kidinfo1 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 So, I came here about a month ago posting about my girlfriend of 5 years who broke up with me out of nowhere and doesn't care about me blah blah blah. If you wanna see the whole situation, here are the threads: PT 1: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/388148-girlfriend-5-years-broke-up-me-doesn-t-care PT 2: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/388442-gf-5yrs-broke-up-me-doesn-t-care-reflections (seriously, read them, it may make you feel better about yourself). Anyway, I'm back with some more stuff to vent and maybe seek help with. While I am better than I was a month ago (following advice given to me here - working out, ordering clothes, etc etc), new drama keeps coming up that brings me back to square 1. For example, me and a few friends went on a trip to NYC. That was all fun and everything, but guess what? What I come home, my step sister (who is best friends with my ex) is having a ****ING DOUBLE DATE AT MY OWN HOUSE WITH MY EX. Needless to say I kicked them out, and my step sister has since moved in with her father. After my step sister finished screaming in my face how I need to get over it, and how my ex is ****ing other people and all that great stuff, my ex texts me saying she is seeing someone else and she'd appreciate it if I left her alone. The funny thing is, I have been (I'm on complete no contact, all social networking blocked, etc). Well since then I've blocked her number as well so we will see how that goes. Anyway, I'm posting this here so maybe someone can give me more tips or advice / just listen to me vent, because I know my friends are probably sick of hearing it (although they won't tell me). Thank everyone
SNH1993 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 LOL who does these kind of things? a double date at your own house? Hearing a lot of these stories leaves me little to no hope for dating in general 1
Chi townD Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Dude, I told ya and I warned ya that, that sh*t would happen in the other threads. I didn't think she would be that brazen to bring the guy to YOUR house! I hope that you continue to do the self improvements from the other threads. The Gym? Have you found a job? You traveled to NYC, what's the next adventure? Make a plan with your friends. SAve up the money and GO!! I want to hear all about it. Doing well in school? Are you signed up for the fall semester? Did you actually get new clothes? How the new hairstyle? What are your new hobbies? With your stepsister gone, healing should come more quickly. Keep on pushing forward. You hit a little bump in the road....but you'll be fine.
bitterruin Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Your ex is a no shame motherfu**** coming to your house with her new beau and texting YOU to leave HER alone. lololololol good riddance. You're doing fine and are better off without her
umirano Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Congratulations for having lost that crazy biatch?! I'd say it's time for a little celebration! Imagine, you were still with her, all that craziness hidden behind the sugarcoating? You'd be in for an even bigger surprise! You're lucky man!
Author kidinfo1 Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 (edited) Hey guys some of you may remember my posts but if you don't and want to get filled in here you go: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/395931-gf-5-years-broke-up-me-part-3-updates Anyway, the strangest thing happened to me tonight. I go to the gas station for some late night after bar snacks and who do I run into? The dreaded, devil ex gf of mine (seriously read my other posts you'll understand why I said that). I made a mistake and said "hey how's it going?" (I was/am gammered drunk, if I was sober I'd never in a million years talk to her [oh yeah, picked up drinking by the way, used to be 100% sober when were dating]). And she lit up like a light bulb and started talking to me saying "you look good" "I like your hair" blah (I took advice from my previous posts and started working out and I got a new hairstyle). Any I brushed everything off and said "hey I gotta go see ya" And walked back to my friends. When I get there, I revived a text from her saying "it was really nice to see you tonight". I promptly deleted the message and tried to push it out of my Mind. Now before you guys answer my question I stress that you read (or at least skim) the link I posts up there so you can see the history we have. She hurt me sooooooo bad that I should feel happy that I didn't text her back and everything, but for some ****ed up reason I almost feel bad or wrong for not answering. After everything she's put me through plus more (I've heard stories of how she's slutting around - something I didn't want to hear). Anyway, was I right in not answering her? I could never be just friends with this girl. We dated for 5.5 years and she was everything to me before she broke me, so honestly, **** being friendly. I still think about her everyday and I'm still trying to get over her (the Advice I've received here in the past totally helped) but stufff like this just makes everything harder. Any help here guys? Edited September 21, 2013 by kidinfo1
hurts2death Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 forget it , dont think about it.... you acted ok...
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Are you bragging about drinking now? Maybe that's whats making you paranoid. Not exactly a healthy coping skill.
Chi townD Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Anytime we run into our Ex's when we're not completely indifferent towards them sets us back a few pegs. That what happened with you. Good to hear that you're taking advice about making positive changes in your life. I'm sure you Ex isn't the only person to say that you look good and likes your hair. It really helps boost your self confidence. So, keep on making those positive changes.
fancy feast Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I think you handled it very well. Just keep doing what you're doing (I'm assuming that you drinking means you're going out and having a good time).
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