ThaWholigan Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Do you guys tend to be like this with your good friends? If your best friend or brother came to you legitimately hurting, would you be more likely to empathize and lend an ear or tell him to stop being a "bitch"? Where do you draw the line between telling another guy to suck it up and validating his feelings? Do you ever wish other men would stop being dismissive of each other's feelings? Or do you think there's some value to this kind of behavior? I think my friends appreciate that I have always been accommodating.
StanMusial Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 List the top five traits that men look for in women. My version: 1. Attractive 2. Happy 3. Ladylike 4. Supportive 5. Moral
StanMusial Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 What about in the workplace? Do men back each other more than women? Men fight it out and often become good allies afterwards. Women manipulate and gossip and act catty. 1
Eggplant Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 Men fight it out and often become good allies afterwards. Women manipulate and gossip and act catty.Do they become allies afterwards? No they just knife each other forever more.
StanMusial Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Do they become allies afterwards? No they just knife each other forever more. In my experience, no. I witnessed a particularly vicious grudge come to its conclusion last week. One lady is no longer with the company.
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 I have a question: What is your biggest weakness when it comes to the opposite sex? What should women capitalize on when seducing a man? PS thanks for doing this thread, it's very enlightening! My biggest weakness? Curiousity. Men love the chase a lot more than they let on. A woman you're curious about stays on your mind. The kind of a woman who can be a bit of a pain in the ass to deal with, but she gives you just enough to keep you wanting to know more. Basically playing the game I think it's meant to be played. I don't even consider that game playing. I consider it more "How much do you really want me?" 4
Eggplant Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 In my experience, no. I witnessed a particularly vicious grudge come to its conclusion last week. One lady is no longer with the company.:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:( It's too bad.
xxoo Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When you are very much in love, how difficult or easy is monogamy?
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Do you guys tend to be like this with your good friends? If your best friend or brother came to you legitimately hurting, would you be more likely to empathize and lend an ear or tell him to stop being a "bitch"? Where do you draw the line between telling another guy to suck it up and validating his feelings? Do you ever wish other men would stop being dismissive of each other's feelings? Or do you think there's some value to this kind of behavior? I think that comes from knowing them on a bit of a deeper level. Like with good friends/ brother. I think when you have these connections, you understand the person so well, that when they are legitimately hurting, you know it's serious. Certain feelings I do think should be dismissed. Those are ones that are destructive. Such as wanting to quit all the time, or giving up. Or making consistent excuses. These take personal responsibility away from the individual, and can give others problems. I find that to be toxic. I'm not saying things don't get hard, because they do. But if you're doing it all the time, there's a problem. And I'd probably point it out, just as I hope someone would do to me. So I guess there's a bit of a reward there in dismissing, which is encouraging your friend to look on the inside, and build his character. However, I think issues that don't really fall into anything too extreme like those, I'd still reach out. After all, A friend in need..is a friend indeed.
ThaWholigan Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I have a question: What is your biggest weakness when it comes to the opposite sex? What should women capitalize on when seducing a man? PS thanks for doing this thread, it's very enlightening! 2 things - playfulness (word?) And passion. 3
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 Are you kidding? If you aren't you do not speak for me. Don't get up tight. It's my own opinion. I hear many fellas talk about women who just threw themselves at them. "Girlfriend" and "Promising woman" were not among such characteristics discussed.
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 When you are very much in love, how difficult or easy is monogamy? When you involve emotions such as love, especially deep in love, I'd say it becomes quite easy. Emotions are such powerful chemicals. It's that reason why that guy leaves his girl to go back to his ex. Or why that woman rejects that man who is perfect on paper. Not because he wasn't awesome..but because he didn't make her feel. 5
hppr Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Do you fellas personally ever feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and admit that you have vulnerabilities and feelings? How exhausting is it to have to be "masculine" all the time and suppress some natural traits? Is it a relief when you find someone you can trust enough to show your vulnerable side? Not often. My experience is that the minute you show some sign of weakness women bail on you so I don't show any. It kind of sucks but that is what beer is for.
StanMusial Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When you are very much in love, how difficult or easy is monogamy? It's easy. Just stay out of situations where temptations are presented. 1
carhill Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Do you fellas personally ever feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and admit that you have vulnerabilities and feelings? Always have. In fact, I had to learn how to suppress those tendencies. In effect, reprogram my socialization. How exhausting is it to have to be "masculine" all the time and suppress some natural traits? If one doesn't mind social ostracization, one need not become exhausted. Otherwise, IME, it's something best handled in spurts, if one isn't naturally gifted with classic 'masculine' traits. Over time, wearing that mask can be, well, wearing. I've found this issue to be less evident with aging, amongst my male peers anyway. Is it a relief when you find someone you can trust enough to show your vulnerable side? I haven't seen it as much an issue of trust as it has been finding someone who doesn't view emotional transparency as weakness. Hence, took a lot of licks and moved on. The real estate is far healthier where I'm at now.
xxoo Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 It's easy. Just stay out of situations where temptations are presented. When very in love, how much temptation do you experience?
crosswordfiend Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I have a question: What is your biggest weakness when it comes to the opposite sex? What should women capitalize on when seducing a man? PS thanks for doing this thread, it's very enlightening! I would say helping out and coming to the rescue of a damsel in distress. The provider instinct kicks in and that's when the emotional connection starts to build.
