Beatrixx Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 My ex and I recently got back together. I did NC for 9 months until he contacted me and said he wanted me back. I posted this thread a few days ago when my ex told me had lots of one night stands after we broke up. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/419056-he-told-me-he-slept-loads-women I tried my best to hide that I was bothered and just said I could forget about it as long as he proved to me that it was only me he wanted now. However, he's not doing a very good job... He keeps making up stuff and I don't know why. Maybe you guys can help me figure out why... For example, we went to a restaurant and two people he knew sat down near us. He told me he once had a threesome with them. I was like 'what?' And then 30 seconds after he said he was joking. And then towards the end of our meal he said 's***, a girl I had sex with is over there." And eventually once again he admitted to joking once I had turned around and he had got a puzzled reaction from me. I think he's being a bit of an *******. Don't you? Why could he be doing it? Is he trying to make me jealous or does just enjoy seeing how gullible I am? I didn't say anything for him to resent me... I tried to be as understanding as possible for his sake and the sake of our relationship, even though it hurts me.
Zahara Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Is this the same guy from over the last 12 months you've been posting threads about?
bubbaganoosh Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I told you before that the guy is a bull sh--er. I understand that your getting edgy and for good reason. Lose him. He's full of himself and he's doing his best to let you know that you are the luckiest woman walking the face of the world. Take a look around the restaurant. He screwed them all but he wants only you. My advice, tell him to take his threesomes and shove it and advise him to go to a clinic and get tested. 1
Mariposa10 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 What a pig! Who does he think he is?? Like people have said before, have you asked him to get tested? Have you had sex with him? If I were you I wouldn't until he gets tested! You should ask him what his point is by telling you those stupid things. If he doesn't stop, you should stop seeing him. He sounds very immature. But most importantly ask him to get tested, if you've had sex with him you should get tested too.
Jenny1234 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 How old is this dude? Run in the other direction!
FierceFoxie Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I told you before that the guy is a bull sh--er. I understand that your getting edgy and for good reason. Lose him. He's full of himself and he's doing his best to let you know that you are the luckiest woman walking the face of the world. Take a look around the restaurant. He screwed them all but he wants only you. My advice, tell him to take his threesomes and shove it and advise him to go to a clinic and get tested. I agree he is a BSer! It sounds like he is severally insecure and is exaggerating to seem macho. I don't think he is doing this on purpose to hurt you but rather to build himself up. My ex does stupid **** like this to me too. He has randomly mentioned how some girl followed him into a bathroom and asked him for sex or when we were together out for dinner once, he told me that when I got up to go to the bathroom the waitress was asking him to go to Hawaii with a bunch of her girlfriends. Conveniently I was never present when those things happened so I call BS! Don't play into his game. When he mentions other girls, don't even wince. He is looking for a reaction. A jealous reaction shows him you care. It's twisted; I know but insecure men are always looking for validation through stupid games like this.
lylat333 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 (edited) Yeah, run the other direction. When I dumped a previous long-term ex and then wanted her back later, I am guilty of saying a couple of things (thankfully on a smaller scale) that were completely inappropriate regarding other women who showed attraction in me. I was so desperate and out of options I thought it would make me look better. I was trying to inflate my bruised ego and fuel jealousy in my ex by trying to show other women are interested in me... thought it would make her worry about losing me to someone else. It was totally wrong, probably pretty transparent what I was trying to do. It was also very unusual behavior for me. Your ex is simply not in the right place emotionally, and may not ever be for you two. It's your prerogative if you want to judge him on his behavior while you two were apart. I don't know how I would react if I found out my ex slept with someone while we're apart, let alone multiple people... and I too find it pretty messed up when I don't see myself having sex anytime soon unless I get involved with someone I feel very strong about, and if I get to that point I doubt I will want to reconcile. Edited August 28, 2013 by lylat333
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