Buttercup84 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Some of you know my story of liking this guy called Mark http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/390475-little-rant-ahead Anyway, he mentioned he does OLD so I looked for him hehe. And I found his profile, as I wanted to find out more about him and remember what he really looks like. I know you can't tell a lot from someone's profile, but yeah.. I do not know him that well of course, and everyone tells me that he is just a very nice guy. I guess I am more outgoing than him, he seems shy . I love books but he prefers "facts". I mean, I love learning too so that is not bad. On his profile it say's he loves cooking, camping, outdoors, trying new restaurants etc. Which I do too. I think what is really important is that we have the same morals and how we get on, how we want a relationship to be. Do you think you have to have a lot in common, or just a few things ? I do want a man who would go camping with me and who would be active. Plus we have similar cultural background as well.
soccerrprp Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 My experience, and I mean all of them, reveals that such commonalities are most important when vetting/weeding out potential partners. My experience is entirely OLD. As it is to have common interests, they do help with initiating conversation, but MY experience has been that the conversations soon go beyond the common to more interesting and natural topics as the evening or day evolves. You discover much more while engaged in natural conversation and oftentimes you discover that there are differences that need to be exsposed and discussed. I am not a firm believer that the MORE you have in common, the better. There is a level of commonality that is required, but then if people are TOO much alike, I find that to be not wholly satisfying. I want to meet someone that has enough different that I am able to grow, expand, venture outside of my comfort zone. But, in the end, there needs to be a few CORE values that you both share. Values that should not and cannot be compromised. View of the world, view on race, view on how you discipline your children, religion, etc. 1
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