napy666 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I am talking to 2 different guys and here's the rundown of both; Guy One; Age 20-21 Works Doesn't Drive Virgin Doesn't Drink, Smoke, or do Drugs Wants to get married Doesn't want kids Lives in Georgia Guy Two; Age 25 Doesn't Work or Drive Non-Virgin Doesn't Drink, do Drugs, and is trying to quit smoking Wants to get married Doesn't want kids Lives in Pennsylvania I don't know which guy I want to be with, been talking to guy one for a few weeks and guy two for 1 month.
mortensorchid Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 DO these things meet with your requirements? We know surface information about them but not you.
kassy Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 While checklist of deal breakers are useful, so is actually getting on... Have you talked to either on the phone or Skype if you can't physically date them? Guy 2 doesn't work... Is that because he is at university? What are you looking for? Your stats?
MrRightNow Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 How do you plan on dating either of these guys when you live in Cali? Are you planning on moving? LDRs almost never last, and neither of these guys seem like a catch anyway. You should try to meet someone in your area.
Author napy666 Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 How are neither of them a catch? And yes we've talked on the phone, skype, and I would have them come see me for a visit then see about moving.
ChessPieceFace Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 You'd seriously consider moving across the country to date someone? I'd rarely even leave my house for that. 4
kassy Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Wait... What!!!!!! You have talked to these men/still boys really for a few weeks and suddenly you are moving across country to date? I don't even know where to begin... Why? You don't even seem to like either of them much? What do you do for work? Is it realistic to relocate easily? How old are you? Why the rush? 1
MidwestUSA Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 You'd seriously consider moving across the country to date someone? I'd rarely even leave my house for that. Thanks, Chess, I needed that. Not the coffee on my iPad, tho! 1
justwhoiam Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Oh, glad to hear you thinned them out to two: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/long-distance-relationships/368342-long-distance-worth
TMichaels Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Oh, glad to hear you thinned them out to two: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/long-distance-relationships/368342-long-distance-worth This provides some context. Best, TMichaels 2
snowflakes88 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 You would move across the country to live with someone you don't even know? And with what resources? Aren't you living at home with your parents and not working?
HeavenOrHell Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Call me old fashioned but how about meeting and seeing if you click and have chemistry. I am talking to 2 different guys and here's the rundown of both; Guy One; Age 20-21 Works Doesn't Drive Virgin Doesn't Drink, Smoke, or do Drugs Wants to get married Doesn't want kids Lives in Georgia Guy Two; Age 25 Doesn't Work or Drive Non-Virgin Doesn't Drink, do Drugs, and is trying to quit smoking Wants to get married Doesn't want kids Lives in Pennsylvania I don't know which guy I want to be with, been talking to guy one for a few weeks and guy two for 1 month.
justwhoiam Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 This provides some context. Best, TMichaels This gives the thread a whole new meaning... napy666, you seem a bit too volatile, changing your mind in a matter of days, literally... and why is it that your only options are online?
edgygirl Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 This gives the thread a whole new meaning... napy666, you seem a bit too volatile, changing your mind in a matter of days, literally... and why is it that your only options are online? I think she's insecure with her conditions (back problems, lack of work, mental issues) and is going LD route to make someone fall for her before he has the chance to meet her, so her issues don't get in the way. Basically she's hiding behind the screen. She should work on herself and feel comfortable in her skin before trying to "meet" someone. 1
justwhoiam Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I think she's insecure with her conditions (back problems, lack of work, mental issues) Yeah... but I guess he's the one with back problems and unable to work for that reason.
edgygirl Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 This gives the thread a whole new meaning... napy666, you seem a bit too volatile, changing your mind in a matter of days, literally... and why is it that your only options are online? You're right. She has "depression and anxiety". Still - stuff to work on, and the probable cause why she's hiding behind the screen instead of trying to meet local guys.
Author napy666 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 Its going to be a while before I met these guys and yes we were going to meet and see where it goes from there. I don't see why this is wrong, a lot of people do long distance/out of state or country type of dating etc.
Author napy666 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 I have tried dating local guys in my area have not found the one.
TMichaels Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I have tried dating local guys in my area have not found the one. Look harder. Best, TMichaels
HeavenOrHell Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 An LDR would just add to your current problems, trust me, I would try and look for someone nearer to home.
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