mortensorchid Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Last week I went out on an Internet date. He and I really hit it off. See this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/435012-morning-after We were texting yesterday and today, he just told me that he is/was divorced. We did not bring that up at our first meeting at all. Nor the fact that he has 4 - yes 4! - kids! Two boys and two girls, ages 12-6. Talk about a bursting of a bubble. Now I am hesitant. 4 kids?!?! What do others think of this?!?! What would you do?
KatZee Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 I don't really think you can ask for advice in this situation. You can't ask "what would you do" because if I were you, I'd run and never look back. But that's only because I have no desire to have kids, let alone FOUR of them. It's all down to you. How you feel about him. How you feel about kids. How you feel about someone else's kids. How you feel about FOUR of them.
HokeyReligions Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 What's the big deal? He wanted to see if he was interested in you before he said a nything. When he was ready he yold you. I think that's fair. If you are not comfortable with this then be honest with him and yourself then you can both move on. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
Charlie Harper Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 He must be good in bed...those kids were not brought by a stork...
bentleychic Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 He must be good in bed...those kids were not brought by a stork... hahaha You can still knock someone up if you're bad in bed. My exH is proof of this!
FitChick Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 This is why I prefer OLD. You can find out this stuff beforehand.
cif Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 Lying by omission..That would concern me more than sharing him with four(!) children.
kassy Posted October 26, 2013 Posted October 26, 2013 He told you after one date, hardly unreasonable in my books. My boyfriend did the same with me. Is it my ideal having a German teenage son in the picture (I don't speak German). But so far I'm not worrying about that. It's hardly the worst thing in life (as far as I'm concerned but it may be different for you). We don't live in Germany so I haven't met the son, but we have skyped. He seems like a good kid. More importantly he's part of my boyfriends life and has resulted in him being the man he is and the man I love. He has a good relationship with his ex and son and that makes things much easier for all of us. I would say, date the man if you like him and this isn't a total deal breaker for you. Just see how it goes the kids may not be anything to do with why you don't work out. Also, can you really blame him. He likely knows its not going to be most women's ideal situation. Why lead with that. I have a medical problem, I don't throw that out there on a first date either, but I do do it fairly early. At the end of the day only you know if this is a deal breaker for you.
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