SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 A couple of weeks a ago I was helping a customer at work. She was very sweet, upbeat and attractive. I was refreshed when I helped her because I told her there was about an hour and a half wait and she said no problem, I brought a book it's ok. She didn't act like it was the end of the world like most peole do! Anyway, When I cashed her out I was making small talk with her and joking around with her and she told me I was funny and I thanked her of course. It really pepped me up getting compliment from a sincere person. TBS like most men I didn't want to mistake her niceness as interest and make an ass out of myself. There's also that negative inner voice that comes up with every reason that it's not interest. So ladies, do you compliment men you're not interested in? Guys what would you have thought if you were in the situation?
Keenly Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 The way my mind is processing it , a woman would be more likely to compliment you if they are not interested. If there is no interest, there is really no concern if the interaction goes good or bad or anything. If she IS interested, she would probably be more shy and less likely to just throw it out there. Then again, I'm not a woman. So...... yeah. 5
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I compliment people all the time. I'm a super friendly personable person though so its part of my personality. I've been asked out too by the men i have been nice too or complimented, that doesn't mean I am a bish to them just because I'm not interested. I usually say that's sweet and I'm flattered but I'm taken. Men shouldnt feel so down when rejected, it's part of life. Anywho, I guess what I'm saying is you never know. She could have just been bice or interested, you won't know till you ask! 1
SoulJazzBlues Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I agree with Keenly personally. If I'm not interested, I am more likely to throw a compliment around. Slightly more self conscious when I'm interested ancd reserved. Though I don't do it as much lately as simply being polite and friendly can be mistaken as flirting these days! 2
todreaminblue Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes, I compliment guys but i also compliment women all the time when they do something nice or say something funny.Or in general conversation...i am unlikely to compliment a guy when attracted as keenly said...when i am actually dating them yes would feel comfortable complimenting.... but if i dont know them i dont really want them to think i am gushing or for them to feel like i am a( clingy stalker you would be perfect to father my future babies thinking girl ) because i dished a compliment or two............i do notice though when i could or should compliment.....i might give one here or there...when i cant help myself...lol....mostly i am reserved when i like a guy...i just file it away..and i smile thinking it instead.........deb 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I want to add that I complimented when I was interested too, I don't fear rejection. I never have, which I guess is a reason why I am always just me, and if I think you're funny or cute, I'll just say it. 1
Tinie Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Sure I do! It's just my nature. I like seeing people happy. 3
CarrieT Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I compliment PEOPLE all the time - it doesn't matter if they are a man or a woman or if I have ulterior motives.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Regardless of her interest it was very nice of her. Things alwas seem to happen in numbers because a few days later when I was ringing out another customer she asked me my name and told me it was really nice to meet me. I think that was more obvious interest than the latter example.
Star Gazer Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes. I compliment people all the time, male and female, regardless of whether there's any romantic interest involved, particularly those in customer service. And so, no, it's not a "sure fire sign of interest," like you previously thought. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/396793-do-some-single-women-wear-rings-their-ring-finger#post4921139
Suave Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Only the dumb ones will assume that a compliment automatically means interest. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 The way my mind is processing it , a woman would be more likely to compliment you if they are not interested. If there is no interest, there is really no concern if the interaction goes good or bad or anything. If she IS interested, she would probably be more shy and less likely to just throw it out there. Then again, I'm not a woman. So...... yeah. I am more likely to compliment people I have no interest in. When I am interested in someone, I am afraid I will appear too eager. This is up to a point however.. If a guy I am interested in compliments me first or I suspect that he is interested, then I would totally ramp up the compliments
sweetkiwi Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Hello gorgeous . Uhhhm..... There was a point to my post I think.... Yes!! I am a complimentary kinda person. Interested in sex or otherwise. 1
KungFuJoe Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I think the answer to the question is.... It depends.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 A lot of complimentary people here. I wish yall were my customers:) I'm tired of people acting like I ruined there day when I tell them how long the wait is!
Author SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Though I don't do it as much lately as simply being polite and friendly can be mistaken as flirting these days! I know what you mean. Would't that be like a catch 22 for you ladies? You can't compliment a guy becasuse he's going to think you're interested but them how do you show a guy you like you're intersted? lol And like I said for many men, we don't want make fools out of ourselves and think a woman is interested because she's nice/complimentory.
