Dazzee Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Me and my girlfriend broke up on the 10th, we've seen each other twice since. I saw her one day (4 days after) and we spent the day together we connected and cried a whole lot she said she found it really hard. I was leaving the country to return to the UK (from Canada) I asked her to spend the day with me she refused. Ever since that day (16th) I didn't contact her for a week, I then messaged her and she hasn't replied since, I know she got the messages though. We have talked for 4 years everyday all day, literally. From what I've heard she looks really rough, and is having a rough time dealing with this. Is she just trying to ice me out till she can get over me or is she just cutting me out of her life? She said she still wants to be friends... I am the dumpee FYI.
Author Dazzee Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 It's over dude, let it go. Maybe you can be friends in the future, but not now... I didn't say anywhere that it wasn't over, I live on the other side of the planet, I know where I currently stand.
Soat Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 If you care about her, leave her alone to get over you
Author Dazzee Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 If you care about her, leave her alone to get over you I do care about her, but - why does this mean I can't keep in contact with her? I mean we won't physically see one another and both know its over. She hasn't even messaged me to see if I got home ok or anything at all, so it seems as though she doesn't care about me, which is unthinkable for me personally...
Soat Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Uh it's pretty clear. Read the no contact thread if you need to understand why she doesn't want to communicate -- for most people its only way to move on. (I suspect you're very young which is why you don't get it) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion
Author Dazzee Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Uh it's pretty clear. Read the no contact thread if you need to understand why she doesn't want to communicate -- for most people its only way to move on. (I suspect you're very young which is why you don't get it) I understand the concept of no contact. She is the one who wanted to remain friends and insisted upon this whilst I was unsure. No contact is not the only way to cope with a break up. (I suspect you're very old which is why you feel you can talk down to me.)
Soat Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I understand the concept of no contact. She is the one who wanted to remain friends and insisted upon this whilst I was unsure. No contact is not the only way to cope with a break up. (I suspect you're very old which is why you feel you can talk down to me.) I wasn't talking down to you but now I will...you're being egocentric. She's likely done with you and smartly she knows the only way to get over someone is to completely remove them from her life. Your ego is taking a hit as she's just walking away despite what she said (people say a lot of things during a breakup conversation that they may or may not believe at the time or later). I bet a wise person advised her to consider you completely gone despite what she "claimed" to want to do. If it helps your ego recovery, maybe she will resurface in a few months or a year but until then recognize this is something she needs to do for herself and has nothing to do with you or what she felt or feels about you. Good luck.
theonlyjuan Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 She has probably gone NC on you. Don't take it personally, pretty much everyone here does it.
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