KeepItBoosted Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 (edited) Well I am having a really hard time today, here's My Story If you don't feel like a long read I'll sum it up. My (ex)girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me about 3 months ago, she "needed space". I find out its just because she is into her boss and wants to see if gigs. I didn't know. Thought we were working on our relationship while she's going out and having sex with whoever, stringing me along the whole 2+months. I find out everything, completely leave and have been NC for 2 weeks. she contacted me 4 days ago through E-Mail, I read it. She's apologizing and wants me back blahblahblah. I delete it. The next day she txt's me a few times, I read the first one same story I'm sorry I want to talk, I want to try again. I delete it. Now she's been texting me everyday at least once a day, havn't opened any of them, straight to the trash. I can see the beginning of the messages, which sucks, but I continue to delete. I am struggling, it's so recent. I want her back, but I know I shouldn't and I know I can't trust her. I probably will never be able to trust her. She is making it quite difficult. I don't want to pay to have her number blocked but I may have to. I ****ing miss her, I've been doing really well but it is becoming insanely hard to keep NC. I know in my mind thats what I must do, but my heart is aching for her real bad right now. I'm really struggling today, I want to read all the texts, I wonder what she is saying in them, but it's best they never see their way to my eyes. ****ty day Edited September 12, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
barky2 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Of course, you want her back. She was your world for years. And of course she came back after sonething didn't work out Typical. I'm proud of you for deleting Honestly, you dodged a bullet. She will, if you take her back, do it again some day. Keep deleting and pushing forward They will eventually stop. So proud of you. * hands you $5 to go get a beer on me* Barky 5
HappyLove Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Wow! Good for you for being so strong!!! You will find someone worthy of your love and loyalty. Trust, if it worked out for her she wouldn't even be bothered with you but now that it hasn't she's back. I'm sure work life is hell too, who mess around with the boss and thinks everything will work out? Serves her right. Stay strong! 1
JDPT Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 It's rough indeed, we all go through our ups and downs, it's the inevitable and excruciating process to a new and improved us. Today has been a very challenging day for me as well, or perhaps it has been for the past few days. We need to hang on tight. I like to view me as standing in the street, in the middle of a storm hanging on to dear life until the storm subsides. The sun will later emerge making us feel even more ready for the next time the storm decides to get the best of us. 2
Author KeepItBoosted Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 Thanks for the responses, it helps. Barky, your an inspiration man. Read your posts and they have helped quite a bit. I'm glad to hear things worked out for you and yours. I am a little envious though, not gunna lie. Thanks for the beer too! HappyLove, Thanks! I'm tryin real hard, but I know everything will be alright. Yea I couldn't believe it when I found out...She went so far as to tell me she felt the same for him as she did me when we first met. That felt real good. JDPT, Hang in there buddy, we'll weather this storm. Good analogy, everytime I it starts to let up and I see a glimmer of sun, the clouds roll back in for another downpour. One of these days it will be sunny for more than a few moments.
barky2 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 My pleasure man. You will too, also get to a point where you'll be fine with, or without her. That's what I try to push everyone to get too. Its such a incredible feeling. Sure I got her back the minute I reached it. But I was also fine without her, and would have been fine with datin someone new. Not going to lie, it took me a long time to get there. Take her reaching out to you as a ego boost. Feels good doesn't it? Do NOT give her the power. Let her lie in the bed she dug. Her loss. Barky
NoLeafClover Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Well I am having a really hard time today, here's My Story If you don't feel like a long read I'll sum it up. My (ex)girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me about 3 months ago, she "needed space". I find out its just because she is into her boss and wants to see if gigs. I didn't know. Thought we were working on our relationship while she's going out and having sex with whoever, stringing me along the whole 2+months. I find out everything, completely leave and have been NC for 2 weeks. she contacted me 4 days ago through E-Mail, I read it. She's apologizing and wants me back blahblahblah. I delete it. The next day she txt's me a few times, I read the first one same story I'm sorry I want to talk, I want to try again. I delete it. Now she's been texting me everyday at least once a day, havn't opened any of them, straight to the trash. I can see the beginning of the messages, which sucks, but I continue to delete. I am struggling, it's so recent. I want her back, but I know I shouldn't and I know I can't trust her. I probably will never be able to trust her. She is making it quite difficult. I don't want to pay to have her number blocked but I may have to. I ****ing miss her, I've been doing really well but it is becoming insanely hard to keep NC. I know in my mind thats what I must do, but my heart is aching for her real bad right now. I'm really struggling today, I want to read all the texts, I wonder what she is saying in them, but it's best they never see their way to my eyes. ****ty day If you reply to this woman who's been cheating on