So I decided to give a divorce finally. Depressed.

[jeddarnold]

I posted here before, about my situation.

 

last week she told me she wants to know where i stood, she knows things are not working out, she is staying in the marriage because of family.

 

I been depressed since two months now.

 

I told her i will let her know after she comes back from her vacation. I did not want to ruin her vacation.

 

I really don't know what to do, now. I have no job and I am in college.

 

I worked hard for the family, I made so much money now i have nothing and i am almost broke, and because i listened to her advice on buying a big house which i could not afford to begin with, I lost the house and the money i put in the house. Then I bought another house for her because I wanted my daughter to have a good place to live.

 

I will be giving her everything i will walk away only with my car, I will be going for uncontested divorce. I am already scared of divorce.

 

My family loves her and i know i will be the bad guy now. I plan not to talk to any of family, they will only make me more sad.

 

I am thinking of getting a apartment and finish this semester of studies and look for jobs from next year.

 

I thought hard and long about this. I am in my 30's and i don't want to ruin my life in a unhappy marriage.

 

I don't know what the future holds for me .

 

I have no one to talk to, people don't care. I hope some one here can say something.

 

I wish i could go back, i could have done so many things different.

[Chixmom]

You have the right idea to plan for your future. Try to keep your goals simple like you said so you can stay focused on finishing the semester. It will certainly help you in the future either way this turns out.

 

I didn't read your other posts, but your daughter will love and respect you if you can spend quality time with her and make her understand she played no part in causing the problems.

[amaysngrace]

Hi. I didn't read your back story either but I hope you're okay.

 

Divorce is never easy. Why do you blame yourself though? A good marriage takes two and a bad one does too. I don't know why you're beating yourself up about your marriage failing.

 

You both failed.

[vla1120]

Hindsight is 20/20. Don't look back and second guess. You can't change the past. You can, however, concentrate on the future and work toward being a great father for your daughter. Finish your education, find work, start rebuilding your life for your daughter and for yourself.

[jeddarnold]

I think i blame myself for everything, I agree we both failed.

 

just want to take it one step at a time.

 

this is my first thread

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/375941-contemplating-divorce