Nyquil Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 We live in California, a no-fault state. The papers will be ready to sign in the next few weeks. My wife wanted the divorce and filed for it. She has an attorney, I don't. The process has worked out smooth and all agree around. Couldn't be better all things considered. I simply DO NOT want to sign the papers. I understand by not signing will not stop the divorce, but I feel so against it that I simply do not want to sign them. This simply means that she'll get it by default, correct? I'd rather go out of this sticking to my guns, and signing these papers goes against my principles. Thoughts? BTW...when I say we agree it means child support, property etc. I don't agree about the divorce.
Lonestar Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Then don't sign the papers. You don't have to, and no one can force you to. It won't stop the divorce, but it will certainly delay it. What your signature is esentially doing is agreeing to the terms of the divorce - child support, alimony, visitation, etc.. You're not signing your marriage as over. A judge actually dissolves the marriage. So if you don't sign the papers, then there is no agreement and a judge will have to decide the terms of your divorce. That will cost you more because you'll have to have a hearing and possibly hire your own attorney. Make sense?
izzybelle Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 i'm assuming because you mentioned child support that there are kids involved. the only concern i would have if you don't sign is what you're wife's reaction would be. if things have gone smoothly and assuming the kids haven't seen too much fighting over it, how do you think this may impact them? if she gets angry with you could further damage your relationship with her and make things even more difficult for everyone to move on and adjust to the changes. i don't know that much about CA law but .... if you feel the need to delay can you tell her you need to hire an attorney so that he/she can look things over? i understand that you don't want to sign but if she's set on this (she is, right?) you may create a rift that will effect everything including your kids. if you've tried talking to her about it and she won't reconsider i'm not sure you planting your feet and refusing to sign is going to change things, except for the worse. if there's no turning back then move forward. i'm sorry you're going through this, it obviously isn't what you wanted.
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