Lied to

[underpants]

And he'll CONTINUE to fleece innocent women - unless someone FINALLY does the right thing and tells his wife.

 

And you DID it! You're my new hero...

 

Thanks. I've never been called a bitch so much.

 

100s of texts calling me a bitch.

 

Aaaahhhh, I guess he will always remember me as 'that bitch'.

 

That honest bitch.

[Trimmer]

I'd file a police report. I don't know the specific legal guidelines, but seems like that could be harrassment and threats. Start laying the groundwork NOW, in case any action needs to be taken later. If you do need to do something legal, having a paper trail and being able to show "as pattern of..." will make things lots easier.

 

Plus, once you file a report, it's possible that he might receive a visit from a bulky officer of the law who will informally set him straight as to the path he is choosing to go down. That may be as good as anything...

[underpants]

I'd file a police report. I don't know the specific legal guidelines, but seems like that could be harrassment and threats. Start laying the groundwork NOW, in case any action needs to be taken later. If you do need to do something legal, having a paper trail and being able to show "as pattern of..." will make things lots easier.

 

Plus, once you file a report, it's possible that he might receive a visit from a bulky officer of the law who will informally set him straight as to the path he is choosing to go down. That may be as good as anything...

 

He is not directly sending me those texts. This is what she conveyed to me.

I'm a crazy b, a psycho b, and evil b...etc... in every evolving scenerio I am cast as a b. This is what I'm understanding.

 

My first question to her was if he was capable of violence. She said he was. So there is that lovely nugget. Mr. Perfect indeed.

 

I'm just worried he is working up a rage. Gosh knows he can't have a core value like being accountable for his crap.

 

I may check in tomorrow to see how things have settled or maybe she will contact me after the atty visit.

 

In the meantime I am channeling my Samuel Jackson. A tiny 5'2" Samuel Jackson with my awesome truth gun.

 

I must have walked 10 miles today. Then I called my Dad to say thanks for being a good Dad and decent person.

[underpants]

Aaaaaahoooollllllle.

 

Why wait for round 2 when you can bring it.

 

Oh, here we go.

[underpants]

Pulling out the i'm a christian card. Now I have to slap the Jesus out of him....and I'm not even religious.

 

I feel like painting.

[underpants]

pew.... pew, pew...shots fired from my truthy gun.

 

Jerk. You don't mess with Unders.

[Zapbasket]

I'm curious: now that you know all his lies and his, truly, AWFUL character, when you look back to when you met him and your brief fling with him, do you spot any signs? Or was he completely airtight in terms of how he came across?

[underpants]

I'm curious: now that you know all his lies and his, truly, AWFUL character, when you look back to when you met him and your brief fling with him, do you spot any signs? Or was he completely airtight in terms of how he came across?

 

You know, I consider myself one that is not easily fooled. I did figure this out relatively quickly considering. I don't want to dwell too much because I honestly don't think I did anything wrong here.

 

He lied to me before he even met me. He lies in a relaxed, humble, quiet confident manner. He used ONE of his children as a lure in a portriat of a hard working single dad. I'd say he is very good at reading people. He is an opportunist, with a manipulative streak and a selfishness that has no boundaries. That is difficult to spot immediately. In short I was hoodwinked.

 

One of our first conversations was about a dog, it hooked me, because it was my story, and he would have no way to know that. The last time I saw him I stared at a bowl of dog food and my gut did something. Then the phone broke and my gut knew something was wrong.

 

Suffice to say, there are crappy people in the world and when you run into one, stick up for yourself, if you can help someone else, try, and get away.

 

How is that for wordy?

Edited June 18, 2013 by underpants

[BetrayedH]

Alright, I'll bite.

 

You gonna dish the skinny on this or just be a tease?

 

I guess it's true that you can't help but watch a trainwreck.

