going through a bad breakup.

[crazy1234]

hi i'm going through a really bad breakup..my ex left me for someone else..the worst part is he lives in my road..so i saw them together few days back..it just hurts like hell..we dated for 2 years..lost contact for 3 years and then he started talking to me agn and made me blive that he wanted me back and that we'v meant to be..truth is he just used me cause he was lonely...and now he left me after only 4 months of dating for another girl..i'm afraid to go out and see him with that girl..what should i do?i dont have the words to express how much im filled with rage and anger and pain.

[aisuru]

You should go no contact, avoid going past his place, and take care of you.

 

If you have to, you move.

 

I'm dealing with this same issue myself as my ex lives about two blocks away.

 

Time to focus on the bad stuff about him so you can let it go and move on.

[crazy1234]

i know i have to..i stopped talking to him in every possible way..he made me do stuffs i didnt wanna do..convinced me that it'll only be us forever..he treated me like trash the last few days b4 he decided to tell me what was going on..even though i knew something was not right..and now after doing so much..he just falls for someone else..i dont wanna change my lifestyle for it..i cant..he works in an office and the weekend holidays just creep me out cause i know they'r probably screwing at his place..and i dont wanna go out on weekends.

[aisuru]

Forget him. Go out with your friends and have a great time.

 

You deserve better!!!

 

You will be okay.

[crazy1234]

i must..its just hard seeing with that girl coming and going to their places..i dont wanna go out on weekends..how m i suppose to take that?i get so mad when i look at him past my by house so heartlessly..anyways i'll b fine someday..bt hey..whats ur story?

[aisuru]

Oh you can find my story by clicking on my name and finding threads started by me. It's long but lots of twists and turns. HA.

 

So here is what you do. You heal yourself. Start dating again. And soon it won't matter.

 

He obviously is not concerned with you. It's hard being rejected, but you'll accept it and be okay.

[crazy1234]

m trying to find ur posts..lol..m new to this so yeah..and i'm more like the one man woman kinda girl..m not ready for another blow..so yeah

[aisuru]

Here is my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/390409-my-breakup-story-long

 

Not trying to whore it out, but make it easier for you to find.

[ChazzB]

if it is too hard for you i think you should move...

 

i am not a big fan of the "resume dating" immediately... if you have not healed past a certain point you will not enjoy it and risk making yourself and someone else miserable...

 

those second chances do hurt a lot ... but as Aisuru says, try to focus on yourself. Do things you like, try to have fun

[crazy1234]

i want to move from here..badly bt i have my family as well living with me..its not only my decision it requires..its all of ours..it is hard..and the question 'how could he?' just fills my heart with so much anger and disbelief everyday.But thankyou for you'r advice:).I guess i'm gonna have to live with it nomatter how much it hurts and try being happy.

[siankat]

i understand your rage crazy1234

having split up and then resumed years later when you think ok now we are wiser, know what we want, he's realised im the better option and is acting all cool and great with me til BAM!!!! Thanks for the ego stroke!!! what the....f*** you man and f*** me MORE how could i have been so stuupiid!!!! Who is that b**** what has she got i don't, (stalk stalk).

 

i GET it

However, you are not stupid, you did ur best with the information you had at the time, you cannot account for him and his s**** actions. You KNOW you are better off cos look at him...i mean just look at him!!! And she is not amazing, she is just a woman who dates crappy guys, that's all, who's brain doesnt have a filtering system for the bad ones.

All will be well for you if you handle this right. I vented by being a bit vengeful, nothing criminal or physically damaging, just, naughty Time for you to hit the gym...literally, hit a gym bag...many many times til you don't have the breath to even say his name!!

Edited May 22, 2013 by siankat

[crazy1234]

i understand your rage crazy1234

having split up and then resumed years later when you think ok now we are wiser, know what we want, he's realised im the better option and is acting all cool and great with me til BAM!!!! Thanks for the ego stroke!!! what the....f*** you man and f*** me MORE how could i have been so stuupiid!!!! Who is that b**** what has she got i don't, (stalk stalk).

 

i GET it

However, you are not stupid, you did ur best with the information you had at the time, you cannot account for him and his s**** actions. You KNOW you are better off cos look at him...i mean just look at him!!! And she is not amazing, she is just a woman who dates crappy guys, that's all, who's brain doesnt have a filtering system for the bad ones.

All will be well for you if you handle this right. I vented by being a bit vengeful, nothing criminal or physically damaging, just, naughty Time for you to hit the gym...literally, hit a gym bag...many many times til you don't have the breath to even say his name!!

Its just so heartless..i'll just hang in there..and try my best to hold myself together when i see them together pass my house right infront of me...i really was more stupid than anything.I do wanna join yoga..just release the anger slowly..and mayb someday down the line i'll forgive him and move on.thank you for you'r dearly advice:)