Because if she isn't, and she has any difficulty with letting you go, she won't be able to hide it from you and it will mess you up badly.
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