Quintessential Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 (edited) Here is my story I posted a few weeks ago: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/430862-i-dumped-walked-away-someone-i-love In summary, I had an on-off relationship with my ex for a year and a half. He chased like crazy in the beginning but became distant and dull after a few months. I broke up with him in the end as it was getting worse. He would go 2, 3 or 4 days without contacting me and I was just getting too upset all the time. After 8 months NC, he got back in touch and said he had missed me so much and wanted to give us a proper try. This was July this year. We got back together but we only last 6 weeks. Things were amazing at first, but then he started being distant again. I ended it when he didn't contact me ONCE during my 2 week girly holiday. He didn't even send me a Facebook message, and he knew it would have meant a lot to me if he did. So much for a "proper try". He hadn't changed at all. He didn't put up a fight and neither of us have contacted each other since. It's been 6 weeks NC and I've totally avoided his Facebook (I blocked him) Instagram, and his other social networking websites. But I went out last night and I overheard from a friend who doesn't know our situation very well that my ex has got engaged to a girl he was seeing for a few months during our 8 month NC period...... My ex told me he ended his relationship with this girl because she was too intense and wanted a child with him. It freaked him out so he dumped her. I'm so shocked he's engaged to her now only 6 weeks after we broke up again. Thank god I had the strength to avoid his social networking websites... I can't imagine how I'd have felt if I saw a picture of the ring on his Instagram... I'm devastated. I wish I never got back together with him for a second time. I should have been strong enough to resist him. I feel like a used fool and a rebound. The group of friends I was with last night... none of them know about us briefly getting back together for 6 weeks in the summer, so I laughed and told them it doesn't bother me, I moved on from him ages ago, and that I wish him well with his new fiancee. This was just a cover so it doesn't get back to him that I'm upset... As soon as I got home I cried my eyes out... You guys, I need some support. Edited October 27, 2013 by Quintessential
Balzac Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 He wasn't "the one" why give any thought to his engagement? Do you wish to be miserable?
lovelylilly Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Keep going out with your friends and take your mind off him. Keep him blocked on everything and don't look at any old pictures. He will never change and will treat the other girl the way he treated you. You'll find someone else and get your happiness. Best wishes xxx. 2
hopespringseternal Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Wow, I smpathize with your situation. I sorry to hear that. It is never easy to hear that somone you love has acted this way. But remember that by going through this you are going to come out on top(not to be generic). By embracing your pain, you can reflect and grow from this, make yourself a more whole and complete version of yourself. A better you. But from the sounds of it you dodged a bullet with this one. Do you really want to waste your time with a guy who doesnt seem to know what he wants? Its people like him who dont stop to think before they act and show their true colors. It shows a lack of maturity, weakness, and just truly not knowing who he is(or what he wants). You've done amazing till now, just try and remember that you will find someone who has the opposite of all these traits. Time will help the rest. No amount of advice can heal the pain. But keep yourself busy. But the one thing I can say is dont avoid the pain, it will be a missed oppurtunity for your own growth if you do. My heart goes out to you. p.s. not all guys are as screwed up as your ex sounds. You deserve to be treated better than that. 1
harrybrown Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 You should count your lucky stars. He loses interest over and over again. Sorry you are going thru this pain, but in the long run, you will be better off.
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