lovelylilly Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Long story short, my ex broke up with me because he was pressured with his new job, things going on with his family, and it's possible he failed the bar (still not sure, but I really think he did). If you want to read through it, the story's here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/425288-out-no-where#post5214334 But my current problem is that mornings are still extremely difficult for me. I never had trouble sleeping after the break up, but ever since day one I wake up at odd times in the early morning. Recently it's just been around 5:30 or 6 so it's not so bad, but I never fall back asleep. I wake up and I just think about him and what went wrong and how to fix it. Well, this morning was the worst, I woke up feeling really depressed and I texted him "You hate me?". After I pressed send I couldn't believe what I had just done!! I wanted to text him back to apologize and tell him to ignore it, but I knew that would make it worse so I just let it go. Around lunch time he responded "No, of course not" but that was it. I wasn't really expecting him to respond so I was shocked. Well that's when it got worse, I just messaged him saying I hate this whole situation and how I wish we could just talk, and I apologized for texting him at work and "I'm not psychotic, I promise". I'm totally a psycho. I really need to let him go and move on. He told me he wanted to be friends, but to move slowly. I'm totally not respecting that, and I need help coping because this break up was the hardest I have ever gone through. I really don't understand how two people who are really into each other (his friends told me last night that he is still in love with me and it just broke my heart) and can't be together. Help please! 1
AnyaNova Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I wish I could help you understand. My ex sent me out of his life despite extreme pain in doing so. The last night we spent together will be firmly emblazoned in my memory forever. But he sent me away, regardless, and has not contacted me since, even on the day that I broke and broke NC. I think, as hard as it is when they don't seem to care any more about you, it is a thousand times more difficult to get over when it is very clear that they still have strong feelings for you and miss you. 1
JoelBarish Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 You are absolutely NOT a psycho and your ex probably doesn't think you are either. I was worried my ex thought I was a stalker because of handled things early on in my break up. But that wasn't the case because she came over a few days later to clear things up. So anyway I think that sometimes we feel out of control emotionally during a break up and we don't always handle things the right way and then beat ourselves up about it. Now pull yourself together and get back to NC. You have a lot of healing to do and that's not going to happen as long as you keep waiting for your ex to text you back and feeling rejected if he doesn't. 2
Mr Scorpio Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Long story short, my ex broke up with me because he was pressured with his new job, things going on with his family, and it's possible he failed the bar (still not sure, but I really think he did). It sounds to me like his reasons for breaking-up had nothing to do with you. In other words, you didn't screw up. But my current problem is that mornings are still extremely difficult for me. I never had trouble sleeping after the break up, but ever since day one I wake up at odd times in the early morning. Recently it's just been around 5:30 or 6 so it's not so bad, but I never fall back asleep. I wake up and I just think about him and what went wrong and how to fix it. That's brain chemistry for you. You wake up early, don't get enough sleep and become stressed. Then, because of the stress you wake up early the next day and go through it all again. There is no shame in taking a sleeping pill or some melatonin to break the cycle. That is what I'm trying tonight.
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