nugget_718 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Exactly 2 years ago today, I met him...that one person who put my emotions on the wildest roller coaster ride that I would ever experience in my life. Not only are we separated by 6000+ miles but he travels a lot for work so finding a time to see each other was always a challenge. But since we are both mature individuals who knows what we want in life and out life and who loves one another so much, we persevered. And then his travels became so extensive and add to that his crazy busy work schedule. Our relationship suffered dearly and we were barely hanging on a thread the last 10 months. The disappointments got piled up one after another and 2 months ago we decided to take a break. We right away went on LC with him initiating all contact but both can't bear the thought of not seeing each other so he had extended an invitation for me to join him on his business trip 3x. I said yes on his 3rd attempt. I don't know if embarking on that trip to see him was suppose to help our situation because our feelings for each other was still strong by then. We can't wait to rip each other clothes off the moment we got to his place and we did all the things we used to do when we were still together. We acted like the normal bf and gf like nothing had changed and that we never had the "break" talk. He cooked for me, held my hand or wrap his arms around me while walking...it was all so confusing! We even have a bit of spat on the most trivial thing like we use to. I have contemplated on cancelling that trip but I was resigned to the fact that it maybe my only chance to see him right after the break and have that face to face talk as oppose to our final talk on the phone. We were both too emotional (me more so) but at least I get to say all the things I have been suppressing for so long. It felt good to get them off my chest. So overall, that trip was a success. I really don't know why I am writing all this here. I guess I am just being overly emotional because we would have been celebrating our 2nd anniversary today.
LittleTiger Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I'm confused. You were in a relationship that wasn't working because you couldn't see each other enough so you decided to 'take a break'? Does that mean a permanent break or just a break for x number of weeks/months to see how you get on? He continues to contact you while you're on this break and invites you over to join him for a business trip. While you're on the business trip you act as though you're still together and then you leave? So are you together now, or are you 'on a break' again? What was the purpose of getting together? - A mutual booty call? - A chance to remind yourselves what you're missing? - A chance to talk things over and heal the relationship? Like I said, I'm confused.
Author nugget_718 Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I'm confused. You were in a relationship that wasn't working because you couldn't see each other enough so you decided to 'take a break'? Does that mean a permanent break or just a break for x number of weeks/months to see how you get on? He continues to contact you while you're on this break and invites you over to join him for a business trip. While you're on the business trip you act as though you're still together and then you leave? So are you together now, or are you 'on a break' again? Like I said, I'm confused. To be honest, I am as confused as you are when it comes to our current relationship status. On my last trip, we both said how much we still love each other. That we will always have that connection, that spark when we are together. Neither one of us is seeing someone. He actually flew off the handle when he found out that an old flame of mine was in my hometown not too long ago. He was on jealous rampage it's unbelievable. I have never seen him like that. This is not the 1st time that we have attempted going on break due to the difficulty of finding a time to be together. But we've always managed to calm down and work through that. Then something happened to which I posted my dilemma here on LS (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/long-distance-relationships/387230-ldr-lies-deceit-how-do-you-move What was the purpose of getting together? - A mutual booty call? - A chance to remind yourselves what you're missing? - A chance to talk things over and heal the relationship? As for the purpose of the trip, it was most likely the last 2 you mentioned plus a chance for me to visit a god daughter I haven't seen since she was born 2 years ago.
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