Drseussgrrl Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I've been dating someone for a few weeks. Yes, we met online. And, just wow. It's so easy. This kid really thinks I'm the bee's knees. He wants to see me all the time. He texts sweet stuff during the day. He's wonderful and funny with my friends. Loves my dog. He's optimistic, positive, generous and genuinely kind and empathetic. He lives about an hour away and drives up whenever he can to take me out. He's already said he doesn't want to date anyone else and would like to make things official. I'm not there quite yet, but who am I kidding. He's awesome. He doesn't leave me guessing or wondering about his intentions. He makes me feel pretty damn great. For me, this is pretty monumental and I just wanted to put it out there that, I'm excited about someone who's AVAILABLE to me. And it feels GOOD. 29
FitChick Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 You'd think it would be obvious but so many are clueless. 5
therhythm Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 i think if it really works is because he is really into you and you are also really into him...chemistry is so important! I am happy for you lady! 1
tbf Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Absolutely when a guy's into you, it's unbelievably easy and drama free! 2
Author Drseussgrrl Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 You'd think it would be obvious but so many are clueless. Ha. I'd by lying if I said I haven't spent time making excuses for dudes who simply weren't that into me. Live and learn, I guess. 3
MissBee Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 (edited) I've been dating someone for a few weeks. Yes, we met online. And, just wow. It's so easy. This kid really thinks I'm the bee's knees. He wants to see me all the time. He texts sweet stuff during the day. He's wonderful and funny with my friends. Loves my dog. He's optimistic, positive, generous and genuinely kind and empathetic. He lives about an hour away and drives up whenever he can to take me out. He's already said he doesn't want to date anyone else and would like to make things official. I'm not there quite yet, but who am I kidding. He's awesome. He doesn't leave me guessing or wondering about his intentions. He makes me feel pretty damn great. For me, this is pretty monumental and I just wanted to put it out there that, I'm excited about someone who's AVAILABLE to me. And it feels GOOD. Yaaay! It's a great feeling. When a man is really into you and is available it's pretty darn obvious. You don't have to push, press, prod, analyze, guess or do anything extra, but his actions and words match up and don't leave you confused or wondering. He makes plans and sticks to them, brings things up on his own and really fits you into his life happily. It's as simple as that, and anything else is usually a case of he's just not that into you. Edited July 19, 2013 by MissBee 7
KatZee Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 So why are you playing games? Exactly what game is she playing here? They've been dating a few weeks. She's not ready to leap to full on relationship. This is a "game" how? 2
mesmerized Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 That sounds great! Give it time though, men tend to be extremely passionate and nice in the honeymoon period and then it all goes downhill from there. Even if he's not playing games, you don't go all the way in and keep your gaurds up just a little bit until you get to know the real him. 5
MrCastle Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Dating and relationships should be easy as I've said many times. It shouldn't be work. It should not be an extension of work or school or stress of that nature. When people click, they click. No games. I've found when I play by the rules, I don't get as far with someone as I do when I don't play by the rules. The rules say only talk to someone a few times a week, but when you guys really like each other, you break the rules by talking every day and not getting tired of each other. It's interesting to me that, to get the most in terms of quantity, you have to play by the rules, but if you want quality, the person you usually end up with long term is the person you broke all the rules for. 7
RedRobin Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 That sounds great! Give it time though, some men tend to be extremely passionate and nice in the honeymoon period and then it all goes downhill from there. Even if he's not playing games, you don't go all the way in and keep your gaurds up just a little bit until you get to know the real him. ditto... (with a slight edit). enjoy this time, it feels great... but the 3 month mark or thereabouts is pretty pivotal.
Woggle Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 As long as you reward this kind of behavior he will probably keep displaying it.
somedude81 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Is it really that hard to find a guy who likes you? Or is the hard part finding a guy you are attracted to who likes you?
Imajerk17 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 (edited) I actually agree with mesmerized. We men really are on our best behavior early on. I would advise you (drseussgrrl and for that matter, any woman) to be looking out for how he treats his family, friends, pets, job/career, and even his possessions. That will give you a lot of insight as to how he cherishes what is in his life after the newness wears off. I hope things continue to go well with this guy for you! Edited July 20, 2013 by Imajerk17 6
MrTurk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Amazing how easy everything is when the woman isnt multi-dating. As many, many women do. And when the great guy gets miffed at her actions of beating around the bush, she throws the blame on him and acts like he's being the wishy washy one. My comments are not directed at the OP....I'm simply stating in general, that too many people make things not-easy by their own actions. Not actions of the other person. 1
PCS991 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I've been dating someone for a few weeks. Yes, we met online. And, just wow. It's so easy. This kid really thinks I'm the bee's knees. He wants to see me all the time. He texts sweet stuff during the day. He's wonderful and funny with my friends. Loves my dog. He's optimistic, positive, generous and genuinely kind and empathetic. He lives about an hour away and drives up whenever he can to take me out. He's already said he doesn't want to date anyone else and would like to make things official. I'm not there quite yet, but who am I kidding. He's awesome. He doesn't leave me guessing or wondering about his intentions. He makes me feel pretty damn great. For me, this is pretty monumental and I just wanted to put it out there that, I'm excited about someone who's AVAILABLE to me. And it feels GOOD. Very happy for you, this is exactly what I love reading about. Great fun and positive outcomes. Enjoy every minute.
hestheone66 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 congrats OP. sounds like you have met a good man, not a boy who will waste your time. Man or woman, the important thing is to be open without being exposed, vulnerable yet strong, attractive but not high maintenance, reliable without being boring, be as kind as you would like in return. Mutuality is what we should aim for and walk away for anything less. I agree that when people are compatible, it is no stress or work to be involved with them. the thing I find interesting, is why so many people allow their insecurities to dictate the other people's actions towards them. Be happy with who you are, and not trying to find someone to 'complete you' , that way you're happy with or without them. And it is what you GIVE to the relationship that should give you additional fulfilment, not what you take from it
veggirl Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Cool good luck. Still be mindful though, didn't the last guy start out amazing and talking marriage and turned into a dbag? Keep perspective the first few months... 4
Emilia Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 He doesn't leave me guessing or wondering about his intentions. He makes me feel pretty damn great. For me, this is pretty monumental and I just wanted to put it out there that, I'm excited about someone who's AVAILABLE to me. And it feels GOOD. Isn't this exactly what you said about the previous guy? What I mean is, maybe it's best to watch what's going on for the first couple of months rather than get carried away. Hope it works out though. 3
Dude420 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 Well, it would seem it's the same for the opposite sex as well. I've been on a couple of dates long ago and although I did play along in these games, it still aggravated me to hell. Now with this girl I'm going out with, we both click well and are very much into each other to the point where I don't have to stress about drama. We both like spending time with each other and it's pretty obvious where this is going. All I have to do is simply ask her out to do something, then she either says yes right away or makes the effort to reschedule. She's going away on vacation and before she left she actually came to work and wanted to say bye. Unfortunately I was on lunch and didn't know she was there, my colleague told me later, it was quite a surprise. So I ended up calling her to give her that chance and she seemed happy about that. All that took little effort, that's just how "easy" it is when two people click. 2
Els Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I'm really happy for you, OP! But... I admit I'm a little confused. Isn't a few weeks in usually the easy part to begin with? 1
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