amymac Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 My husband was addicted to sex five years before I met him. His was involved with swinging, threesomes and had joined swinger clubs, etc... When I met him three years ago, we would occasionally watch porn and have sex. I see his sexual appitite for intense sexual fantasies, talking about our past experiences during sex, (this really gets him off),toys, adult book stores increasing. He even wants porn on 95% of the time we have sex now which I feel is lacking in intimacy in our marriage. Recently he ask for another man to join us in bed and for me to wear short skirts without underwear and flash strangers. I said no. Because he was a sex addict, should I be alarmed by this increase in pornography? Is this unhealthy for him? Is this leading up to invovement in his past swinging behavior? amymac Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted October 2, 2004 Share Posted October 2, 2004 WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION? Sex addiction is a way some people medicate their feelings and/or cope with their stresses to the degree that their sexual behavior becomes their major coping mechanism for stresses in their life. The individual often can not stop this sexual behavior for any great length of time by themselves. The sex addict spends a lot of time in the pursuit of his or her sexual behavior/fantasy or they may have a binge of sexual behaviors. WHY DO PEOPLE BECOME SEXUALLY ADDICTED? This is different for every sex addict but generally speaking there are biological, psychological, and spiritual reasons. The following is a short explanation of each reason why someone can become a sex addict. The biological addict is someone who has conditioned their body to receive endorphins and enkephlines (brain chemicals) primarily through reinforcing a fantasy state with the ejaculation that provides these chemicals to their brain. Psychologically, the need to medicate or escape physical, emotional or sexual abuse can demand a substance, the early addict finds the sex medicine usually before alcohol or drugs. Spiritually, a person is filling up the God hole in them with their sexual addiction. The addiction is their spirituality, it comforts them, celebrates them and is always available and present. Then there is the sex addict who can be two or even three of the above reasons. This is why a specialist in sex addiction is the best route for recovery with sex addiction. # WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX ADDICTION AND A HIGH SEX DRIVE? A person with a high sex drive is satisfied with sex. It's not about a fix for something; when their partner says "NO" it doesn't make them go off the handle thinking their partner is totally rejecting them and have to leave the house or act out in some other way. If you can relate to this the chances are there may be an addiction issue. You may benefit from any of the following books or tapes: Link to post Share on other sites
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