Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Just wanted to check in and see how everyone is doing/holding up. I have been in school for over a month now and am loving every minute of it. It is hard but very rewarding. Still in therapy as well. My ex and I are no longer ex's, haven't been for a while. We are getting along quite well and have had minimal bumps so far. I still struggle with my insecurity but I work on it every single day. He has been in therapy as well. We are not the same people we use to be and it is awesome. No more co-dependance on my part and his expectations are no longer unrealistic. We have a way to go but are making headway all the time. So, how is everyone else?
Sneaky Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Starting day 5 of NC. If I manage today (and I know I will since I realized there's no point at all in contacting my ex) I'll have stayed away longer than my last attempts. It still hurts though, had a random memory pop up in my head earlier that's always made me happy in the past and that now just leaves me with a heavy feeling in my chest. It sucks.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Starting day 5 of NC. If I manage today (and I know I will since I realized there's no point at all in contacting my ex) I'll have stayed away longer than my last attempts. It still hurts though, had a random memory pop up in my head earlier that's always made me happy in the past and that now just leaves me with a heavy feeling in my chest. It sucks. I found NC to be a double edged sword. It did help a lot when I was going through the horrible heartbreak. what happened with you two?
Sneaky Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I found NC to be a double edged sword. It did help a lot when I was going through the horrible heartbreak. what happened with you two? She dumped me because she could not handle the distance and since we're both in Universities in different countries there was no way to remedy that. I did not know how to deal with it and kept trying to contact her, not understanding why she went totally quiet on me. Here's my post on it.
Sneaky Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 It really sucks. We were planning to spend the entire summer together and I spend so much time preparing and got a job in the meanwhile so I could help with the bills while there and everything. I was happy to see her the few minutes before she dumped me, since it would only be a little bit longer before I could come over. It really hurts, from one day to the next this entire part of your life just disappears and I know a lot of people on here have had it more difficult but I'm still going to rant for a little bit right now because I should have been there having fun and instead I'm sitting here with a hole in my chest unable to sleep.
Suave Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 NC for a month and a half now. I still care a lot about her, but it's been fine having her out of my life for now. I've been having a lot of fun being single. Saw her at a bar the other night. That was very awkward. She should know better than to come all the way to the bar near my house when she lives a ways away from me.
Giha Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Almost a month of NC. Tomorrow, when you think about it. Having some ups and downs. I've never missed anybody the way I miss her. But it's gonna be ok. Been going to the gym, picked up a new hobby and generaly have been working on myself. I get the occasional urge to call her, but I immediately remember there's no point. I also feel like she wouldn't want to hear from me, even though she offered me to stay in touch when we broke up. So I've got that holding me back. The constant dreams of her are also not so helpful. Toughest month of my life, but I'll pull through. It has to get better at some point, right?
Author Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 She dumped me because she could not handle the distance and since we're both in Universities in different countries there was no way to remedy that. I did not know how to deal with it and kept trying to contact her, not understanding why she went totally quiet on me. Here's my post on it. I am sorry to hear. Distance is a tough thing to deal with. I swear it will get easier but you have to allow it.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 It really sucks. We were planning to spend the entire summer together and I spend so much time preparing and got a job in the meanwhile so I could help with the bills while there and everything. I was happy to see her the few minutes before she dumped me, since it would only be a little bit longer before I could come over. It really hurts, from one day to the next this entire part of your life just disappears and I know a lot of people on here have had it more difficult but I'm still going to rant for a little bit right now because I should have been there having fun and instead I'm sitting here with a hole in my chest unable to sleep. That is an all too familiar feeling and it is awful
Author Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 NC for a month and a half now. I still care a lot about her, but it's been fine having her out of my life for now. I've been having a lot of fun being single. Saw her at a bar the other night. That was very awkward. She should know better than to come all the way to the bar near my house when she lives a ways away from me. Why do you think she came to the bar?
Author Sheilalou008 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Almost a month of NC. Tomorrow, when you think about it. Having some ups and downs. I've never missed anybody the way I miss her. But it's gonna be ok. Been going to the gym, picked up a new hobby and generaly have been working on myself. I get the occasional urge to call her, but I immediately remember there's no point. I also feel like she wouldn't want to hear from me, even though she offered me to stay in touch when we broke up. So I've got that holding me back. The constant dreams of her are also not so helpful. Toughest month of my life, but I'll pull through. It has to get better at some point, right? It does. Congrats on a month. I know it is difficult but it does get easier. As long as you do the work and have distractions it will be less and less painful.
Suave Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Almost a month of NC. Tomorrow, when you think about it. Having some ups and downs. I've never missed anybody the way I miss her. But it's gonna be ok. Been going to the gym, picked up a new hobby and generaly have been working on myself. I get the occasional urge to call her, but I immediately remember there's no point. I also feel like she wouldn't want to hear from me, even though she offered me to stay in touch when we broke up. So I've got that holding me back. The constant dreams of her are also not so helpful. Toughest month of my life, but I'll pull through. It has to get better at some point, right? If it helps at all, I ****ing love Agalloch and that is a sweet album 1
Suave Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Why do you think she came to the bar? Apparently her and her friends had been to a few and they were lame so they came to my local one. I hadn't been in a while but still...she had to have known that there was a chance I was there. Plus she is friends with my friends and they were with me. I went home with someone else though so no big deal 1
Giha Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 It does. Congrats on a month. I know it is difficult but it does get easier. As long as you do the work and have distractions it will be less and less painful. Thanks. Doing my best. If it helps at all, I ****ing love Agalloch and that is a sweet album Haha didn't think someone would recognize it here One of my favorite bands
Suave Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Haha didn't think someone would recognize it here One of my favorite bands You'd be surprised. I listen to everything from black metal to post hardcore and trip-hop. Just finished jamming some Bathory
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