somedude81 Posted May 13, 2014 Share Posted May 13, 2014 (edited) I checked it out. No selfies man! Put a picture with friends visibly cropped out. Selfies are a bad vibe. Makes you look like a loner. Well, there's a reason for that. Well I do have some pictures of me with my mom. I can crop her out, but it will still look like somebody is there. Is that better? Edited May 13, 2014 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
CadeYeager Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 So last night I got curious and downloaded Tinder. Hooked up my Facebook and did the whole left & right swiping. After an hour or so I got a match with a girl I obviously right swiped earlier. She was very attractive. Still be a bit weary about the whole thing I held off messaging for a while. Then I got a message from her with just her phone number. A bit forward but I didn't mind. What message is she trying to get across but sending that? Sorry I know she wants me to text her, but I wanted to get everyone's take on it. Still a bit cautious I saw that we had a mutual friend. I went to a buddy of mines' FB and looked up her page. All pictures were legit including post from other people. Looked at the area code on the phone number and it matched her location of ATL. So should I message my number back? Or do I just text the number? Link to post Share on other sites
Beanacre0 Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 Just text her. What do you have to lose? Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 ok, set me straight... Is Tinder or is it NOT a hookup site? Link to post Share on other sites
iDrumKing Posted May 17, 2014 Share Posted May 17, 2014 ok, set me straight... Is Tinder or is it NOT a hookup site? It's made to be a "dating app". But let's face it, a majority of use it to hook up. Cade, if she's out right texting you her number without prior conversation, she's probably DTF. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Could be a robot or hooker. Do you really want a girl like this? I mean do you even know her name? Does she know yours? Sounds desperate... on your part. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 So last night I got curious and downloaded Tinder. Hooked up my Facebook and did the whole left & right swiping. After an hour or so I got a match with a girl I obviously right swiped earlier. She was very attractive. Still be a bit weary about the whole thing I held off messaging for a while. Then I got a message from her with just her phone number. A bit forward but I didn't mind. What message is she trying to get across but sending that? Sorry I know she wants me to text her, but I wanted to get everyone's take on it. Still a bit cautious I saw that we had a mutual friend. I went to a buddy of mines' FB and looked up her page. All pictures were legit including post from other people. Looked at the area code on the phone number and it matched her location of ATL. So should I message my number back? Or do I just text the number? Ask your mutual friend how he knows her. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 ok, set me straight... Is Tinder or is it NOT a hookup site? It's whatever you want it to be. I just got back from a date with a very respectable girl I met on tinder and will be going on a second date with her. Link to post Share on other sites
DArtagnan2 Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 (edited) I installed it just last week after hearing about it here and somewhere else because there is this girl I have seen around but we are not in the same work locations and after Tuesday, I may be relocated. We have talked here or there and an email exchange finally, but it was short. I think there was something like this on Facebook at one time, where you can like a profile and if the same person liked your profile as well, it became a match. I can't remember the name, but I also think you had to pay to communicate once the match was made. This is not my first experience to online dating or whatever this Tinder app is suppose to be. I have had a couple of profiles that my friends set up for me shortly after my ex and I split. I did some searching then, but didn't put too much in to it. I am not an avid user. but in searching for this gal's profile, (if she even has one), as I am swiping left and right, I notice that most pictures posted are of these gals with a drink in their hand, group pictures where I have to look through their pictures to see who they really are, or them partying, or on some guys arm, etc. I mean, the majority I see are, so much that I am writing a post about it, yeh? I have read that guys shouldn't post profile pictures of them with another woman, or in a group because the female doesn't want to have to guess which guy it is, or with a drink, or partying etc... That it makes the females think of those guys in a negative light more then positive. but its ok for women? Edited May 18, 2014 by DArtagnan2 Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Eh, my picture is with a girl, and I do just fine haha. Girls can put up any picture they want. Most guys just tap the like button till their thumb falls off. Only if the guy in the picture is more attractive than me do I feel bothered Actually, if a guy posts a pic with a cute girl, it may add value to him if anything. Link to post Share on other sites
DArtagnan2 Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Eh, my picture is with a girl, and I do just fine haha. Girls can put up any picture they want. Most guys just tap the like button till their thumb falls off. Only if the guy in the picture is more attractive than me do I feel bothered Actually, if a guy posts a pic with a cute girl, it may add value to him if anything. lol (more attractive then you) Its not so much about if it bothers me or not. I could really care less, although, I am not in to party girls so much so if all the pictures are at parties, something that looks like uncontrollable dancing with a drink in the hand, or half nude pictures on a bed, I would most likely swipe to the left. I guess I was more wondering about in my talking to the female gender and reading articles about what works on dating profiles and what doesn't, the majority of women say guys should not put pictures on their profiles like that. That they will most likely get you swiped to the left. Yet, in almost every profile I have swiped through, the females have those kinds of pictures. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FortunateSon Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 I just downloaded Tinder, I have gotten 12 matches in the last half hour, but I think I made the mistake of going right on almost all of the women that came up? I don't live in a very big community, is it more advisable to stick to ones you would actually want to go out with? Most of the matches are from farther away or not what I am looking for? Is there a way to edit what you have done with swipes? Link to post Share on other sites
rubberman Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 ok, set me straight... Is Tinder or is it NOT a hookup site? Tinder is THE biggest hookup App there is. All my tinder dates ive slept with on the first date. All girls on tinder are sluts. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 (edited) Ugh! Tinder sucks. I've lost track of how many hundreds of girls I've liked, and I haven't had one match from a non scammer. I've included the pictures on my LS album in my Tinder, but I guess I'm just too ugly for Tinder. BTW: How come the only women who visit my OKC page are obese? Edited May 21, 2014 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