[Zapbasket]

 

One of our first conversations was about a dog, it hooked me, because it was my story, and he would have no way to know that. The last time I saw him I stared at a bowl of dog food and my gut did something. Then the phone broke and my gut knew something was wrong.

 

Well, I figured he must be a master manipulator to pull the wool over your eyes!

 

Now this quoted above seems to beg some unpacking--more wordiness, per se. I can't tell what you were picking up on. What was the story he told you about a dog? What triggered your gut feeling of something being wrong?

[underpants]

Alright, I'll bite.

 

You gonna dish the skinny on this or just be a tease?

 

I guess it's true that you can't help but watch a trainwreck.

 

He tried to contact me again, so I told her. Why on Earth he would think I would help him is beyond me. I gave facts and scraps of evidence I didn't think I needed to because they are irrelevent, but I'm not in her shoes.

 

He is still lying, and manipulating, its crazy.

 

I'm done. You can lead a horse to water and all that jazz.

 

Karma better punish my little good deed by bringing a good person into my world next time. You hear that Karma?

[BetrayedH]

He tried to contact me again, so I told her. Why on Earth he would think I would help him is beyond me. I gave facts and scraps of evidence I didn't think I needed to because they are irrelevent, but I'm not in her shoes.

 

He is still lying, and manipulating, its crazy.

 

I'm done. You can lead a horse to water and all that jazz.

 

Karma better punish my little good deed by bringing a good person into my world next time. You hear that Karma?

 

If karma exists, you've built up a surplus.

 

I'm certain that a better man is in your future. Note: that's not saying much.

[underpants]

If karma exists, you've built up a surplus.

 

I'm certain that a better man is in your future. Note: that's not saying much.

 

lol. When you find yourself in the gutter, you can reach for the stars.

[underpants]

Well, I figured he must be a master manipulator to pull the wool over your eyes!

 

Now this quoted above seems to beg some unpacking--more wordiness, per se. I can't tell what you were picking up on. What was the story he told you about a dog? What triggered your gut feeling of something being wrong?

 

I don't know about that. We all want to believe the good in people and that most people are good. I just choose to know it is out there, but if someone reveals themselves to be otherwise then that is great too. See you around.

 

I was done 'fixing' and 'understanding' f'd up people somewhere in my 20s.

 

I did check him out beforehand. I really don't want this to screw with my already pretty fragile trust system.

 

I can look back and see all kinds of stupid Scooby Doo stuff. He was quite the charmer and a master of misdirection. He upgraded his fiance's engagement ring as he was wooing me. Here! look at this sparkley thing while I kick you. Sicko.

 

I asked him if he had any animals. He said he had once had a dog, for several years and that he had to put that dog down. He could never get another dog because he loved that dog too much to replace her. He had all kinds of bull**** details about this dog. I was touched because that is my story. A'hole.

 

I woke up the last night I was with him (thought I heard a dog) got up to get some water and a bowl of dogfood was in the refrigerator, literally staring me in the face. I even asked about it, the next morning (Is there a dog?) and it did shock him a little, (what? here? now? no!) but he explained it away and all I heard was marbles. I had to go look twice because who in the world puts a bowl of dry dogfood in the refrigerator?

 

I think he knew if we saw each other again I was going to have some questions. Then he pulled some crap about his phone not working right. Then tried to call me with a different phone number. I had already made my discovery by then. This man was indeed a dirty dog.

 

This is so f'd up and stupid. Ahhhhh summer.

Edited June 19, 2013 by underpants

[underpants]

Hey, this is sad.

 

Let's all go give bad relationship advice.

[Trimmer]

Hey, Underpants - you doin' OK?

 

Very simple: getting manipulated by someone is not your fault. You can blame yourself, take responsibility, and think you should have been a more perfect person and have "seen it coming", but it's not your fault.

 

It doesn't make it suck any less, but don't add to it by getting down on yourself.

[underpants]

Hey, Underpants - you doin' OK?

