Giha Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 (This is my story - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/392063-vent ) So it's been 2 weekds since BU, 9 days of NC. This is unbelieveable agony. I miss her to death. I'm losing sleep. I'm eating a bit more than at first but not nearly enough. I still find myself doing the shoulda coulda thing..but a lot less. The small hope of having her back gradually vanishes. However I do feel I'm doing a bit better. I break down much less and sometimes I even feel, dare I say, good. I used that time to reflect and I decided to take a few steps to better myself. Here are a few things: I've got new clothes. I was never a guy who was really putting much thought into this kind of thing. I had some clothes I usually wore and I didn't changed it a lot. So it feels kinda good to mixed it up. I had time to think what are things in my personality I'd like to improve. I think patience is sometimes something I lack, even with her I feel I could've been a bit more patient. So I feel this is something I should and will improve. I started a gym membership for the first time in my life. Its pretty fun and I do feel better afterwards which is great. It also helps me get tired and fall asleep faster which I REALLY need right now. Found a course I want to take. It teaches the 3DSmax software which I always wanted to try so if it won't conflict with my work I'll sign up for it. Other than that I try to talk with friends more often and hang out with them as much as I can. It really does help. Her absence in my life is tremendous and there's nothing I can do about it. And I want to hope she would come around but I can't afford that. Honestly I don't know what I expect by writing all of this. I can't tell her all that so I just wanted to let somebody know. I hope I'm on the right track. I hope I'm not trying to move on too fast and too soon. 2
BustedUpInside Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I think all of your improvements sound really great. Don't be so hard on yourself! I think most people who were dumped in a relationship go through a post-break up period where they make all the changes that they think they should have done while dating. I think it is a nice way to start to recover because it gives you a sense of purpose and control that you may not have felt since the relationship ended. Just keep going with no contact and keep really listening to yourself. Make sure you don't deny your feelings. Just think everything out and try to make logical decisions. Also, this forum is really helpful. I don't always post my own threads, but the replies I give to other people are a model that I use for myself. I think, "If I am telling this person to do this, then maybe I should follow it too." Good luck on staying no contact and the healing process. It sounds like you are doing really well so far.
aisuru Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 Sounds like you're doing all the right things!!! Good for you. Keep doing what you're doing. Moments of loneliness and missing her will happen. It's to be expected. You feel that emotion, and move on. You sound very strong. Keep up the good work taking care of yourself.
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