mindykaling Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 I think there was something like this on Facebook at one time, where you can like a profile and if the same person liked your profile as well, it became a match. I can't remember the name, but I also think you had to pay to communicate once the match was made. It was called Are You Interested? It was fun for a while but then it turned to trash. Trashier than Tinder. Link to post Share on other sites
starrynightz45 Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is all about hooking up, period. It's very very very rare for both parties to actually be interested in something serious. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is all about hooking up, period. It's very very very rare for both parties to actually be interested in something serious. I've seen many profiles from women who explain in the text that they are looking for a relationship and are not looking for a hookup or ONS or NSA etc. I don't think it's just about hooking up, whatever the hype suggests. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is THE biggest hookup App there is. All my tinder dates ive slept with on the first date. All girls on tinder are sluts. Clearly I've been doing things wrong -.- I always make a point to have a short and sober first date to screen out weirdos... even with girls I meet at bars. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is all about hooking up, period. It's very very very rare for both parties to actually be interested in something serious. That's just not true. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is all about hooking up, period. If you only go after women who want hook ups on Tinder then that's what you will experience. You may wish to take that into consideration when trumping up your version of an absolute truth next time. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted May 21, 2014 Share Posted May 21, 2014 Tinder is all about hooking up, period. It's very very very rare for both parties to actually be interested in something serious. I've been dating a Tinder date for two months now and its great. Met a lot of people on it who are definitely "up for a relationship". Both genders generally classify others into 3 categories: 1. not f***able and not relationship material 2. f***able but not relationship material 3. f***able and relationship material You could be 2 and you could be 3, they'll meet up with you and figure out exactly which later. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Guy_Incognito Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Hi! Great site you have here, I'm glad I stumbled across it. I'll just post my tinder-specific question here, and will probably start a new thread with a broader issue I have, which I could also use advice with. Anyway, tinder: I signed up about 2 weeks ago, not really knowing what to expect, or what I was looking for to be honest. I've been pretty successful getting matches, with almost 400 so far (apparently I'm decent looking - I've been working hard at it for the last year or so, so that's been good positive reinforcement). I've also had several really good conversations, that seemed like they may turn into meetings. Howevah...things always go off the rails as soon as I tell them about my kid situation. It's not bad like 11 baby mommas, but I do have 4 kids, and they live with me full time, which obviously makes any sort of dating difficult. The girls I've been talking to seem to think it's admirable, but clearly don't want to deal with that much baggage. Which is completely understandable. So, I've come to the conclusion that my best bet is to just have a FWB or two, not get too attached, and there would be no expectations of a relationship, since I just don't think I can pull it off with all my kid/work responsibilities. I'm sure I'll want one eventually, but I think I could live with FWBs for a couple years or so. My question is what's a good way to broadcast that on tinder, without seeming like a perv? I know I can just come out and say "looking for FWB", but is there a smoother, or funnier way? That is a reasonable thing to say, right? I mean it is allegedly a hook up site. Anyway, I thought I'd close my account and start over with that message right out in the open. That way my matches, albeit far fewer, would ostensibly be down for that sort of arrangement. Also, any other advice for a guy in my situation, that's good at getting conversations going, but terrible at getting dates? Thanks so much! Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Don't say 'looking for FWB', try saying that you're just looking for something casual, light and fun, without getting too serious. Everyone knows what it means but it projects it in a more appealing light for those who are like minded. Given that you just want something casual, it's also important you say something that projects the idea that you still like and respect women, as even the ones who are happy to do casual sex still don't want to be treated like a disposable object. Link to post Share on other sites
RonaldS Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 I have a Tinder account but don't use it for much more than entertainment. It's rare that I will talk to a woman on Tinder, and if I do, it's because she messaged me first. Well, a really cute woman with a sweet body messaged me about a week and a half ago. We exchanged #s right away, and had been texting a lot since then. We're both busy and both have kids, so although we live in the same neighborhood, it has been a lot of back and forth trying to get a meet-up scheduled. I'm not out cruising for some big relationship, so I don't usually sweat that. Anyway, we established a good rapport, as we're both from the same part of the same state. Lot of good text banter, lot of interest, etc. Yeaterday, I was working out with a good buddy. I had introduced him to Tinder a few months back, so we're always exchanging Tinder stories. We were at the gym, and he was telling me he met a girl last week on Tinder, met up with her at some street fest thing, and ended up going back to her place and hooking up. Then he asked me if I had any action going. I start describing this girl, and telling him I was supposed to meet up with her this weekend. He asks me her name, I tell him, and he says 'That's the name of the girl I just hooked up with!'. Well, we're in a city of almost 10,000,000, so what are the odds it could be the same girl? Turns out, pretty good. Yep. Same chick. Now, here's what's hilarious. In all of the conversations I've had with this woman, she always painted herself as a goodie-goodie. Helped out at the church, wasn't somebody who dated much after her divorce, sweet, innocent, etc. OK, except you met my buddy who is a sh*tbag and banged him 3 hours later, hahaha! Holy crap. So hilarious. My buddy was like, 'Oh dude, you'll get her in bed for sure'. Mmmmm....no I won't. Because you just hit it and regardless of how cute and sexy she is, you just totally killed it for me. Can't do it. My buddy said he left his hat at her house. When she gets ahold of me to set up a time to get together, I'm thinking about saying 'Cool. And John told me he left his hat at your place, so can you bring that with you?'. Oh my God, that would be hilarious. Effing Tinder....wow. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
firmness Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 Effing Tinder....wow. Tinder did nothing. Tinder is an app. A woman did all of that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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