Princeton Alumna Urges Women to Snag Husband on Campus Before Graduating .athoughts?

[Krieger]

I though it was interesting read hear are the cliff notes I will post a link to the whole thing down below .

 

 

By SUSAN A. PATTON

Guest Contributor

Published: Friday, March 29th, 2013

Advice for the young women of Princeton: the daughters I never had

 

 

Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out — here’s what you really need to know that nobody is telling you.

 

 

For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.

Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate. Yes, I went there.

 

 

Men regularly marry women who are younger, less intelligent, less educated. It’s amazing how forgiving men can be about a woman’s lack of erudition, if she is exceptionally pretty. Smart women can’t (shouldn’t) marry men who aren’t at least their intellectual equal. As Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market. Simply put, there is a very limited population of men who are as smart or smarter than we are. And I say again — you will never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.

 

 

Of course, once you graduate, you will meet men who are your intellectual equal — just not that many of them. And, you could choose to marry a man who has other things to recommend him besides a soaring intellect. But ultimately, it will frustrate you to be with a man who just isn’t as smart as you.

 

 

Here is another truth that you know, but nobody is talking about. As freshman women, you have four classes of men to choose from. Every year, you lose the men in the senior class, and you become older than the class of incoming freshman men. So, by the time you are a senior, you basically have only the men in your own class to choose from, and frankly, they now have four classes of women to choose from. Maybe you should have been a little nicer to these guys when you were freshmen?

 

 

I think she is right on the money It is hard to meet woman/men outside of college because your busy working and friends move and get married .

 

 

 

On top of that as you get older your standards go up and up making it even harder to find someone to spent the rest of your life with.

 

 

 

As I am going back to college at 29 I know i need to get back in the dating game b4 I am too old and there are no good woman left.

 

 

the link if you want to read the whole thing. http://thedailyprincetonian.wordpress.com/2013/03/29/opinion-letter-to-the-editor-march-29-2013/

Edited April 3, 2013 by Krieger

[JuneJulySeptember]

Sis went to an Ivy League school as did a ton of my friends, and that's common practice.

 

Chances are greater than not that the guys there will make something pretty decent out of themselves.

 

Not to mention the legacies who already have trust funds before they even step on campus.

 

Smart move if you're an attractive and charismatic gal.

[tuxedo cat]

I think her argument makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately it's rare these days for guys to marry their college sweethearts--not unheard of but rare. So even if you are able to snag a desirable guy while in school, there's no guarantee that he'll marry you.

[StanMusial]

For more comments.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/383307-she-has-interesting-perspective

[tuxedo cat]

Might make more sense to invest in building an active social network while in school that you tap into once you've graduated to meet good mates at an age when men will be more likely to settle down.

[Pompeii]

Just because one goes to an Ivy League college does not make them extraordinarily intelligent. I've witnessed this enough quite a bit. I know several Princeton graduates and while ambitious, they seem to be of the same caliber of men and women who go to other top tier schools such as University of Chicago, Virginia, and Cal Berkeley. She seemed to forget about M.I.T. which could power its own campus if it used the neural activity of the students going there. If this woman came to my campus and said that Princeton grads were the smartest in the country, she'd be laughed right out of Cambridge.

 

Many Ivy League grads do make something out of themselves, that should be the message. To marry a person who actually has something going for them, not necessarily a Princetonian. A lofty ideal, yes. But unrealistic given the desires of our current generation for NSA hookups and general avoidance of relationships during the 20s.

[StanMusial]

Just because one goes to an Ivy League college does not make them extraordinarily intelligent. I've witnessed this enough quite a bit. I know several Princeton graduates and while ambitious, they seem to be of the same caliber of men and women who go to other top tier schools such as University of Chicago, Virginia, and Cal Berkeley. She seemed to forget about M.I.T. which could power its own campus if it used the neural activity of the students going there. If this woman came to my campus and said that Princeton grads were the smartest in the country, she'd be laughed right out of Cambridge.

 

I don't know about intelligent but "hooked up" is probably accurate. Most parents would want their daughters to marry into a wealthy or connected family if they had a preference.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Just because one goes to an Ivy League college does not make them extraordinarily intelligent. I've witnessed this enough quite a bit. I know several Princeton graduates and while ambitious, they seem to be of the same caliber of men and women who go to other top tier schools such as University of Chicago, Virginia, and Cal Berkeley. She seemed to forget about M.I.T. which could power its own campus if it used the neural activity of the students going there. If this woman came to my campus and said that Princeton grads were the smartest in the country, she'd be laughed right out of Cambridge.

 

Depends which Ivy.

 

Harvard, Yale, Princeton. You have to be pretty exceptional to get in there. Chances are that you will make something of your life.

 

BTW, I went to one of the schools on your sub-list. So I won't totally discredit your point!

[Pompeii]

Depends which Ivy.

 

Harvard, Yale, Princeton. You have to be pretty exceptional to get in there. Chances are that you will make something of your life.

 

BTW, I went to one of the schools on your sub-list. So I won't totally discredit your point!

 

Oh I know, trust me. There are some very exceptional people at Harvard. However, I also know several people who got in solely because of connections. I'd say everyone at Harvard is at least smarter than the average bear and will probably end up doing something extraordinary with their lives in the coming years.

[tuxedo cat]

Depends which Ivy.

 

Harvard, Yale, Princeton. You have to be pretty exceptional to get in there. Chances are that you will make something of your life.

 

BTW, I went to one of the schools on your sub-list. So I won't totally discredit your point!

 

Princeton and Yale notoriously accept a number of well-off "legacy" students, so it's not always necessary to be brilliant. Look no further than George W. Bush.

Edited April 3, 2013 by tuxedo cat

[Star Gazer]

So, she's really just suggesting women go to college for an MRS degree?