asianconfusion Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Just an update on the following post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/415741-relationship-cooling-off-gf-needs-some-time-think So, what has happened so far for the past weeks is my gf and I still meet, talk, and text. However, in the back of our minds we do know that there's something in the relationship that needs to be resolved. It's just that we have more important thing at hands at the moment which is preparing ourselves for the license. Here is the most interesting and yet confusing part: we got intimate (I'll let your creative imaginations fly) a few times for consecutive days and after each time, she would tell me to forget about it; pretend nothing happened and etc. She also said that I'm sorry for sending the wrong message. Blah Blah Blah. Basically, I guess she's saying the problem is still there. It doesn't mean the problem is fixed because what we've done. It's just that she doesn't have time to deal with it at the moment. And sometimes when we hang out outside, she would push me away for getting too close. Maybe it's just one sided but I truly feel like we both have the same understanding that we still have feelings for each other... But I don't know why is she trying so hard to ignore it? Does this mean that the relationship is still on a "negotiable" status? Is it just that she needs more time? What should i do? What else can i do? I am trying my best to convey the message to her that I'm changing and will keeping changing for her. I'm not going to treat her like a jerk ever again... I mean I'm giving all the time she needs. The only thing that bothers me is what if when time comes, she decided to completely deny my presence? I don't know how to deal with it..... Any comments or suggestions are highly welcome and appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Sounds like you're a booty call and she's using you to get over you. Kinda like you're giving her enough to stay afloat and look around, but she still doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Don't be surprised if one day she just disappears and is dating someone else.
Ireallydontknow Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I think statistics are against people on breaks. Imagine one day you have complete freedom, are allowed to bang someone who does you good, and not have to answer to anyone. OF COURSE THEY THINK BEING APART IS AWESOME! Most of the time they are children who want NO ACCOUNTABILITY. Trust me my "break" ended up in getting cheated on, and she still needed more time. I couldn't give her more time. How much more time of your life are you willing to give? You'll need to set the boundaries you feel comfortable going into. Just don't be surprised if it blows up in your face. I think it's time to slap NC on her and show her that you aren't a door mat. Trust me at day 10 of NC I'm a basket case, but i know someday it's all going to be worth it, right?
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