forgetmenot75 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 See, I tried to do that when we were parting ways at the end of our date. I said "I'd really like to see you again", and she responded with "you live in New York". What's my play now? Chalk this one up as another crazy and move on?! I'm still stumped as to why a girl would rapid fire respond to my posts when I'm supplicating, but radio silence when i ask her how her day was?! I think i saved myself a lot of driving back and forth to see a crazy bitch. Even her kisses were ice cold. I didn't even think she was into me! Goshhhh, you don't get it, right??? Invite her again!!! Not "how was your day", say "Can I see you tomorrow?", or "How about dinner tomorrow?" I don't know, you seem pretty slow to me... 1
Divasu Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 No ****, right? Yeah. Women should know better not to let their crazy flag fly until after the'yre IN a relationship. Thanks for the help everyone. Don't want to blow it with this one. She's a definite keeper. Thanks again everyone! What a ride the last 2 days have been with this crazy bitch! This is good to pay attention to. Two hours ago you were idealizing, to now, defacing her. That means your thoughts were all over the place in the span of one date. Not a good combo.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Oh, I figured I'd sound pathetic with her one more time so the last thing i messaged her was "So, are you going to see me again?" Wow. Can somebody kick me where my balls should be?
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Yeah. Women should know better not to let their crazy flag fly until after the'yre IN a relationship. This is good to pay attention to. Two hours ago you were idealizing, to now, defacing her. That means your thoughts were all over the place in the span of one date. Not a good combo. Wow, good God. Thank you for picking that up! I didn't even catch it. I was idealizing her the entire date, and all day at work today with my friends, saying how great she was, yadda yadda. Now that I've been educated on the "chaser" mentality, I see her for what she is. As soon as I gave her that heartfelt message, she was no longer interested. I'm a complete shmuck.
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 As soon as I gave her that heartfelt message, she was no longer interested. I'm a complete shmuck. I prefer to call it a badge of honor, we all learn the hard way She is not crazy, she just likes you! no she doesnt, shes needy for validation, she likes the "idea" of him liking her
Divasu Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Wow, good God. Thank you for picking that up! I didn't even catch it. I was idealizing her the entire date, and all day at work today with my friends, saying how great she was, yadda yadda. Now that I've been educated on the "chaser" mentality, I see her for what she is. As soon as I gave her that heartfelt message, she was no longer interested. I'm a complete shmuck. Her being interested or not, questioning whether or not you "care for her" after one date is a bit over the top. And you didn't even sleep together! Don't feel like a schmuck, it's not really your fault. This is just a bit too much after only knowing each other for what, 5 days?
forgetmenot75 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Please, stop trying to make the poor guy more confused. She likes him. Point. He should ask her out again
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Who says "When you didn't write me back that night or the next morning, i thought you didn't care for me?" after one date?! What the ****?!
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 get out of here, shes a nut job again... woman giving him advice.... doesnt work.... if you can't see/admit that, you are too
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Her being interested or not, questioning whether or not you "care for her" after one date is a bit over the top. And you didn't even sleep together! Don't feel like a schmuck, it's not really your fault. This is just a bit too much after only knowing each other for what, 5 days? I met her Saturday night! It's only been 48 hours!!!
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 get out of here, shes a nut job again... woman giving him advice.... doesnt work.... if you can't see/admit that, you are too Dude, I'm literally laughing out loud every time you chime in!
Divasu Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 again... woman giving him advice.... doesnt work.... if you can't see/admit that, you are too Some of us have been agreeing with you. Facts straight please... 1
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Some of us have been agreeing with you. Facts straight please... im talking about her.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/400556-indifference-after-no-contact-i-don-t-think-so "Chaser"
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Her being interested or not, questioning whether or not you "care for her" after one date is a bit over the top. And you didn't even sleep together! Don't feel like a schmuck, it's not really your fault. This is just a bit too much after only knowing each other for what, 5 days? We met at a bar near where she works, an hour drive for me, at 9:40pm. I miscalculated. It's been 51 hours. Again, I didn't really get the impression she was that into me. I thought i did ok, but again, kiss at the end was a little grade school like, I was happy to get the message half an hour after we parted but i didn't know I would be on a time limit the next day to respond!
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Any idea how a girl this hot turned psycho? I remember her telling me she and her dad didn't have a great relationship. Are "daddy issues" a genuine thing?
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 We met at a bar near where she works, an hour drive for me, at 9:40pm. I miscalculated. It's been 51 hours. Again, I didn't really get the impression she was that into me. I thought i did ok, but again, kiss at the end was a little grade school like, I was happy to get the message half an hour after we parted but i didn't know I would be on a time limit the next day to respond! You actually won, since you dont understand the dating game... just look at the reaction... She got pissed/.upset that you didnt respond in a timely manner (she was forced to invest in you emotionally) this is a great thing, you failed when you "supplicated" these type of women are only good for one night stands... thats it... you hit it and move on... you have to or you do stupid things like post on this forum and invest in her (crrazy bartender) HELL YES DADDY issues are a REAL THING and why they are the way they are.... usually bartenders are the daddy issue stereotype, especially the hot ones
Divasu Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 We met at a bar near where she works, an hour drive for me, at 9:40pm. I miscalculated. It's been 51 hours. Again, I didn't really get the impression she was that into me. I thought i did ok, but again, kiss at the end was a little grade school like, I was happy to get the message half an hour after we parted but i didn't know I would be on a time limit the next day to respond! Well, I still stand by what I said earlier. That conversation exchange after one date sounds way 'heavy'.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Well, I still stand by what I said earlier. That conversation exchange after one date sounds way 'heavy'. i ask this so as to learn from it. Did I sound as though I was "heavy" on my end. If so, I want to stop that **** in it's tracks.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 i ask this so as to learn from it. Did I sound as though I was "heavy" on my end. If so, I want to stop that **** in it's tracks. You played it too cool at the start, but her reaction was way over the top. I think she would turn into a major headache if you go further. 2
Divasu Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 i ask this so as to learn from it. Did I sound as though I was "heavy" on my end. If so, I want to stop that **** in it's tracks. I think next time, avoid getting into long drawn out email exchanges with someone you just met and cut through it by asking said woman on a date. If you ask her out, and she doesn't reply, you move on. I've gotten into those types of email exchanges, well once and not after one date () but trust me, it's better to discuss such matters face-to-face.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 I prefer to call it a badge of honor, we all learn the hard way no she doesnt, shes needy for validation, she likes the "idea" of him liking her This sounds way too accurate. If you look at that nice, tidy transcript I supplied, I told her I "liked" her (the word she used when she asked me today 'U didn't like me huh") a bunch of times. Her response? "I think you're funny and I totally dig u". Are there dots there I should be connecting?
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 You played it too cool at the start, but her reaction was way over the top. I think she would turn into a major headache if you go further. what? 10 hours is too cool? come on ES he played it just right
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 what? 10 hours is too cool? come on ES he played it just right He didn't even ask for her number...
CptSaveAho Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 This sounds way too accurate. If you look at that nice, tidy transcript I supplied, I told her I "liked" her (the word she used when she asked me today 'U didn't like me huh") a bunch of times. Her response? "I think you're funny and I totally dig u". Are there dots there I should be connecting? Dont tell them you "like" them Show them with actions... asking her out on a date/kissing her/sleeping with her He didn't even ask for her number... i agree.... hes a rookie and learning
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