Why is he doing this ?

[littlebaby]

Okay people here is the thing.. I posted something a while ago

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/long-distance-relationships/391503-breaking-up-plan-he-getting-back-his-ex

 

This.Long story cut short he was in contact with his ex.Best if you read that post. I wasnt sure on what was going on. I logged into his skype and I saw their last chat from a week ago. His ex told him she still has feelings but he told her he has none. For EVERYONE, that he is keeping his distance and he said he isnt chatting with me too. The thing is he tells me he loves me and Im his everything. Why is he doing this to her? Im not concerned about her but...is this waiting for me too? His feelings to just "dissapear" ? SHe told him she cant have any friend relationship with him but he said she can. That was the last conversation they had. Im 14 and he is 18 this is a long distance relationship thing.. should I be worried he doesnt really love me even thou he tells me that?

[TaraMaiden]

I hate to sound like your mother but you are way too young to even be giving a schytt.

 

You should be out with your buddies, going to soda bars, clothes-shop-hopping and talking about the latest fads in the pop/fashion world.

 

This is not the kind of thing to be stressing over.

 

Holy crap, at your age, I was out cycling and playing in the street with the other kids....!

[littlebaby]

You realize that he could / would be arrested for dating or ever saying anything sexual to you, right?

 

You are 14, talk to your parents about this.

 

If I wanted to I would have talked to them about it but it would be just stupid. I need opinion! Not to be critised because he is 18.

[littlebaby]

I hate to sound like your mother but you are way too young to even be giving a schytt.

 

You should be out with your buddies, going to soda bars, clothes-shop-hopping and talking about the latest fads in the pop/fashion world.

 

This is not the kind of thing to be stressing over.

 

Holy crap, at your age, I was out cycling and playing in the street with the other kids....!

 

I need opinion on the situation...

[TaraMaiden]

You don't even realise you've just had opinion.....

 

WAKE UP!!

Get real, honey!

 

Quit this crap and live your life, don't hang on to this mess!!

[KatZee]

I need opinion on the situation...

 

There is no situation. Move on. This is highly disturbing to me that an 18 year old who is of college age, is messing with junior high schoolers.

 

You think it's "stupid" to talk to your parents, this is your immaturity speaking. You really need to just hang with your peers and be a kid. You should not be with this person who still engages with an ex who has feelings for him.

 

You also have a toxic relationship with lots of fighting and he said, "don't you think you'd be better without me?" He's trying to passive aggressively leave the relationship.

 

Play with your friends, join some school sports, get some hobbies. Stop trying to be with this guy.

[littlebaby]

There is no situation. Move on. This is highly disturbing to me that an 18 year old who is of college age, is messing with junior high schoolers.

 

You think it's "stupid" to talk to your parents, this is your immaturity speaking. You really need to just hang with your peers and be a kid. You should not be with this person who still engages with an ex who has feelings for him.

 

You also have a toxic relationship with lots of fighting and he said, "don't you think you'd be better without me?" He's trying to passive aggressively leave the relationship.

 

Play with your friends, join some school sports, get some hobbies. Stop trying to be with this guy.

 

He said that once only... other than that he tells me I am his everything and that he really loves me .. do you think he really will try to get out of the relationship? ..

[TaraMaiden]

Sweetheart, it doesn't matter - what matters is that YOU SHOULD - !!

 

You're very young, impressionable, emotionally you fluctuate wildly - understandably! You're going through puberty!!

 

You cannot - and should not have to deal with this amount of aggro at your age!

 

Drop this guy like a poisonous snake.... He has no business cultivating a relationship with you - it's completely foolish, unwise and reckless.

[CarrieT]

He said that once only... other than that he tells me I am his everything and that he really loves me .. do you think he really will try to get out of the relationship? ..

 

He can't love you -- you are (as your name says!) a Little Baby. You are still a child in the eyes of the world and the law. He is trying to use you.

 

He will not get out of the relationship - he will try to use you. Please respect yourself enough to not let him do this.

 

Why doesn't your mother know about this? Why can't you talk to her?

[TaraMaiden]

Oh that's just great.

 

A 'littlebaby' being given advice by a self-professed 'pantie Dropper'.....!

 

[Toddbt12y1]

Dear.

 

 

Sometimes guys(or people) say things they do not mean. Like "love." He probably doesn't even have an understanding of love. I'm sure you do not either.

 

 

Think for a moment..how many people say that they "love" someone...only in the end to leave them and confess not to care for them? Many people do this. "Love," is such a free word amongst people that it lacks meaning.

 

Not being mean to you...as I know this hurts you still. But, this Guy is trying to bail. He doesn't care about you. You gotta look at actions...not words.

 

I won't mention his age...that's been done in. You and him haven't been doing anything sexual? I hope not.

 

Go live your life....in years to come he won't matter. Pain for now...happiness later on. One day, yes a real love.

[TaraMaiden]

If I wanted to I would have talked to them about it but it would be just stupid. I need opinion! Not to be critised because he is 18.

 

Why would it 'be just stupid' to talk to your parents?

Because you know damn well exactly what they would say, right.....?

