bluecell Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hi, I broke up with my ex some weeks ago, because I think she has the 'Greener-grass syndrome'. You can read about my store here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/400463-did-i-make-mistake# In the meanwhile, I tried NC, told her I miss her a week after, and that I would like to talk to her again. She agreed (she never wanted NC in the first place), but explained that she doesn't want a LTR and be more of friends in the first place. One of my best friends (who is great at listening and was in favor of us trying again) told me to now face reality: she is moving on and she doesn't want to be with you anymore! So, this weekend I decided to get an ebook on the topic of moving on after a breakup. The book basically 'told' me, again, to move on by implementing NC. Which is really hard! Even more because she initiated talking now, which I have to ignore, but I still want to be with her. Also breaking up with her make me feel like I'm the bad guy! Anyhow, I just wanted to write this down for later use. She doesn't want to be in a LTR, she just wants to be friends! Stop talking to her, it will just hurt you.
SimonSerenade Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 (edited) Be a man, men go after what they want and if they ain't going to get it they don't wait around for anything to change, simply tell this girl that friendship isn't something you want and let her paint you as a jerk if she wants to, she was the one who changed the terms of the relationship, it ain't your fault if your not interested in what she has to offer, you did the right thing, you walked away and now your taking 2 steps back, walk away and mean it man, keep your dignity and self respect in tact. If she wants to come back and give you a relationship then great but if not, your better off without that bs. Edited June 30, 2013 by SimonSerenade
Author bluecell Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Thnx SimonSerenade! I think she noticed I'm doing NC, as she asked "Is there a particular reason you're ignoring me?" What do you think? Should I respond?
ToobSocks Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Just tell her the truth. Say 'I think it would be best easier for both of us to move on if we didn't talk'
SimonSerenade Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Simply say "I'm not ignoring you but we've got nothing to talk about, I'm moving on and I'm letting you do the same", something like that anyway.
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