me85 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I'm on it. I like it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smg15 Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 I thought it was a HOOK UP app Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 It's whatever people want it to be. It's an app to meet people of the opposite sex who you find attractive...yes. That doesn't mean it's solely to find hook ups. I guess, if you're on there for that and that's what you want, then yes but I'm not on there for that. A lot of people aren't on there just to hook up. I've ran across a few guys who are genuinely trying to find Mrs. Right. As in, wife material. Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted January 16, 2015 Share Posted January 16, 2015 I just use tinder to pass the time when I'm bored. If something happens it happens but usually I just like to chat and pass the time. Never short of people to talk to though, at 150 matches lol. Now if you want to talk about cool dating type apps, happn is cutting edge in my opinion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
barrelwave Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 It's been 2 long years since my break up, and I was on to casual online dating after a couple of months. Tried Tinder recently without much hopes of success until most recently, I actually made contact with a lady when we both swiped right. (The other "swiped rights" made it to nowhere.) Till now we've communicated mostly over text and met up twice. We have some funny jokes to say, some opinions about local politics in our country. Tonight's going to be the third time we meet. But I'm not sure if she's pulling this off just because she was late for dinner during our previous meetup, or is she really curious about getting to know me. I'm really looking forward to get to know her better because she really kind of piqued my interest. What's holding me back was her break up with her bf last year, and she must be hung up on the inside. And she needs to take time to heal herself. Should I just take this night to figure out if she's interested but cautious? I'd like to be her friend, or maybe more when the time is right. Relationships is always about the chemistry and the timing, right? Link to post Share on other sites
fluidian Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 One of my buddies recently told me to try out Tinder - so I figured, why not. I connected with a fair number of people, and a batch today all of sudden started sending out super short messages stating, "Hiii XXXX, here's my number: YYYYYY, txt me". The messages aren't all identical, but they're somewhat close (although it's so generic, that it wouldn't be hard for a lot of people to type the same thing). Is it sketchy to text these people? It's seems curious, as I hadn't gotten that kind of response until earlier today, then it was several of them back-to-back. Has anyone else had an experience like this? I doubt I'll contact any of them - as it seems like they're trying to harvest active telephone numbers... Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 One of my buddies recently told me to try out Tinder - so I figured, why not. I connected with a fair number of people, and a batch today all of sudden started sending out super short messages stating, "Hiii XXXX, here's my number: YYYYYY, txt me". The messages aren't all identical, but they're somewhat close (although it's so generic, that it wouldn't be hard for a lot of people to type the same thing). Is it sketchy to text these people? It's seems curious, as I hadn't gotten that kind of response until earlier today, then it was several of them back-to-back. Has anyone else had an experience like this? I doubt I'll contact any of them - as it seems like they're trying to harvest active telephone numbers... I had a friend tell me to try Tinder once. I downloaded the app, started yessing and no-ing girls and within 5 minutes I had made a connection. She reached out to me immediately and started conversation. By the 3rd message she was asking me to visit her cam site and if I had a credit card ready. Yeah, that app was deleted immediately. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fluidian Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 A few of the people that sent numbers seem to have deleted or hidden their profile already as their pictures don't load. It seemed very sketchy...I think it deserves a delete for being a bit on the nasty side... Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 There are a lot of spammers on Tinder, just delete them and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 If it looks too good to be truly, it usually is. There are a lot of bots on Tinder that want you to pay for cam shows. Link to post Share on other sites
wb1988 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 You can check their fb on tinder, and you can be sure that girls will be checking your before a meetup. Tinder is really just like having a pre-arranged meetup with a stranger, but they lose interest real quick and you have to be good at texting/messaging to keep the interest going. You are actually better off just smiling and chatting up a nearby hot girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 You can check their fb on tinder, and you can be sure that girls will be checking your before a meetup. Tinder is really just like having a pre-arranged meetup with a stranger, but they lose interest real quick and you have to be good at texting/messaging to keep the interest going. You are actually better off just smiling and chatting up a nearby hot girl. No - you cant check someones FB. It only loads their pictures & "likes". Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 hook up site and hookers. Link to post Share on other sites
