Traptinmihead Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 (edited) Hey all, So this is a continuation of an odd situation from the past couple weeks. I first posted about it here: Questionable Situation A few days after this, she asked me if I was free one day. We ended up meeting the next day and she was a little weird, but still talkative. We went out to a couple bars and grabbed drinks and was flirting a little bit. Note that I did this intentionally to help bring feelings to the surface so that we would have a serious conversation as I knew something was off. In the end, we did talk and she mentioned how the random visits actually brought back bad memories of an ex. She also mentioned that while she was away at her dads, she felt that if she was 100% interested, she would've made a better effort to see me, which at the time was once a week on average. I told her that one of the reasons why I fell for her was because she was blunt and speaks her mind and that she should have been honest with me if there was something I was doing that wasn't to her liking. I also told her straight up that alot of she did the past couple months was complain and all the negativity was bringing me down a bit, to which she definitely agreed. After our convo, we had a long hug and left. We never had arguments prior to this (the bad ones, we had many light hearted ones ha) and both myself and her were calm. The way this went, I felt that she wanted to be friends and it was enough for me to start to move on. Im continuing to go out and see my friends, but am not interested in seeing anyone else right now. However, after a day passed, the conversations between me and her picked up again and she said that she still feels bad about things cause its the way she is, but it'll pass with time. We became lighthearted with our text convos again and started joking around, but am still giving her distance and letting her initiate contact. While I felt it would be difficult to move past, I knew I didn't want her out of my life and went through enough of a mourning period where I felt I could be a friend. However, she brought up mentioning this to her dad, and at that point, I felt it safe to talk briefly on it. Basically, I said that I knew she had a rough time and I wasnt helping her in a good way, apologized about how I acted and that overthinking the simple things were changing me for the worst. She replied that she always knew I was mature and my handling of all that's happened is proof. I shouldn't be hard on myself as I was always there for her trying to make her feel better. She also said she was to blame too as she hadn't been herself and it took over. I told her we all go through that and I had the same issue with getting things in my head too much when I shouldn't have. So, at this point, my feeling is that I should still keep my distance for now so that she can continue thinking, but still offer support if she needs it and continue going out places and letting each other see our own people for now. I have been debating sending her a hand written letter or sunflowers, but im thinking that I shouldn't yet at this point so as not to seem like im getting pushy again, but the letter is something I definitely haven't done before so it may show change. Does it seem like things are looking up at this point? Should I show her I still care by sending her something or still keep some distance? Edited June 29, 2013 by Traptinmihead
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