henderson14 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 After about a year break, I'm starting to feel desperate enough to try again. I tried for about 2 years before I quit, with no real match for me. It felt like closing my eyes and throwing darts at the board. It just seemed like every girl I met, there was no real connection. ON top of that, it was draining to participate in, especially for a guy. Its much more draining then searching for jobs on online. I will spend everyday searching and checking my account. YOu put forth so much time and effort and put yourself up for excitement and rejection so many times, then when you finally get the chance to meet someone and they follow through, you get disappointed or things quickly fizzle out. I've known so many people that have used OLD, and none of them found their significant others through it. They all eventually found someone in the real world. I'm just getting to the point where I feel like i have nothing to lose again, but I know it will probably end up making me feel worse in the end and I will be wasting my time.
sdraw108 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Its much more draining then searching for jobs on online. I will spend everyday searching and checking my account. I know exactly what you mean. OLD takes an incredible amount of time and effort, for the reward you get. In my experience it's been worth it - I've made one long term friend (6+ years), had a LTR (2.5 years), and things are going well with a new date at the moment. I've also had a number of short lived experiences which although they didn't go anywhere, were fun nights out regardless. The trick is not to take it too seriously. Spend a little time each day searching, and sending out a few messages, then put it out of your mind. Expect to get no good responses. When you do get a response, expect to not get a date out of it. When you get a date, expect it to be uninteresting and lead nowhere. Low expectations = low disappointment. It just seemed like every girl I met, there was no real connection. This is natural, when you think about it. You're meeting a girl based on a few photos, a short description, and a few messages that you swapped. Essentially it's like picking a random girl on the street that you think is pretty, and going on a date with her. The odds that you're going to have things in common, be mutually attracted to each other, and have a great first date, are pretty low. It's basically a numbers game - you keep going on dates until your luck turns. Saying that, in all three of the "successful" dates I had (I count the friend as a success), I spent quite a while getting to know them through online chat / text / phone / skype before having a first date. I guess you could say we naturally just "clicked" during the initial message swapping stage. Whereas all the other OLD dates I've been on which went nowhere, the initial messages were boring, factual, and difficult to keep flowing.
Rich34 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 OLD for a bloke is a waste of time unless you are great looking! If you are just an average bloke or less, I'd forget it if I was you. Only exception to this rule is if you are stinking rich!
FitChick Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I've known so many people that have used OLD, and none of them found their significant others through it. They all eventually found someone in the real world. Interesting. My experience and that of people I know has been the opposite.
Fondue Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I tried OLD for the ****s and giggles. I recently deleted my account, actually. I think I found what I was looking for. I actually met a lot of great women this way. The women that I met are those that I actually find myself attracted to on more than a physical level. OLD allows you to filter what you like and don't like. It is both bad and good. It is like window shopping, which kind of sucks-- but when you find someone, it usually works out. I'm a pretty quirky guy, and I definitely present myself in this way on my (old) online profile. Every woman I met was equally as quirky/nerdy, or even more than me! Believe it or not, almost all of them were also quite attractive as well. One of the girls I have been seeing for a few months now, and I think we'll be official within the next coming weeks. A few other girls I have went on multiple dates with and just had a great time (sex and no sex included). Others turned into good friends. I still keep in touch with some of the girls because they're cool. I'd say you should try it again. 1
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