OddJob123 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 So I started another thread here that details my situation and what I've been going through: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/386343-my-wife-her-g-i-g-s My question now is this.. The man my wife is sleeping with is married, and I've been talking to his wife on facebook. Our conversations have been to purely support each other through this. But it got me thinking about the possibility of forming a relationship in the future... I am not seriously considering this right now, but my crazy brain just likes to think of scenarios. Right now our conversations are purely innocent, but I do talk to her at least once a day on facebook. We have never met in person, and she does not want to meet in person until her divorce is final. Again, I am not even remotely considering this right now, but the concept did enter my head, and I wanted to find out how common it was for this to happen? For both the people cheated on to end up getting together? We are obviously going to at least be friends after all this is done.
Spark1111 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 probably not that unusual, I would think. Shania Twain comes to mind. Google her story. Her H had an affair with her personal assistant. this story disproves that looks have anything to do with choosing an affair partner. Shania and her personal assistant's spouse wound up married and have been together for quite some time. the APs? Went Pssst.... 2
2sure Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 It seems to occur to many BS but I see it more often from men on here. I remember one here that did. I think once you get past some of the crisis, its not as attractive to really continue it by stirring it up that way. 2
ComingInHot Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 There is actually another thread running right now where the BH's Wife cheated on him w/her best friends H (I think I got that right)*. Anyway, the two BS's are D so far (of course anything could change) but I think it'd be sweeeeeet if the two betrayed got together and lived happily ever after!! 1
jnel921 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I dont recommend that. I talked to my H's good friend as it was his GF my H screwed. We had many conversations about them. We were supportive of each other and wished each other well after all of the decisions were made. If I had decided not to reconciled with my H why consider this guy? To get back at everyone. The situation is disgusting already. Why make it worse? I am sure there are other people out there for you. There is no real foundation here.
Author OddJob123 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 If it were to ever happen, it would definitely have NOTHING to do with revenge. In fact, I hold no personal vendetta against the douche bag that is screwing my wife. It's not like they would be having sex without my wife's consent. I definitely put all the blame on her. And I won't lie, there is definitely some attraction on my end towards this woman. Right now it is completely innocent, and will be for a long time (Or perhaps forever). I have no idea if she has any attraction towards me. She has stage 4 ovarian cancer, and her husband just left and cheated on her, so I doubt she is even THINKING about those possibilities. I am the one always initiating the conversations with her on facebook. I was just trying to get an idea of how common it is, that's all. Thanks guys!
underwater2010 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I have never heard of it happening. However, the BH and I talked quite a bit in the first few weeks. He suggest meeting up a few times, but I always blew him off. I hear from him about once every two months now just checking to see how things are going. I am fairly sure that it crossed his mine at one point, just like I felt it was getting to close so I backed way off. All in all, I don't think that you are abnormal or twisted in any kind of way. I just don't recommend it. The big thing that you have in common right now is the fact that your spouses cheated with each other. Talk about a memory that would fill a new relationship for some time to come.
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