Mana15 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 (edited) Hello, everyone! I just thought I'd write a little update around here because maybe there's someone who can relate to my situation and when a break up "knocks on the door", all help is needed, so someone might find my progress insightful. You can find all the info about my situation in this topic: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/391593-my-boyfriend-almost-3-years-broke-up-me-another-girl So, it's been 2 months after the break up and about 1 month and a half of NC (broken in the middle, because I thought I was ready to talk to him, but got back to NC right away). We broke up in late March because he was starting to have feelings for another girl. It hit me really hard and I think I really hit the bottom. During the first 2 weeks, I barely ate anything and I started crying randomly, sometimes even in the middle of the street. It was pretty awful. However, 2 months have passed and I'm feeling better day by day! I don't feel any pain in my chest for 2 weeks, which is something new for me (this is the 3rd time we've broken up and it's the first time my chest stopped hurting while we were apart). However, I admit that I've become a bit too quick-tempered, like all my pain went to my head, you know? I sometimes think about all the reasons my ex left me for someone else and I get pissed! And believe it or not, it's an anger I'm perfectly capable of controling a few minutes later! It makes me feel really proud of myself. The bad side is that now I get really angry at other people easily, but I believe it's a matter of time until everything goes back to normal. Since we broke up, I've reconnected to some old friends and even made new ones (I admit my social life kinda died while I was dating my now ex), and it feels great. However, I've been a bit hesitant in returning to some hobbies I love but shared with my ex (like watching certain TV shows I know my ex also watches, etc). I don't know if returning to those hobbies will set me back, but that's what I'm afraid of. However, again, I believe it's a matter of time until I feel like I'm ready. As for my ex, I don't think he's dating that girl yet. Maybe he's afraid of jumping into another relationship, or maybe he's still confused about his feelings. But honestly, I don't really care. Nowadays, I have more moments when I hate him than moments when I miss him. My self-esteem is slowly coming back and I'm beginning to feel like it really is his loss. This is pretty much all the progress I've done in 2 months. Of course, I'm not 100% through, but like I always say, I'm a work in progress. I'm slowly rebuilding my life I hope this topic helps anyone in the first stages of break up to realize that it IS possible to slowly get over him/her. Feel free to leave your opinion about anything I said or your doubts, if you have any about my break up process. Edited May 24, 2013 by Mana15 3
Skipper888 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 good on you! I am currently 4 months since my gf left me to pursue someone else! She kind of came back to me but not fully and i couldnt trust her again so she ended things again cause i made her mad.. pfft try snd work that one out! Anyways ive been 3 weeks with LC. and a week fully NC! she sent me a breadcrumb last week and i replied silly me and she ignored me so eff her. My life before her was awesome and it will be again after her. She blamed me for the reason we broke up but she never realised i gave up everything to be with her (LDR). My friends, family, social life, sport everything that made me who i am. I gave up these things to fly up to see her every weekend or 2nd weekend. She turned around and threw it back in my face and blamed me for not treating her right or whatever. eff her shes just a silly little girl who needs to realise what people do for her. She neglects her family, her true friends all to make other people happy.
Author Mana15 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 The truth is, from what I've seen, even though being left for someone else is one of the worst types of break ups, there's an higher chance of your ex wanting you back (because most of the times they just feel attracted towards the other person they left us for and left their feelings for us unresolved). However, I don't think they deserve another chance after what they've done. Leaving us for someone else is AWFUL. I wouldn't take my ex back right now, that's for sure. Who knows, maybe when I don't feel the pain anymore.
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