Ninjainpajamas Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 So polo was very fun. I wore a summery dress but didn't have to - it was very casual. We packed a picnic basket with wine and cheese. Last night I told him I loved him and he reciprocated the sentiment. I'm in love with this gentleman. Rich or poor, he is the man in my life and I'm nuts about him. Just let me know If you make another post and it's about another guy...get's confusing! 2
Els Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Glad you had fun on your polo date. Really, I think you should just go with the flow, enjoy things, and just see how it turns out. Wealth in itself is not a red flag. 1
Weezy1973 Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 So polo was very fun. I wore a summery dress but didn't have to - it was very casual. We packed a picnic basket with wine and cheese. Last night I told him I loved him and he reciprocated the sentiment. I'm in love with this gentleman. Rich or poor, he is the man in my life and I'm nuts about him. I criticize the "always singles" on this site quite a bit, but I'm legitimately happy when they find love. I honestly think we all want to connect deeply with other humans (and sometimes don't admit it as a defense mechanism) and it seems you've found someone to connect with. My only advice would be to fight the fear and continue to be yourself and authentic no matter what. Openess and honesty are the cornerstones of successful relationships and it can get hard. 2
dizy Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I would be worried too. I actually stay away unconsciously (or maybe consciously) from very rich/too good looking guys. I just feel that they can have anyone that they want (I know it's not true) and that we might not have anything in common. Also, I know this is just dating not marriage, But different upbringings can result in very different values, especially about money. I am frugal and financially savvy. I spend money on traveling, gym, special restaurants, gifts for my friends/family, etc. But i never spend money on crapy restaurants because I feel too lazy to cook for instance. You might also have a hard time getting along with his friends because you don't have anything in common with them. this is coming from a person who likes classical music, speaks 4 languages. (things that some people will associate with wealth) I agree that no matter how rich that person is, he just want people to love him for who he is. Personally, the best way for me to overcome my insecurities about something is to talk about it with the person. Ask him about his experience with being wealthy and with women finding out that he is wealthy. Do people treat him different, etc. 1
Mycteria Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 I don't really have anything to add, but I've been wanting to say this for a while: the first text message was sent in the 1990s. Marilyn Monroe died in the 60s. Just sayin'! ;-)
RedRobin Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) OP, I'm a self made girl myself. My ex-H was from old money. Also didn't learn this for quite awhile. Can't say that part of things hurt our marriage too much... In fact, his family admired me BECAUSE I was 'self-made'. In their circles, there are a lot of people who aren't... which brings it's own set of problems and challenges. One thing I might challenge you on though... had you found out he came from more humble beginnings than your own, would you feel the same?? I mean, if the house in Virginia was more like bordering on some others commonly encountered in Appalachia... how would you feel? Because it is very easy to get swept away with the idea of going to polo matches, and rub elbows with the richy-riches... thing is, money doesn't buy character or empathy (or honesty and fidelity in my case) or anything else. For some reason, the fact that you told him you loved him shortly after you found out he came from $$ doesn't sit particularly well with me. Might just be something you both felt and the timing was right. I dunno. I would have waited, but that is just me. Edited August 5, 2013 by RedRobin
tbf Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Have fun at the polo match! Consider a sundress like this, while it's sleeveless, it's doesn't have any spaghetti straps and has enough room so that if you have to sit on the grass, you can still be comfortable. Don't wear anything with thin heels like stilettos unless you plan to aerate the lawn. Forget the pearls. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 If I was wealthy I'd certainly hide it at first. He probably tried to avoid golddiggers. Heck, I'm worried about being valued only for money even on a $40k+ salary, which is leading me to try to find a girl before I find a good job...
Emilia Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 My ex husband comes from a posh family and while he wasn't wealthy then, it was still a learning curve for me as a poor Eastern European. It's not the reason why we divorced and we were together for 10 years. Finding out how the other half lives is fun. Enjoy. 1
Joaquin Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 So polo was very fun. I wore a summery dress but didn't have to - it was very casual. We packed a picnic basket with wine and cheese. Last night I told him I loved him and he reciprocated the sentiment. I'm in love with this gentleman. Rich or poor, he is the man in my life and I'm nuts about him. U see the family silverware then hit him with an I love u. Thats actually hilarious. Do u think the timing was a bit conspicuous to him.
