DrDave92 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 a few weeks ago, after a long period of no contact with my ex, i was on a night out with some friends when i discovered that she had slept with a guy i really hate who used to hassle her throughout our whole relationship. I was very drunk at the time and reacted very angrily leaving her abusive texts and voicemails which i regret but don't want to dwell on. The following day her mother came to my house and told me that what i'd done was out of order but i told her my thoughts on her daughters actions and said i never wanted to talk to her again. I recently returned from a week long holiday with my friends which really helped take my mind off everything that's gone on since the breakup (which was nearly 3 months ago now) but since returning i feel like my mind is wandering to the breakup and still missing her even though it's completely irrational. I've unfollowed her on twitter and she deleted her facebook recently so i can't see her on there either but i still feel like i'm not over things and the thought of her or hearing her name makes me feel horrible. Yesterday when i was walking to the gym i saw her for the first time since we split. She drove past in her car which was horrible but i just glanced at the reg and then looked away when i realised who it was. Being home is so horrible as she lives just up the road and she's going to the same university as me next year so i guess i'm going to have to get used to seeing her around. I shouldn't have made the drunk texts/calls but in some ways it may be for the best as ending on good terms was keeping me hanging on to what she was up to and giving me false hope. I just don't know why i feel the way i do and it's frustrating me that i'm still consumed by thoughts of the breakup and missing her after all this time. Any advice?
StrongLass Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I recommend you check out these: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/341720-realistic-tips-surviving-end-your-relationship http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion Those should help, especially since your pain is fresh. Hang in there
aloneinaz Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 It's been three months.. your texts and voice mails only cemented the end of the relationship. Learn from it and MOVE ON. Go on some dates, it's been long enough. You'll soon find someone who rings your bell and that'll help you completely get over this last one.
Author DrDave92 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 i don't know any girls to date though it's not as simple as that. I live in a remote area where girls are quite hard to come by and i've been in a relationship since the beginning of university so i'm not really connected to any girls there either
aloneinaz Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 i don't know any girls to date though it's not as simple as that. I live in a remote area where girls are quite hard to come by and i've been in a relationship since the beginning of university so i'm not really connected to any girls there either We'll you got to try to figure something out. Sitting home, dwelling on your last ex isn't going to help you get over her. Invest some of your energy in trying to find social places where you live or close by.
Chi townD Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 i don't know any girls to date though it's not as simple as that. I live in a remote area where girls are quite hard to come by and i've been in a relationship since the beginning of university so i'm not really connected to any girls there either Lame excuse! You just got back from your trip, were there girls out where you vacationed? If you live in a remote area, then grab some friends and hop a train to area's less remote for the weekend! There's probably girls there! You have to put yourself out there! Grab some buds and go to a concert! Girls are all over the place around those. I've always met girls at concerts! Unless you're a millionaire, rock star or movie star; girls aren't going to come to you. SO! you have to go to them! Keep yourself busy! It's bullsh*t that she hooked up with a dude you hate and she probably did it KNOWING that it would get back to you. Well, it did. She wanted to get a reaction out of you and she got one. So, don't feel bad about blasting her. It's what she wanted believe it or not.
Inviv_girl Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 10 months and I'm still in pain it is normal you feel that pain. Don't date yet if you are not ready!! this is important, as it wont be fair to the new person if we still think about our ex- but we date them. Also don't dwell on your pain too long, its normal to feel but don't dwell on it. Immediately seeing another girl is not a solution for your heartache! See the girl to date when you are ready. But you can meet and socialize with the girls for sure. Kill time with some activities, keep busy and whenever you think of your ex- just switch your mind into something else. Doing sports, find new hobbies and studying will help.. I think. Talk to your best friend and family. Vent on LS whenever you want. It will be tough if you going to see her around so try as best as you could to not go to the place she's at. As for university, I'm sure there will be a lot of people you can pay attention on, so try not hook up with her friends and when you see her don't look in the eye.. just walk away....away... just away!!!!!!!!!!! I hope that helps 1
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