StanMusial Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Princeton mom: Women have a shelf life - Apr. 1, 2013
TouchedByViolet Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I disagree with the term "shelf-life." Love can and does happen at all ages.
GorillaTheater Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I had some difficulty following her argument, and whether it was more about "shelf life" or her regret over not snatching up a hot Princeton guy while she had the chance instead of the *&%$@! she's now divorcing. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Yeah ok. Good luck finding a dude to get married right out of college these days. 4
ltjg45 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I find that article a pain to read. I know her ex-husband is happy to escape from that nightmare. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Yeah ok. Good luck finding a dude to get married right out of college these days. IME, it's the women who don't want to commit right after college. Not that people should be getting married after college these days. Most college grads are too broke to afford a car payment, let alone a spouse and (possibly) kids... 1
FitChick Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 She seems to think that women who marry Princeton men never get divorced.
candie13 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 It is true that generally speaking, it is difficult for highly intelligent men to find highly intelligent women to marry - and vice versa. In the end, one of the two will have to be smarter than the other, so what is it that matters in the end? In the eyes of the Princeton mom, it's the Princeton name tag that matters. But that's nothing but that, a name tag, it is no guarantee for a high IQ, bright career or even successful professional life. It is more reassuring to have it, than not to have it, I agree with that. The only thing that I totally agree with is that women who get a fantastic education do seem to be very obsessed with their careers and take too little time for themselves, their hobbies ... and ultimately their emotional lives. And indeed, women in their 30s will most likely feel more pressured to find a mate, because their biological clock is ticking and the social pressure goes up. But this is where emotional and spiritual maturity go into place. Many of those women will give in to the social pressure and start "hunting" for a husband. The rest of them - those wise enough not to give in to their own fears - will continue living their lives, making sure that they are happy and fulfilled, and keeping their eyes open, in case they happen to bump into the man of their lives. A good woman, just like a good man, is something extremely precious and will not remain unmatched.
soccerrprp Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 The article smells of intellectual snobbery and naivete befitting a person who does not understand the complexities of relationships anymore than anyone else. She wants to believe and claim that the dissolution of her marriage was due to intellectual disparity. She makes no other assertion, thus having us believe that her frustration with her husband's lack of intellectual equivalence is why it didn't work out. I suspect much more than that. Marriage in and just out of college? What guy would go for that? How simplistic and ignorant of social and demographic dynamics. If so, she is also suggesting that women "put-out" earlier to snag that guy still in or just graduated. Even Ivy-league guys like sex, fooling around, sampling (my apologies to the ladies). 1
candie13 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I mean, in the end, this article is a no brainer - girls, marry early and aim for the Ivy League sort of men. The "why" behind this statement is very poor: the Ivy League men are smarter and you avoid "the 30's rush". Life rarely goes as planned and as we all know it, going to the Ivy Leagues doesn't guarantee a high IQ, only a decent education, nothing less, nothing more.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I think the best advice you can give is to say "marry the richest man who will agree to marry you". Set a minimum income level that you will accept and don't go below that. Never settle for less. Men will either work harder to make more money or they won't get married or have families of their own. It's about making a better society...
Drseussgrrl Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Guess I better let security make my titties tingle then. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Guess I better let security make my titties tingle then. You can have higher standards. You can aim for a rich man who also is very attractive and sexy to you. Just not a sexy average wage or poor man. It's for the good of society.
candie13 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 high paying jobs are usually risky. it's not just about having a high paying job, it's about being able to keep it, get another one just as well paid if not better, performing.... oh, wait, that has to do with the professional life, not personal and certainly not linked to being a good partner. how about a high paying job, but a cheater? A high paying job but a women-beater? A high paying job but a drunk? A high paying job but a gambler? Think again, man, usually high paying jobs attract lots of temptation and ask for a very high price: those people have little free time, are exhausted most of the times, take no holidays, travel like hell and have horrible hobbies, as they need to cope with the stress of their high paying jobs... living with those men / women is no walk in a park, if you think any of them have it easy. 1
Author StanMusial Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 I had some difficulty following her argument, and whether it was more about "shelf life" or her regret over not snatching up a hot Princeton guy while she had the chance instead of the *&%$@! she's now divorcing. I picked up on that as well. Definitely projecting her on regrets onto the situation. I see her point in a way about being surrounded by eligible singles though. It doesn't have to be Princeton but any college really.
mesmerized Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I picked up on that as well. Definitely projecting her on regrets onto the situation. I see her point in a way about being surrounded by eligible singles though. It doesn't have to be Princeton but any college really. A lot of my friends married their very smart eligible classmates that are now making the big bucks and at least a third of them are divorced now in their mid/late twenties. And I'm sure more is about to come. I wish life was like what disney teaches us but its not! 2
iris219 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I think she's giving good advice. If you're looking to settle down, start looking for the right guys in the right places as early as possible. It's not because women have shelf lives though. It's because as you get older everyone is paired up and you will have a hard time finding normal, single people. This goes for guys and girls (but more so for girls). 1
outsidethebox Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Guess I better let security make my titties tingle then. I have no idea what this means but I appreciate it.
Revolver Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I always said women who want marriage/children that the best time to find a good man was College. It only gets harder after that, they're was a thread with an article on this months ago. The problem is many women suck at finding guys who have potential, they only can pick guys who are finished products/Obvious Ones who every woman wants
grkBoy Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I think the only women who have a "shelf life" are those who definitely want their own birthed children (not adopted). Other than that, this woman in the article is full of it. I'll also add that when you're a man in your 30s, the young 20something hottie isn't a done deal. I've known them when I got my head in order, even had a few into me...but I saw how much drama their lives carried. I like women my own age because they connect with me mentally and in terms of lifestyle. Plus, thanks to makeup, exercise, fashion, and health...many women look amazing all the way up into 50. Forget this "over the hill" by 30 or 40 BS...unless you want some young "smooth skin" girl. Only things I ever felt that "ugly up" an older woman is when she chops her hair short, gains weight, or dresses horribly. Men are in the same boat btw. Gray hair is only "sexy" if you're staying in shape, doing well in life, dressing well, and living a life of interest. Gaining 100 extra pounds, going bald, and dressing like a slob with a "tv and couch" lifestyle won't land you good looking intelligent women. 1
candie13 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 lol, I was great at spotting guys with potential, spent 10 years with 2 of them. the problem with the first one was that I was too young - 21/22, and the second one... wasn't finished good, not even after 7 years of relationship... guess that leaves me right in the middle of the lion cage, doesn't it ?!
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