Author Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Nope was already feeling this way for a while, as evidenced by my earlier posts about him. And yeah I've dated a lot the past two years following my broken engagement and learned a lot about myself. Some great, some not. We had a wonderful weekend with our dogs, cooking, listening to music and learning more about each other. You know - stuff you don't need money for. Thanks to the well-wishers. 1
Imported Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 So polo was very fun. I wore a summery dress but didn't have to - it was very casual. We packed a picnic basket with wine and cheese. Last night I told him I loved him and he reciprocated the sentiment. I'm in love with this gentleman. Rich or poor, he is the man in my life and I'm nuts about him. Luckily he is rich. When a guy is rich, girls usually like to say stuff like that.......I would love you even if you didn't have a lot of $$$. When the guy is poor, they just say I love you. Because they do. To me, that actually carries weight. The other.......what is it that they love? That they think they just won the lottery to an easy and plush life? And they are trying to convince me and probably themselves that that is not the case? I think he jumped the gun personally. He should have held back much longer that he comes from money, but money does make it easier. Especially with women that like to say money doesn't matter lol.
Author Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 I don't really have anything to add, but I've been wanting to say this for a while: the first text message was sent in the 1990s. Marilyn Monroe died in the 60s. Just sayin'! ;-) Ha yeah I know. It's a joke babe. 1
Emilia Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Ha yeah I know. It's a joke babe. :laugh: I admit I had to think for a second when TM commented on it but clicked pretty quickly.
Author Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 Luckily he is rich. When a guy is rich, girls usually like to say stuff like that.......I would love you even if you didn't have a lot of $$$. When the guy is poor, they just say I love you. Because they do. To me, that actually carries weight. The other.......what is it that they love? That they think they just won the lottery to an easy and plush life? And they are trying to convince me and probably themselves that that is not the case? I think he jumped the gun personally. He should have held back much longer that he comes from money, but money does make it easier. Especially with women that like to say money doesn't matter lol. Not sure why you're assuming I like him for his money. I was very into him before that came to light. Sure money makes things easier. But I make my own and have taken care of myself since I was 17. Put myself through college, too. How would he have kept this from me longer than he did? Kept me from coming to his place? Cue thread: my new boyfriend refuses to let me come over. Responses- HE'S MARRIED. That's just laughable. 1
RovingReporter Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 This thread makes me laugh. Girl finds out guy she's been on a couple dates with is extremely wealthy and all of the sudden is madly in love with him. Tale as old as time.
Author Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Author Posted August 5, 2013 This thread makes me laugh. Girl finds out guy she's been on a couple dates with is extremely wealthy and all of the sudden is madly in love with him. Tale as old as time. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/409453-when-dude-into-you-s-easy Please take note - I posted this LONG before I was aware of his financial sitch. Man - there are a lot of haters on LS. 1
GorillaTheater Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 Congrats, Doc! Hope everything works out. 3
Speakingofwhich Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 We had a wonderful weekend with our dogs, cooking, listening to music and learning more about each other. You know - stuff you don't need money for. For those who posted she was conspicuous with him for this. I don't think so. I doubt he was thinking about his money when she told him she loved him, or any other time during their fun weekend! He's not nouveau riche, remember? I'll bet he and his family are pretty impressed with what Drseussgrrl has accomplished on her own! Should she have hidden it? Nah. It's who she is and is a huge advantage, more so than being born into $$$.
FitChick Posted August 5, 2013 Posted August 5, 2013 (edited) I wore a summery dress but didn't have to - it was very casual. I told ya! Glad it went well. I wouldn't worry about him or any wealthy guy thinking a woman was a golddigger. They'll just make you sign a pre-nup, especially if it is family money. You will still get half of anything he makes while you are married when you divorce, which is fair. Edited August 5, 2013 by FitChick 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I don't really have anything to add, but I've been wanting to say this for a while: the first text message was sent in the 1990s. Marilyn Monroe died in the 60s. Just sayin'! ;-) What about the first fax??
mortensorchid Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 I don't know what the big deal is about one's wealth vs. poverty. If you like one another and you're happy together, what difference does it make? I have seen people run from another party because of just such surroundings and material things. It's not on the part of the wealthy party, it's on the part of the less wealthy party. Life is complicated.
Shocksock Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Not sure why you're assuming I like him for his money. Because unfortunetly many women are quick to marry once they find out the guy has serious cash so everyone is making a huge generalization. Man - there are a lot of haters on LS. Don't let the nay sayers bother you because you have already proven you liked him before finding out about his wealth.
2sunny Posted August 6, 2013 Posted August 6, 2013 Just because it appears his family has money doesn't indicate that the wealth is shared with his salary. Many wealthy families don't trickle down the money to their children. He's still living on their property, yes? When does he plan to separate from being under their roof? 1
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