devilish innocent Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 It sounds like she's genuinely interested in getting to know you. You're making a lot of assumptions regarding how she feels about her ex, and you haven't really said why. If she's meeting people on Tinder, I'd assume she feels ready to date. She might just be throwing herself into a rebound situation. You can try to get a feel for that by how long she's been separated and what you pick up from her. If you're unsure about anything, then take it slow. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
barrelwave Posted February 15, 2015 Share Posted February 15, 2015 (edited) It sounds like she's genuinely interested in getting to know you. You're making a lot of assumptions regarding how she feels about her ex, and you haven't really said why. If she's meeting people on Tinder, I'd assume she feels ready to date. She might just be throwing herself into a rebound situation. You can try to get a feel for that by how long she's been separated and what you pick up from her. If you're unsure about anything, then take it slow. How do I get pass the small talk with my tinder date? I'm actually rather keen to get to know her better after the 3rd meet-up. I've arranged a date with her about two weeks from now, due to our busy schedules. Any tips? Edited February 15, 2015 by barrelwave Link to post Share on other sites
Midnight811 Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 When I read your post I immediately think of myself. Your situation can related to mine. I met this cute guy via tinder last month. We've been on a date twice before he went back to his home country for his mom's wedding. At first I only wanted to get to know someone new and hang out with them out of boredom. I didn't really expect anything out of my tinder date. It turned out he is so sweet and nice. I really like him. We keep talking nonstop since the first day we know each other. He said he likes me too and he will come visit me and stay with me for 2 months. Although we agree to take things slowly at first. so to answer your question - ever met someone on Tinder you think you might get serious about? I'd say yes I met this guy and we're getting more and more serious each day. Don't judge her feelings based on her break up though. I broke up with my previous boyfriend last year as well and I'm doing so well with the healing process. I think she is on the same page as me. If she uses tinder it's a sign that she's ready to meet someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
andrewgold Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 What's your experience with Tinder? Usually, when I get a match and have the first date, I usually figure out that the other person quite hates some things that I really like (or the other way around) and it's a no-go then. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I've had a fair few first dates but only liked one. I think with other dating sites you get a good idea of what they're about as the profiles have a lot more info, tinder profiles are very short. I dont know, I've just been really disappointed. Link to post Share on other sites
andrewgold Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 Well, that's true. But I'm quite lazy to make a full profile (my bad, I know) and getting a date through a traditional website takes too long (at least to me). Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 What cracks me up is how many people are now trying to use Tinder for serious dating because they're too cheap to join Match.com Tinder is a casual sex hook up app. It was designed for people that want one night stands and NSA relationships. As a personal trainer, I am around a lot of women. So whenever I hear yet another story of shock and dismay that a guy on Tinder just wanted sex, I always chuckle and ask "What do you expect on a hookup app?" Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I think its expected to either have no biography or a brief one. Whereas something like okcupid had all the questions and stats etc. it may not be a bad thing. I just haven't had much luck, felt really let down and underwhelmed by most of my dates. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 Never used it and dont need to. Have enough in my plate as is from old. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 What cracks me up is how many people are now trying to use Tinder for serious dating because they're too cheap to join Match.com Tinder is a casual sex hook up app. It was designed for people that want one night stands and NSA relationships. As a personal trainer, I am around a lot of women. So whenever I hear yet another story of shock and dismay that a guy on Tinder just wanted sex, I always chuckle and ask "What do you expect on a hookup app?" Do people use ok Cupid or pof bc they're too cheap for match? Those sites are just as popular for hookups and casual sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Rko28 Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 It is what you make of it. I used it a couple of years back and met a couple of really nice genuine girls on it, nothing came of any of the dates except I kept in touch with one girl and we are good friends now and help each other out when we have girl/boy problems haha. One thing I didnt find is that a lot of girls were on there for an ego trip, to see how many likes they could get. They would chat with you for a bit before vanishing. Link to post Share on other sites
andrewgold Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 Well, you never know what happens. Doesn't matter whether it's Tinder, Match.com, or anything else. It all matches you by common interests. I found a new app that's gonna match you by common things that you hate. Do you think it could work? Link to post Share on other sites
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