mauserman Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I'll put this here first for some backstory.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/381813-tough-situation-don-t-want-blow So she did it, broke up with the guy and moved back in with her parents. Since then we've "technically" been in a relationship (she acknowledges that she's my girlfriend and that she's all mine). We've talked and gotten to know each other better, and I've held off sex because I didn't want to rush anything. Everything seemed to be going well but two things happened recently that raised a red flag. One is I found out she smokes occasionally. I told her that I don't like that..and it really seemed to upset her. But then she came around and said none of it mattered because she would change for me. The next thing is that I can't seem to get her alone on a date with me. I know it sounds ridiculous, in a "relationship" with a girl who you haven't been on a date with...but in her defense she is extremely busy. I just don't know whats going on, but then I do. Maybe I'm too afraid to acknowledge it because I really like her? I feel like she is a great girl for me, yet then sometimes I doubt it because I'm confused on her feelings..she has come out and blatantly said that she's fallen for me. But then when I do things like ask her out she's too busy. I'm starting to realize more and more I'm sure I'm being rebounded right now (yes like most of you said). Just seems like a girl who is so in to you would want to make time for you. Or am I wrong because I see her at work 4 days a week? I have no idea what to do. Sometimes I think she is crazy for me, other times I think she is just using me for attention. And regarding my feelings of her, my head says one thing and my heart says another. She really is amazing and I love having any time with her. But there are some things that I'm finding out about her that I don't really enjoy. I honestly felt today like I should tell her I'm not sure if this is going the way I wanted it to go..but then I realized I've already been hooked and this has become harder because I do have feelings for her AND we work together and that's going to be awkward. Should I give it more time and push for more time together by ourselves? Is she just not quite ready because she just got out of that relationship? I just don't want either of us to get hurt but it seems like that's going to be inevitable. Really thought this would work with her because there was just an unbelievable amount of attraction and chemistry. I've never experienced anything like it. And part of me really thinks it will still be good... I don't know how to bring any of this up to her. I will say that I care about her regardless of our relationship issues, and I want what's best for both of us. She's a great person, and a great friend. I'd like to think she'd be a great partner as well. Just don't know what to do
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