Lansing Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I see a lot of advice on here that if a girl doesn't respond to one text message, email or phone call that she isn't "interested" and to "move on"... Or to NEXT a girl. I searched on here to find some posts about people's views on persistence and came across this one from last year: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/326134-pursuing-women-persistence My question relates to meeting a girl in a random setting and enjoying the moment/having a good vibe on her but having to get in touch with her again when she is not in that same state of having a good time/remembering your charm/etc. I feel like there is different levels of interest instead of just "interested" and "not-interested". I think there could be situations where a girl has interest in the moment but the next day or a few days later she has other things on her mind and can't be bothered making an effort or maybe she is even nervous about meeting a stranger again. I meet all of the girls I have dated at events, random places (waiting in lines, etc) and often times my intention to start talking to a girl isn't romantic but when I get to know her after a 10 minute conversation sometimes I feel like it is worth pursuing and getting to know her more. I am not expecting anything out of it just to get to know someone more. I am not concentrating on one particular girl. My intention isn't to keep bugging a girl to force her into caving in. My intention would be just to remind a girl that we had a bit of a connection and to see if she will give it a chance. Thoughts?
PogoStick Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Well a certain level of persistence is required. After All, if you never talk a 2nd time then that isn't much of a relationship. In general I don't think you ever want to be chasing a girl, but you have to make sure that you end up in situations where things can progress. The rest should just happen naturally, where both of you should be participating.
carhill Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Regarding real life interactions, meaning interactions where two people face each other physically, I generally gave women two opportunities to say 'yes' to a specific invitation. That was the extent of my 'persistence'. If, after meeting and personally interacting with me, they aren't positive about dating me, next. The old days of my father's era of courtship and 'wearing a woman down' are long gone. Times have changed. The bower bird has packed up his sticks and moved on.
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