you and stringing you along while screwing her boss....i am going to come out of your computer screen and smack you in the head. Do not be a fool. You don't miss her you miss the idea of her being around. I know from experience trust me on this. Look at my second post on here from Jan 2013 was exactly about the same thing (here) My ex ex broke up with me, then after she would contact me throwing breakcrumbs and asking me if I loved her stil etc etc. Sending messages hinting towards a reconciliation. As far as I know she could of been screwing someone else or just simply had a bad week...bottom line is, she broke my trust and the relationship. same thing is happening in your case People don't change by simply sending a few messages and emails. Don't fool yourself she is going to change and not trip & slip on her bosses penis when you're not around. I see this all the time at my work. There are plenty of men and women at my company that are married and screwing each other. It comes with a personality and unhappiness in a relationship. Those who are in love and care about their partner do not make such decisions. Do you want to be the guy who's got a woman that's screwing others on the side? What about when you're invited to her work events, what do you think is going to happen? You know how sometimes you catch people whispering to each other and you get that feeling they are talking bad about someone...well in this case it would be about you and how her co-worker is or was banging your girlfriend behind your back. Joke's on you. You keeping NC is telling her your grounds as a man. If you allow yourself back in, you are going to be a fool. Whether she wants to be with you or not at this point, the relationship is OVER. Cheating in a relationship especially with a co-worker CAN NOT be salvaged. You'd only be fooling yourself. Stay strong and be proud of how things turned around on your end. There are peeps on here that are dying to get some type of text/emails from their ex just so they get that ego boost. Use this moment at your advantage and towards your heeling process. You will be over this in no time. 4
Author KeepItBoosted Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 Hahaha I know man, I'm holding my ground. I am not caving it was just rough today and needed to vent. I know there is no way in hell I would let myself do that. Sometimes I do feel like I need a good smack!
Author KeepItBoosted Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 So, since last week she has been texting me a lot. Last night she called at 11:30pm and woke me up, I didn't answer of course. Then left a txt, deleted it this morning. She called twice this morning and left one message, I listened to it. Same story she misses me soo much she wants to try again crap, deleted it. Then she sends me a text shortly after saying that if I ever thought we had something special I would give it another try, she loves me garbage, deleted. I am starting to get pissed and I want to say something back like If YOU ever thought this was something special or worth it you wouldn't have left me and had so easily let someone inside you not to mention emotionally let yourself fall for your fkin boss months before I had any idea what you were up to. Yea I'm sure I meant soo much to you at that moment when you were getting pounded every possible way, I have been dealing with hell for the past couple months while you were probably out doing whoever smiled at you. Go kick rocks you sandy beach. FK YOU!!!...But I won't I'll just vent here. Who the hell does she think she is? AND who the hell does she think I am? Some spineless fkin doormat for her...HA You know who I am, I can put up with a lot but this ****, you better wise the fk up. Have a nice life comparing all your future relationships to what we once had. I know my worth and I know what I want in a woman and she's nothing like you could ever be. I am going to continue to enjoy my single life, going out doing whatever the hell I want and answering to no one but myself. When the day comes that someone worth keeping enters my life, I'll have you to thank. 1
HappyLove Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Good for you! Yup, just keep venting here. Why not block her number!
barky2 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Stay strong! It will stop. Don't listen to another vmail. Barky
Author KeepItBoosted Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 Yea no more listening, no more reading. I just don't really feel like paying another $5/mo. to at&t to block one number, they already suck and have crappy service where I live, giving them another 5 bucks just seems criminal. I'll just vent here =). Just writing out what I wanted to say was helpful. 1
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Keepitboosted man i dont know ... i am excited about your pride and ethics.... please dont get her. avoid her fully. really? with her boss? run away ... she did you a favor my friend..... gigs and bulls hit some things arent for sale and aint things in the first place.... you have the power... please keep the win .. -john
Zahara Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 If we only had more threads like this. So very proud of you for standing your ground. Please do not respond. Move on with your life. You already know this but I'll say it again. You deserve better. 2
NoLeafClover Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 If you say something back you will kick yourself in the balls right after. Nothing aggravates a dumper than when the dumpee is not responding back. Let sleeping dogs lie for now. Sooner or later she will get the hint and realize what she did and what she had. Please do not go back to someone like this PLEASE. For your own good. I know it's hard to not reply and you will hit some days where you wish you had replied but if you give it time, you will realize that you had no choice but to move on for your own good.
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