may_girl Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Hi LS'ers I have been broken up with my ex for almost 3 months now. He left me for someone else basically. I have gone through all the fazes; hurt, anger, denial, acceptance - I feel now that I am finally reaching a point where it is becoming easier. However I am having an issue. I know my ex's facebook password and although I tell myself not to log on, the temptation becomes far too great. I want to stop doing this, it is like a drug. When I log in I can see who he has searched for, and seeing my name there occasionally (I have removed him as a friend though), it gives me false hope that he's thinking of me, when most likely he is just curious. How do I get out of this ridiculous habit? Someone told me once I see something hurtful on there I will stop, but he doesn't use facebook to post anything - just to search people. About 40% of the time I can see it is me who he is searching and finding that out gives me a buzz. I want this to stop - any help will be gratefully received
aeren944 Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Hey there! I did the same thing a long time ago to my ex. It was stupid and crazy. I just changed her password to something generic, and then, when she couldn't log in, she clicked the Forgot Password thing and it made her reset her password. I don't know... maybe I got lucky. But yeah, that's how I stopped it. Cold turkey.
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Honestly, the prospect of finding my ex's password and seeing all of her activity frightens me. I hid her updates on Facebook for a reason. I would just become overwhelmed with that. Even though I check her account from time to time, it still hurts to see the occasional "like" or comment on things I suppose I wish she didn't "like" or comment on.
fiftyofsomethin Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Don't even get me started on chat messages too... Ignorance is bliss sometimes, people.
FlockaFlex Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 How the hell do you tell who you are searching for on Facebook? I had no idea you could do that 2
CompleteFailure Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 If you really want to stop you should do what that other poster said and change the password. Don't even get me started on chat messages too... Ignorance is bliss sometimes, people. Tell me about it. I got the luxury of going through text messages(with permission) and all I wanted to do was scream, cry, vomit. 1
Author may_girl Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 How the hell do you tell who you are searching for on Facebook? I had no idea you could do that It's under your activity log - at the list on the left side scroll down, 'search' is underneath the 'questions' option
Author may_girl Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Hey there! I did the same thing a long time ago to my ex. It was stupid and crazy. I just changed her password to something generic, and then, when she couldn't log in, she clicked the Forgot Password thing and it made her reset her password. I don't know... maybe I got lucky. But yeah, that's how I stopped it. Cold turkey. You're probably right. I am worried to do that though, I don't want him to know I have been on there.
venuss Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 It's under your activity log - at the list on the left side scroll down, 'search' is underneath the 'questions' option OMG!! I didn't knew that. Now I want to get hold of my ex's account!!!! And it's crazy to see how many times I have searched for him, I thought it was normal but it looks more than normal!!!
thefooloftheyear Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Hi LS'ers I have been broken up with my ex for almost 3 months now. He left me for someone else basically. I have gone through all the fazes; hurt, anger, denial, acceptance - I feel now that I am finally reaching a point where it is becoming easier. However I am having an issue. I know my ex's facebook password and although I tell myself not to log on, the temptation becomes far too great. I want to stop doing this, it is like a drug. When I log in I can see who he has searched for, and seeing my name there occasionally (I have removed him as a friend though), it gives me false hope that he's thinking of me, when most likely he is just curious. How do I get out of this ridiculous habit? Someone told me once I see something hurtful on there I will stop, but he doesn't use facebook to post anything - just to search people. About 40% of the time I can see it is me who he is searching and finding that out gives me a buzz. I want this to stop - any help will be gratefully received Where is it written that you have to have a FB account to live a normal life? Want to solve the problem? Dump your account. Now you can find something way more productive to do with your time. You obviously lack the self control to keep from looking so you are just hurting yourself in the process. Look, I dont mean to be harsh but you are in a healing process. Dont let this set you back from moving on...Its silly really.... TFY
Author may_girl Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 OMG!! I didn't knew that. Now I want to get hold of my ex's account!!!! And it's crazy to see how many times I have searched for him, I thought it was normal but it looks more than normal!!! Trust me - DON'T! This is the issue I have and it's a vile situation to be in! Knowing whether they are searching for you or not searching for you is so frustrating and annoying. 2
Author may_girl Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 Where is it written that you have to have a FB account to live a normal life? Want to solve the problem? Dump your account. Now you can find something way more productive to do with your time. You obviously lack the self control to keep from looking so you are just hurting yourself in the process. Look, I dont mean to be harsh but you are in a healing process. Dont let this set you back from moving on...Its silly really.... TFY Yeah, i agree. I have stopped using facebook as much, and the checking of his account is reducing - believe me I used to look multiple times in one day. Now it's maybe just once. I had a run in with some of the emails he sent to the girl he left me for the other day...It has made me feel less love and more hate towards him. Hopefully this is the start to the process of moving on and stop looking.
venuss Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Trust me - DON'T! This is the issue I have and it's a vile situation to be in! Knowing whether they are searching for you or not searching for you is so frustrating and annoying. I dumped him 6 weeks back, want to connect, you may read here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/388627-i-want-contact-him and don't have a clue what's up with him!! So that was tempting but I understand what you mean and you are right.
cdt76 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I'm confused. You have to have access their account to find out if they have searched for you correct?
Author may_girl Posted April 24, 2013 Author Posted April 24, 2013 I'm confused. You have to have access their account to find out if they have searched for you correct? Yes, that's true. I know the password to my ex's facebook, hence how I know I have been searched for
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