 

You're not being criticised because he's 18 - HE'S being criticised because he's 18.

 

You are being advised to run as fast as you can in the opposite direction....

[littlebaby]

Dear.

 

 

Sometimes guys(or people) say things they do not mean. Like "love." He probably doesn't even have an understanding of love. I'm sure you do not either.

 

 

Think for a moment..how many people say that they "love" someone...only in the end to leave them and confess not to care for them? Many people do this. "Love," is such a free word amongst people that it lacks meaning.

 

Not being mean to you...as I know this hurts you still. But, this Guy is trying to bail. He doesn't care about you. You gotta look at actions...not words.

 

I won't mention his age...that's been done in. You and him haven't been doing anything sexual? I hope not.

 

Go live your life....in years to come he won't matter. Pain for now...happiness later on. One day, yes a real love.

 

Like I said its a long distance relationship and we havent seen eachother at all ever...thats why I was bothered when a month or two ago he told his ex that if he wanted me he would have been here already..that bothers me a lot..

[littlebaby]

There is NO RELATIONSHIP because he goes to jail if he actually ever sees you or for talking to you in a certain way.

 

Thats actually not true...nobody will tell him anything. There are a lot more couples our age. Wouldnt matter if he was over 18 too...there are 14 years olds with 28 year olds...nobody says a thing.

[TaraMaiden]

...thats why I was bothered when a month or two ago he told his ex that if he wanted me he would have been here already..that bothers me a lot..

 

That right there, was as good a signal to dump his ass, there and then.

[littlebaby]

That right there, was as good a signal to dump his ass, there and then.

 

I cant because he still tells me he loves me...he wants me to send him text messages so he can view them on his phone begore he falls asleep...dont you think that things like that mean he's inlove with me?

[TaraMaiden]

Thats actually not true...nobody will tell him anything. There are a lot more couples our age. Wouldnt matter if he was over 18 too...there are 14 years olds with 28 year olds...nobody says a thing.

 

Sorry dearest - that just goes to show how naive you are.

 

How many 14 years olds do you actually personally know who are in a deep and meaningful relationship with a 28-year-old???

Please.....

[TaraMaiden]

I cant because he still tells me he loves me...he wants me to send him text messages so he can view them on his phone begore he falls asleep...dont you think that things like that mean he's inlove with me?

 

No.

He likes that you're in love with him.

 

It boosts his ego.

 

If he was so in love with you, why would he even be thinking of his ex-....?

[littlebaby]

Sorry dearest - that just goes to show how naive you are.

 

How many 14 years olds do you actually personally know who are in a deep and meaningful relationship with a 28-year-old???

Please.....

 

I know only one. But that is enough... so are you saying he is lieing to me?

[TaraMaiden]

In all probability.

 

If there's another woman on the scene, he will in all probability be lying. Probably to both of you.

 

The bottom line is, that you are too young to be in a relationship.

 

Talk to your mum.

[littlebaby]

In all probability.

 

If there's another woman on the scene, he will in all probability be lying. Probably to both of you.

 

The bottom line is, that you are too young to be in a relationship.

 

Talk to your mum.

 

That is impossible. He told her he doesnt feel anything for her and he hasnt for a LONG time.. plus he tells me Im the only one in his heart and there is no one else...the only thing I wanted to know is why he is telling her he doesnt feel anything for anyone..

[Toddbt12y1]

28 year old should be jailed.

 

His telling his ex what he did....sums it up. He doesn't care about you.

 

He is passive aggressive. He won't break-up. He'll play you for a while; string you on.

 

Ofc, he will not go to see you...he isn't dumb. He's 18. You are being naive. He knows this. He might stick around to get dirty pics or sextexting....I don't trust his motives.

 

 

Just because someone wants you to send them a message before going to bed...doesn't mean that they love you.

 

Can you do something? Ask him to define love...if he honestly cares for you(he'll lie).

 

Can you define love for us dear? I'm serious.

[Toddbt12y1]

That is impossible. He told her he doesnt feel anything for her and he hasnt for a LONG time.. plus he tells me Im the only one in his heart and there is no one else...the only thing I wanted to know is why he is telling her he doesnt feel anything for anyone..

 

 

 

People tend to lie...that's why...

[littlebaby]

28 year old should be jailed.

 

His telling his ex what he did....sums it up. He doesn't care about you.

 

He is passive aggressive. He won't break-up. He'll play you for a while; string you on.

 

Ofc, he will not go to see you...he isn't dumb. He's 18. You are being naive. He knows this. He might stick around to get dirty pics or sextexting....I don't trust his motives.

 

 

Just because someone wants you to send them a message before going to bed...doesn't mean that they love you.

 

Can you do something? Ask him to define love...if he honestly cares for you(he'll lie).

 

Can you define love for us dear? I'm serious.

 

What exactly do you mean by "His telling his ex what he did....sums it up. He doesn't care about you."

[Toddbt12y1]

Like I said its a long distance relationship and we havent seen eachother at all ever...thats why I was bothered when a month or two ago he told his ex that if he wanted me he would have been here already..that bothers me a lot..

 

 

That says it all...