 

Very simple: getting manipulated by someone is not your fault. You can blame yourself, take responsibility, and think you should have been a more perfect person and have "seen it coming", but it's not your fault.

 

It doesn't make it suck any less, but don't add to it by getting down on yourself.

 

Still not killed, Yay!

 

My lil' sis here loves a good post mortem, so I answered her question.

 

I want to thank that mystery dog, the only good soul in this whole mess.

Scooby solved this one.

 

I may just change my phone number so I can't be contacted further. I will feel better...safer, as more days go by.

[underpants]

This article gave me a chuckle

 

UK city council member reportedly claims to have fathered an alien child | Fox News

 

Maybe he can explain it to her like that.

 

[underpants]

New phone number, no way to call me. Then make me report you.

I'm not someone else's relationship police.

 

I think I'm done here. However I have a lovely note attached to my door should he slither his way back into my world.

 

It simply states 'Here are some words on a page'.

 

I think that is about all he deserves from me, and I found a use for that laptop to new printer test page.

 

Thanks all for helping me navigate my way through a real shatastic position.

[Ursa]

Unders, I am late on the scene. I was 'liking' posts right and left until I realized this all started a month ago! I'm so glad it seems to be resolved. I'm sorry this happened to you--but girl, I love your truth gun.

[underpants]

Unders, I am late on the scene. I was 'liking' posts right and left until I realized this all started a month ago! I'm so glad it seems to be resolved. I'm sorry this happened to you--but girl, I love your truth gun.

 

Thanks. It takes soooo much to provoke me to anger, but crap like this. Duuuude, not cool to hurt other people. It has been one of my lifetime gut check moments.

 

I never want to have to write a letter like that again.

 

Yesterday morning during one of my recent frequent walks a jogger running behind me, startled the heck out of me. He stopped to apologize, this on edge crap is for the birds. I'm working on no more of that thinking. I want to like people.

 

This morning my walk led me past a dead snake in the road. I thought ironic, or foreboding?

 

It is weird, but my boobs feel bigger. I measured, and they are. Maybe from being able to hold myself up straight instead of sort of doubled over in someone else's pain, but no, math, tape measures and experience. I swallowed something huge, digested it and came out of it a better person (I hope). Who needs plastic surgery when you live the truth. I guess the gut wrenching sadness of it all and the final poison leaving my system, along with my stumbles into my own righteous path in life ....ahhh'

[Furious]

Thanks. It takes soooo much to provoke me to anger, but crap like this. Duuuude, not cool to hurt other people. It has been one of my lifetime gut check moments.

 

I never want to have to write a letter like that again.

 

Yesterday morning during one of my recent frequent walks a jogger running behind me, startled the heck out of me. He stopped to apologize, this on edge crap is for the birds. I'm working on no more of that thinking. I want to like people.

 

This morning my walk led me past a dead snake in the road. I thought ironic, or foreboding?

 

It is weird, but my boobs feel bigger. I measured, and they are. Maybe from being able to hold myself up straight instead of sort of doubled over in someone else's pain, but no, math, tape measures and experience. I swallowed something huge, digested it and came out of it a better person (I hope). Who needs plastic surgery when you live the truth. I guess the gut wrenching sadness of it all and the final poison leaving my system, along with my stumbles into my own righteous path in life ....ahhh'

 

 

It takes courage to confront and stand up to a sleaze ball. These sleaze balls more often than not get away with their crap behaviour and if only more people had your courage and conviction these creeps wouldn't be getting away from hurting good people.

 

The world needs more "underpants".......

[BetrayedH]

Guess karma paid you back after all.

[96nole]

It takes courage to confront and stand up to a sleaze ball. These sleaze balls more often than not get away with their crap behaviour and if only more people had your courage and conviction these creeps wouldn't be getting away from hurting good people.

 

The world needs more "underpants".......

I see what you did there.

[Furious]

I see what you did there.

 

 

Yup....never trust someone who doesn't wear underwear.