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I know what you mean. Would't that be like a catch 22 for you ladies? You can't compliment a guy becasuse he's going to think you're interested but them how do you show a guy you like you're intersted? lol And like I said for many men, we don't want make fools out of ourselves and think a woman is interested because she's nice/complimentory. Well. Women act differently around men they are interested in. It's a flirting that's pretty obvious. Laughing, touching, joking, around with, asking you about other women, etc. Of course, I don't get that. So, I tend to take practical compliments as signs of interest like you do. Or I used to. The last woman I was really into complimented on everything 'practical' you could imagine. She called me funny, smart, interesting, cool, awesome, supportive. Almost like a husband. But note she never called my hot or attractive. I have others stories just like it too. But I guess the point is, yes they will compliment you. For guys who don't get overt flirting, you just have to strike and take a risk. Also, not all women do overt flirting. None of the women I ended up dating complimented or flirted with me.
USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I think the answer to the question is.... It depends. Indeed. And it depends on the type of compliment. I think the more insightful and observant the compliment, the more potential interest exists.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Well. Women act differently around men they are interested in. It's a flirting that's pretty obvious. Laughing, touching, joking, around with, asking you about other women, etc. Of course, I don't get that. So, I tend to take practical compliments as signs of interest like you do. Or I used to. The last woman I was really into complimented on everything 'practical' you could imagine. She called me funny, smart, interesting, cool, awesome, supportive. Almost like a husband. But note she never called my hot or attractive. I have others stories just like it too. But I guess the point is, yes they will compliment you. For guys who don't get overt flirting, you just have to strike and take a risk. Also, not all women do overt flirting. None of the women I ended up dating complimented or flirted with me. How long did you know her? How soon into your friendship did she start complimenting you? With the first women I figured that was the way she was becuase she was very upbeat and genuine. With the second woman I mentioned I took it as sure fire interest becasue she asked my name and said "It was really nice to meet you" when "Thanks" would of been plenty and is what most of my customers say.
Star Gazer Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Indeed. And it depends on the type of compliment. I think the more insightful and observant the compliment, the more potential interest exists. I don't think you know enough nice people. I receive insightful and observant compliments from people all the time, from people I'm certain aren't romantically interested.
USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I don't think you know enough nice people. I receive insightful and observant compliments from people all the time, from people I'm certain aren't romantically interested. Maybe. Maybe we are working with different definitions of compliment. Or different definitions of insightful.
tbf Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I'll compliment anyone if it's how I genuinely feel about the situation. Smart move not to misinterpret compliments as a sign of interest.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 I don't think you know enough nice people. I receive insightful and observant compliments from people all the time, from people I'm certain aren't romantically interested. Geographic location mabye? I've been at my job about 9 months and I've only come accross a few people that seem sincere and genuine. Most everyone else is neutral or worse. Mabye it's becasue of all the chemical plants??
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Yes, I compliment guys but i also compliment women all the time when they do something nice or say something funny.Or in general conversation...i am unlikely to compliment a guy when attracted as keenly said...when i am actually dating them yes would feel comfortable complimenting.... but if i dont know them i dont really want them to think i am gushing or for them to feel like i am a( clingy stalker you would be perfect to father my future babies thinking girl ) because i dished a compliment or two............i do notice though when i could or should compliment.....i might give one here or there...when i cant help myself...lol....mostly i am reserved when i like a guy...i just file it away..and i smile thinking it instead.........deb This is crazy to me. Why play such games? If you like a guy, compliment him. It'll make him like you more.
USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Geographic location mabye? I've been at my job about 9 months and I've only come accross a few people that seem sincere and genuine. Most everyone else is neutral or worse. Mabye it's becasue of all the chemical plants?? Perhaps because she's a gurl...? I don't think men compliment other men quite as much as women are willing to compliment other women...so guys would be losing out on quite a number of potential compliments from that alone. And if women are hesitant to compliment men for any number of reasons, then I would speculate that men do indeed receive fewer compliments in general.
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