EasyHeart Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When you are very much in love, how difficult or easy is monogamy? Not hard at all.
StanMusial Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When very in love, how much temptation do you experience? Not much. My point is I avoid those situations and remove myself from them otherwise. I don't go looking for hamburger when I have steak at home. 2
EasyHeart Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When very in love, how much temptation do you experience?There's always temptation. And it's nice to sometimes think, "Oh yeah, she wants me!" But looking at the scenery or getting an occasional ego-boost is far from cheating. Just because I love you doesn't mean i'm blind. Or dead. 1
xxoo Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 When you see a mainstream movie with female nudity, how much does it affect you? Is it actually arousing (hot!)? Or just generally fun and exciting (boobies!)? Or no big deal (eh.)?
sweetkiwi Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I haven't posted here in forever, but I wanna play. I have two (related questions), if you don't mind: 1. If a guy says that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, does that always mean that he really just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you? (Example: he says that, then a few months later will be in a relationship with someone else) Most likely yes. 2. Do men say they don't want to be in a relationship but then change their minds? Or is it silly and pathetic for a woman to hope for this... Massive majority of the time NO. 1
TheGuard13 Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]1. Attractive (Not just physically, but socially and mentally as well)[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]2. Smart[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]3. Talented[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]4. Compassionate [/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]5. Curious[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]PMS is not an excuse for bad behavior. You don’t get to blame ****ty actions on your emotions. This goes for all behavior caused by how you “feel”.[/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] B[/sIZE][/FONT][sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]urps and farts, timed well, are hilarious.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Men use “crazy” as code for “Irrational and emotional”, because it is so damn illogical to many.[/FONT][/sIZE] Women have a far more complex way of interacting with each other, and men either (a) don't realize it exists or (b) look at it in complete bewilderment. To us, your way of interacting with other people often makes no sense. For instance, women tend to speak obliquely or "give hints" to what they want. That makes no sense in Guy World. If you want something, say so. You'll never hear one guy talking to another and saying "So what do you think she really means?" We say what we mean, so it makes no sense to us when women say one thing and mean another. It makes you seem crazy because we can't see the connection between your statement and what you want us to do. "Complex". Heh. That kind of behavior is just illogical. Do you fellas personally ever feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and admit that you have vulnerabilities and feelings? How exhausting is it to have to be "masculine" all the time and suppress some natural traits? Is it a relief when you find someone you can trust enough to show your vulnerable side? Yes. All the time, especially if one has good friends or someone compassionate to be vulnerable around. But guys, contrary to popular belief, talk about their feelings all the time. They just don’t talk about them as openly or as emotionally. It's not that exhausting to be masculine, simply because many of us are socialized that way from a young age. It's easily second nature by adulthood. Guys who don't display any feelings or emotion tend to be boring, closeminded people who like to live by clichés. Ugh.
ltjg45 Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Do you fellas personally ever feel comfortable enough to let your guard down and admit that you have vulnerabilities and feelings? I did that during middle and high school. Needless to say, I don't do that ever again. Years ago, halfway through my junior year at high school, my father passed away/commited suicide. At his funeral, I didn't shed a tear. All I had in me was hatred. I hasn't shed a tear since unless I'm getting beaten down in submission. Even then, I had so much anger in me that even the tears I shed is nothing compared to how badly I wanted to fight. Nowadays, I couldn't shed a tear even if I wanted to. If I had the ability to be vulnerable, I lost it. I became a master at being neutral so well, it amazes me sometimes. I can get scared, angry, jaded, annoyed......but I can't cry anymore. I guess that's what is means to be a man in society today. So be it. How exhausting is it to have to be "masculine" all the time and suppress some natural traits? During school? Insanely difficult to be "masculine". Now? It is easy to suppress any weak traits like crying. Unless I'm taking major physical damage, I can't see myself breaking down and crying. Is it a relief when you find someone you can trust enough to show your vulnerable side? I don't know how that feels since I hasn't met anyone qualified enough for me to show my weakness. Even when I do find him/her, I'm questioning myself if I can even show it anymore. I'm not the same person I was years ago. Years ago, I was weak. Now? I'm "a man", apparently. Still afraid of women but I'm not too vulnerable anymore. The only feeling you get out of me is sheer anger, rage, and hatred if anyone provokes me. Help my soul if anyone ever pushes me that far.
veggirl Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 Are you speaking from experience when you say a man in love isn't tempted by other women, op?
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